“A woman is like a cat. All her charm, charm, magnetism are manifested in to the fullest only when she walks on her own! "
Krutyakova N.A.
Greetings to You, my dear! Yes, I am addressing you, dear reader. With your permission, for a more confidential conversation, I propose to go to You. ;)
I want to warn you right away, we will talk about healthy "indifference". Our apathy has nothing to do with indifference, insensitivity, inhumanity, rudeness, habalism.
Woman is a storehouse of inexhaustible strength. And therefore, you should know that you are an omnipotent nature. And the magnitude of the power of your strength depends on how brightly the fire of femininity burns in your being. If masculinity prevails over femininity, insurmountable obstacles appear in your path. Your hands are discouraged. The relationship seems to be going downhill. But you decide everything yourself, your choice. And the choice should be natural. Like this?
You can often choose. Do you want to control all aspects of your life, the life of loved ones, your beloved man? Or do you want to relax, trust the universe and live peacefully, joyfully, give love and lightness to all living things?
So, basically, many women choose total control. Disguising it as all kinds of care, sacrifice, a strong character... This is the basis of their failures and the mercilessness of life. After all, being guardians, a source feminine, they choose the masculine manifestation of their inner world. And the result is a distorting mirror that distorts the beautiful reality. Turning it into an incomprehensible and scary image.
You ask me: “What does the indifference have to do with it? And why exactly this word? "
This word of folklore speaks for itself very succinctly. Indifference - in our case with you, this is absolute trust, obedient to the Ego, as well as respect for the choice of another person. Also, female indifference is ignoring the manifestations of her Ego, this is wisdom and one of the main components of the moment of seduction of a man. With its help, you can get all the blessings of the world at your feet. You can live a magical life that your man will build for you. As you can see, female indifference is the most useful thing. He needs to be practiced and taught to others. Then happy people will become a thousand times larger.
Everyday picture
“A man who is in a relationship with a woman who voluntarily takes on masculine responsibilities involuntarily becomes feminine. And accordingly, it behaves the same way. And this is the choice of a woman "
Sorry for such a harsh statement. But let's face it. What are we doing in our life, neglecting indifference?
At the beginning of a relationship with a man, or at the beginning family life you show yourself as light, defenseless, feminine, kind, understanding. Just a dream, not a woman! And it is with this that you provoke a man to manifest the masculine principle. He strives to conquer you, charm, endear you, seduce, protect, etc. With all this, you do not pry into his affairs, do not control his leisure time, do not insist on attention to yourself. Of course, you don't dictate the rules of the game to him. You do not give advice, do not say that he needs to change in himself. Yes, this is not necessary at this stage, because at this moment he is like a prince on a white horse, he is perfect and fabulously beautiful. He does everything right, beautifully. All without prompts, but as if I read your thoughts. During this period, you sacredly believe him, believe in yourself. You practically idolize this person.
But suddenly something is lost. Everything starts to change in the opposite direction. After some time, most women declare that their man has become different. Now he is inattentive, not perfect, not at all the same as before. And hell begins. And a lot, a lot of negative information, poison the soul, as a result, the relationship collapses. In relationships, dirt, mistrust, suspicion, resentment, reproaches and hatred appear. Most importantly, the desire to understand each other disappears. This also affects the sexual life, the spiritual perception of partners, and their health in general. That is, wonderful Life turns into ruins.
I do not want to seem like a zealous intercessor of men, but, nevertheless, you need to understand this.
We came to this world in a unique guise, we are women. And therefore, whether we like it or not, we rule this world. You're laughing? In vain. This is true. After all, if you remember history: wars, numerous duels, knightly tournaments took place exclusively to win Her heart. For the sake of women, men are ready to commit crimes, seek fame, money, or refuse them. Because of women, men can ascend to heaven and descend into hell. Everything for ..., because of ..., for our sake!
Therefore, only we - women can create, create, rehabilitate relationships with a man. We are responsible to ourselves for which man is next to us. How relationships develop. This is a huge responsibility, and no one wants to be aware of it and take on their fragile shoulders. After all, women dream that a strong and confident knight will take her hand and lead her along life path, sweeping away all obstacles, solving her problems, protecting from ill-wishers, conquering the world for her sake. And this is quite a good, good dream. For such a dream to come true, a woman must be one that a man simply cannot deal with differently. This is, first of all, a woman who is aware of all her feminine power.
The reason for the scattered relationship or fading feelings is not in the man. Obviously, the woman slowly took on the role of a man. And I didn't feel it at all. Don't be in a hurry to argue, read on. God forbid you do not recognize yourself in the described situation.;)
As soon as a woman feels at the peak of greatness (to feel which a man gives her with his attention), she immediately ceases to believe that this can go on forever. I doubted, there were fears of losing it all. And if at that moment her love for a man did not prevail over her fears, this is where it all begins. She concentrates all her attention, time, all of herself and all of her inner world On him. And fears do not let go, they are more and more clamped in despair. A woman begins to live the life of a man, trying to exclude everything potentially dangerous (for relationships) from her. These are actions, deeds, demeanor, people, hobbies. Attempts begin to remake a person according to their own standards, to remake his fate in accordance with his expectations. Everything is ruthlessly subjected to control, right down to the words he uttered. The woman begins to show all her strengths to show what she is good hostess how caring (too much). She begins to “sacrifice herself” for his sake (it's just a clinic, because she does it only because of herself and her fears). After all this, if a man does not run away from her, he becomes a vegetable husband, that very goat, because of which a woman “pulls everything on her shoulders,” and he peacefully lies on the couch or has fun with friends, applies to a glass.
- And I thought you would change, sacrificed all your capabilities for you, I am so good and no gratitude!
Just a great martyr. Then the whole female world is buzzing: "All men are ungrateful bastards, traitors!" Yes, we ourselves make them so. They want to love and be close to a woman, but they get a man in a skirt!
But at all times it was known that for the sake of a true woman, beloved, moreover, a man would do the impossible. But it must be a real woman: a cheerful, light, kind, gentle, windy creature. She must be her own and someone else's at the same time, obstinate and submissive, mysterious and understandable. She doesn't have to demand anything ... just inspire and support.
Lifebuoy
“Feel the love in your heart. You are the sun, warm everything around with this love and give light to those who are in darkness, but just do not incinerate "
We often turn on "do not care" in the wrong places. And we are too biased about the little things that do not deserve our attention. This is the secret of a beautiful, happy and long-lasting relationship.
Men, no less than ours, need: recognition, power, admiration, faith in them, attention, affection and love. But in general, women do not consider it necessary to compliment their man, to say about his superiority. To recognize him as the best, in the understanding of a woman, is the same as to sign her own worthlessness. It is a pity that everything is so inverted and distorted in our minds. After all, we can never become competitors to men, just as they will never become competitors for us. We are different creatures, our sphere of action and influence are also different. In this we are like two parallel lines that do not intersect. Therefore, it is foolish to start competition with the opposite sex in your mind. Instead, you need to help each other. Rejoice in victories.
It is so important to exist in your own world and the world in general, but not to encroach on your partner's inner world. It's just violence. And when this happens, the person begins to defend himself, to reject you.
When a woman does not accept a man's small weaknesses, she makes fun of them, tries to forbid them. This speaks of her intrusion into the inner world of a man. Such a mistake in behavior, as a rule, becomes fatal for a woman.
You may be indignant: "But what about men, they also sometimes forbid a lot, behave like a pig, allow themselves rude statements, disrespect for a woman."
I will answer. Everything from a woman. After all, men treat a woman exactly as she allows. No more and no less. Women have lost their original purity. They became like men, hence the results. We reap what we sow. And that's the truth.
How could this have happened? Why don't women themselves feel a developed masculine principle?
We - women have ceased to belong entirely to ourselves! We are fixated on the world around us. And if there is a man nearby, then all our attention will be directed only in his direction. Yes, we continue to take care of ourselves, keep ourselves in shape. But we do all this on the run, on autopilot. Which makes us even more like a draft horse, or rather, a draft horse! In this regard, our brain begins to issue analytical information: only I need it, only I work on relationships, only I strive for development, only I endure, only I love, only I! Hence the conclusion: if there is only me everywhere, then I can afford a lot! And we allow ourselves too much, but not in those moments in which we really need it. For example: performances "A la bazaar woman", behavior "the man is a fool, only I know everything and I can," the position for society "I am a goddess, how is this insignificant lucky with me, admire my sacrifice", etc.
Instead of all this, you need to be indifferent towards men (loyal and not fixated, not clinging). You need to be able to get carried away with yourself. This is what is a salvation from strife in a relationship.
When a woman is interesting to herself, when she is not worried about the little things. When she loves her company. Then we can say with confidence that this is a happy, beloved and desired woman.
And in order not to get hung up and not drown in routine and apathy, it is necessary to develop frantically. Develop all your open and unexplored talents.
This is self-improvement of your personality, the disclosure of femininity and your potential.
To be continued...
Why are some chronically unlucky, while others shamelessly rejoice in life and don’t blow their minds? The answer is simple: the former, no matter how they hide it, are pessimists, and the latter are indifferent. Pessimists watch football games on TV, fight in a senseless struggle for their rights and constantly create problems out of nothing, and not only for themselves. Bullies play this football, know all their rights and make history. The line between healthy indifference and outright selfishness is very thin, and happy is the one who managed to feel this golden mean.
How to distinguish a pessimist in a crowd? Pessimist traits
How to distinguish a nigga in a crowd? Characteristic features of a nigga
It is not difficult to conclude that a healthy indifference is quite appropriate and even useful.
How to learnsimplerrelate to life?
Is it possible to change your pessimistic attitude? First of all, you need to clearly distinguish between a banal primitive indifference from a healthy one. Banal indifference is a free drift with the flow, selfishness and ineradicable laziness. Healthy indifference is the talent to change the direction of the flow at the right moment, the breadth of the soul and the ease to rise.
First steps to healthy indifference:
- Rest (leisure) - this is the time that no one will return. Life itself depends on the fulfillment of life: positive results in a positive, negative - negative in progression. Filling our life with positive emotions, and rest with our favorite activities, we give our consciousness the correct constructive attitude.
- Whining and complaining about life - taboo ... Even with your family.
- "Pathetic little people", "vile saleswoman", "bastard traffic cop" ... Changing the installation ... Good can be seen in every person. You just need to want.
- "I will never earn money for an apartment (car, microwave, ficus ...)." A rolling stone gathers no moss ... To get something, you need to make an effort. And with a smile on his lips and with the installation "I can handle everything." First - the goal, then a step-by-step plan, then - confident adherence to the goal. Even if it will take several years to go to it. Want to be a great photographer? So, enough drooling under the work of professionals, and a camera in hand - and on courses. Dreaming of the laurels of a writer? Find your genre and learn to burn people's hearts with a verb.
- “Nothing depends on me anyway”, “I can't do it anyway” ... The eyes are afraid, but the hands are doing! Expecting failure, a person attracts it. "Order" for yourself only positive. Installation - "I can", "I can", "I can handle it." And remember the truth - "if you peer into the abyss for a long time, the abyss begins to peer into you."
- Money. There are never many of them. It's just that one doesn't have enough for bread, while the other doesn't have enough for diamond caviar or a fifth yacht. Here you have to decide. If life without debt is just fine, then it's time to stop complaining about the lack of money and start enjoying fishing, picnics and heart-to-heart meetings with friends with a glass of tea. If ambitions are torn from the inside, then you should forget about all of the above and change your lifestyle, focusing on the road leading to enrichment.
How to attract money. Blasep method
First of all, you should decide - how much do you actually need? Have you decided? Write down the amount in a notebook and read on. The presence of at least one of the listed points is your obstacle on the way to wealth:
None of the items came up? Then feel free to decide on your occupation
for the next few years, compare the amount written in the notebook with the chosen occupation and forward. Does not work? Reread the paragraphs again.
Attracting health - nihilist philosophy
You can't buy health
- no wonder they say so. And all great earnings are dust, compared to health and its role in life. First, we work to spend money on pleasure. Having earned, we understand that these pleasures are already contraindicated for us for health reasons. Only by really working on yourself, you can achieve results.
Healthy indifference. Postulates
Indifference is not a disregard for everyone and everything. Healthy indifference is the line between indifference to negativity and absolute indifference to everything with symptoms of selfishness.
Ten recipes for healthy indifference:
- Drive negative thoughts ... Straightaway! Hardly such a thought tries to creep into my head. Catch her on the doorstep and drive her away. Ways for this wagon and trolley. The subconscious of a person is a soldier who unconditionally obeys peremptory orders. For example, cry out to her mentally - Get out! It works.
- Do not waste nerve cells ... They are not restored. Anything that should happen will happen anyway. Whether you want it or not. And if it has already happened, then it makes no sense to be nervous at all, you need to either act or give up.
- Every day is obligatory and unswervingly give yourself and your favorite pastime at least an hour (or preferably two) of free time. Spit on unwashed dishes, piles of toys in a children's room that resembles a minefield, and the outrage of family members, friends and everyone else.
- Learn to love yourself. Take some time to lie in a fragrant bath and tidy yourself up to an almost cover-up level. Make yourself a cup of coffee and have a bite of it with your favorite cake while reading an interesting book or gossip on the Internet.
- Learn to abstract completely from everything. Forget about global problems for five minutes an hour and just enjoy life.
- Learn to greet your morning with a smile , because it is known that how you meet the morning - so the whole day will pass. And you don't need so much - your favorite music, a delicious breakfast, a smile at your reflection and a psychological attitude.
- Learn to control your subconscious. It is you who should give him the setting, and not vice versa. It is not worth giving too of great importance nothing. Moreover, as Solomon said, everything goes away.
- Forget the illusions of a perfect life ... There will always be problems in it. Bad weather, lies and betrayals, spoiled groceries from the store, etc. Learn not to notice these problems.
- Do not take the world as a place of survival ... Life is too short to be wasted with depression and struggles. Enjoy it and take it as a game.
- Accept as a fact that you are busy with not your own business, or are going the wrong way, when something is given to you at the cost of incredible sacrifices and efforts. Find yourself ... Feel free to experiment.
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You shouldn't think that a nigga is a person who doesn't give a damn about anything at all. It is necessary to distinguish healthy indifference, expressed in a precisely dosed degree of control over the situation, from irresponsibility, which can lead to the most serious consequences.
Imagine what will happen if doctors, drivers, airplane pilots, etc. become indifferent. - the list of professions requiring high responsibility is very long. It does not mean to become a snackist, it's about the ability to remove from unnecessary experiences that do not give anything in practice and only spoil the nerves.
Features of healthy indifference
The nihilist is largely a fatalist. For example, let's say you are about to take an airplane. You know they fall sometimes and that makes you fearful. You are afraid to fly, the road to the airport reminds you of the way to the scaffold, and the flight itself becomes a serious test for your psyche.
And what is the naught? He is not only completely relaxed, but also enjoys the flight. Its logic is simple - why worry if from you in this case still nothing depends? It is better to enjoy the journey, throwing out silly thoughts from the mind.
This is healthy indifference that preserves nerves and mental health. At the same time, it is worth noting a very interesting point: in practice, do not care rarely get into disasters and other unpleasant situations. There is a completely logical explanation for this: without worrying about trifles, such a person does not spend psychic energy on heavy meditation. Which, in turn, significantly increases his intuition.
That is why it is easier for a person who does not care to avoid a plane crash than for someone who is panicky to fly. He simply will not get on the plane, which is destined to crash - something will definitely happen that will prevent him from taking this flight. This is how a high level of personal strength, accumulated as a result of the absence of empty experiences, manifests itself.
How to get rid of worries
To become a bummer, you need to learn how to get rid of unnecessary worries. Use logic - what's the point in worrying about things that don't depend on you at the moment? Convince yourself to think about it when the time is right, and put the worries away.
Don't try to keep everything under control, it won't work anyway. Relax, learn to relax. Divide your time into work and leisure time. Don't be a workaholic - after all, you don't live to work. There are other interests in life. Do something interesting, find yourself a hobby. Invite your friends, sit in the evening in a good company.
Pay more attention to the beauty of the world around you, drive away all negativity. Forget about crime fighters and dramas at least for a while - watch comedies, musicals, cartoons. Everything that can cheer you up, inspire cheerfulness and optimism.
If something bothers you, you cannot get away from heavy thoughts, ask yourself - what will happen if the most negative forecast comes true? Then accept the possible negative outcome, no matter how difficult it may be. Get along with it, admit it has already taken place. If so, you have nothing to worry about. The ability to accept any outcome, even the most negative, is one of the characteristic features of healthy indifference.
Believe in your lucky star, in your luck, in the patronage of higher powers - this is one of better ways deal with anxiety. Everything will be fine, there is no reason for worry. Think good, drive away the negative, and the most brilliant prospects will open before you.
I don't know what to do .. with the transition to the 8th grade, my academic performance deteriorated .. at school problems. Classmates get it, teachers belittle publicly and do not consider it a person. I have unrequited love. Relations in the family are bad. people are not even interested in how I am doing, it is not mine that matters mental condition, and estimates. And that's all.
Recently I started cutting myself. I often think about suicide. If I start to cut myself, I can’t stop. I can’t ... I don’t want to live!
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Irina, age: 28 / 20.12.2015
Honey, please stop. You shouldn't think about such things, because if you do, then nothing can be changed, there will be no way back. Agree, there is something to lose, for sure there are things that you enjoy, favorite activities. For example, I really like dancing, nature, music and sweets. No, no, and I have similar moods, since not everything is going smoothly either. Do you know what conclusions I have come to? You need to focus on what is most important. For me, for example, it is now important to work and succeed in this. I think it is important for you to think about your future profession. You have now good time... If you start to study well, then you will enter a good institute, get a profession and calmly earn your living. Just relax, be kind to everyone, just do all the tasks that the teachers say. Throw out unnecessary thoughts. Thoughts about other people may seem fair, but we cannot change that. You need to think about doing well in the future. It is important to try to do your homework well, not to overload yourself with unnecessary thoughts, calm down, think about good, smile, give yourself a rest, communicate with people, try to be a good girl, try to do the right thing. I want to repeat - do not overload yourself with unnecessary thoughts. Life is not ideal and not everything is as it seems to us to be correct, fair. Just do it so that you are all right. Study well is the main thing, because your material security depends on it. Kind attitude towards people, good mood, good activities that help you relax and feel good. Communicate with people, learn from them good qualities, be kind. Enjoy your life. In this way, you will shape yourself as a person. A little time will pass and there will be that man who will love you with all his heart and soul. To do this, you need to try, but not overwork. Good luck, from the bottom of my heart! Live!
Ekaterina, age: 25/20/12/2015
The same thing happened to me once. Broken psyche, unhappy love, suicide attempts ... Fortunately, she survived.
Don't pay attention to people's opinions. You have to find satisfaction in your own world. Read books - they are excellent "friends".
Alla, age: 26 / 24.12.2015
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Every person wants to be happy - that's a fact. “But only not to the detriment of others, and if you don't have to pay for happiness with a clear conscience, and it is also desirable that there be peace in the whole world” - here a particularly scrupulous person will make the amendment, he is by no means a nonsense. And he will never catch the very coveted bluebird... But his friend will take the situation more lightly and will not put forward conditions for happiness, but will simply accept it as a given - that's all. In this he will be helped by a healthy indifference - a quality that is so lacking in many and which is quite possible to learn.
What is the difference between healthy indifference and just indifference?
Perhaps someone, starting to read this article, will immediately draw in their imagination such an impudent person who does not care about social foundations and morality and who will easily go over the heads of others. And someone will present a lazy and careless character, mindlessly wasting his life and completely not caring about his "tomorrow". After all, he does not care about everything, he doesn’t care ...
And both will be wrong. Because we are talking about a completely different human quality - about the ability to relate to life more easily and extract only positive moments from it.
What is the main difference between an ordinary indifference and a healthy one? The first, indeed, does not care about everything. Including, to your own well-being. He is inclined to ignore difficulties, and if he does notice them, he will immediately hide his head in the sand. In addition, an ordinary do not care at all how to draw conclusions and learn from troubles. He is childish and lazy, goes with the flow, which brings him to a sad ending.
As for a healthy nap, he notices difficulties and perfectly gives an account of everything that happens in his life. He just does not inflate the elephant out of a fly, but draws conclusions. Thinks soberly and constructively, not focusing on the bad. He knows how to extract good from any situation, and a lemon in his skillful hands easily turns into lemonade.
Characteristics of a healthy nigga
Continuing to draw a portrait of a healthy nihilist, let's dwell on his characteristic features that are striking.
This person allows himself to enjoy the joys of life to the fullest. He eats with appetite and his fill, gets enough sleep. Desires he has - a carriage and a small cart. She is not afraid to dream, because she knows - everything is possible, you just have to want.
A healthy nigga is a person who is chronically in love. He loves a partner, life, his business, etc. He has no sores (at least no one knows about them). Money, friends and interesting adventures are attracted to him like a magnet. And also a healthy pofigist loves to wake up in the morning, because he knows: begins new day which will bring many positive points. And if something bad happens, then "we will survive this trouble."
A healthy nigga chooses a white stripe and walks along it, not across.
Do you need to become a nigga
It is quite possible to learn to indifference, in the good sense of the word. But before starting your studies, you should honestly answer yourself the question: "Do I really need this?"
Indeed, in fact, not all people experience happiness, being happy, no matter how absurd it may sound.
Some members of the human race like to suffer. And they inflate an elephant from a fly not just like that, but with pleasure. And each of their tears falls spectacularly. And any reason to cry is met with open arms.
Such people only look unhappy in the eyes of others. And they themselves, of course, also consider themselves as such. But they themselves are satisfied with this role, and do not want to live differently.
The path to indifference lies through healthy selfishness.
Indifference and self-love (which is healthy selfishness) are inseparable things. But what does it mean to "love yourself"?
This means grooming, nurturing and pampering your body and soul. At least sometimes. And let the whole world wait!
Allow yourself what you love:
- hot bath with aromatic oils;
- a good book or movie before bed;
- Tasty food;
- Nice dress;
- quality cosmetics.
Stop thinking about running out of time or money. Stop saving! Give up on difficulties that haven't even come yet. All healthy nonsense people solve problems as they arise, and until that moment they just enjoy life, without scrolling through the mind of the terrifying pictures of the future. And (oh, miracle!), As a rule, problems never come.
Building self-confidence
Another quality, without which it is impossible to become a healthy nihilist, is confidence.
Remember the truth: you are a unique person, the one and only, which has never been in the world, is not and never will be. And that alone makes you special.
So is it worth it to be upset because of the unflattering remark of a neighbor on the site ?! I think the answer is obvious.
Stop paying attention to the criticism of envious girlfriends and trying to please the capricious spouse! And mom (even though she is a mom) is not always right with her advice.
Don't be afraid to make your own decisions and be open about them. After all, you and only you are responsible for your life.
Also, stop hiding your feelings and thoughts. Tell about them, share with others. Away with fears that you will not be understood. Maybe someone will not understand, but there is a chance to find a kindred spirit and a lively response in another person.
Yes, it can be scary at first. But one has only to try to behave confidently, and soon it will not work out any other way. And the opinion of others will cease to be the determining factor in your life.
Taboo of two "f": do not complain and do not regret
Have you ever met people who are always wrong? And the line at the store is long, and the weather is bad, and there are only villains in the government, and children are losers, and the doctor is a bribe-taker, and the driver is a boor.
There are a lot of such whiners, and it will always be bad for them! Because thought and word are material. The more we complain about life, the more reasons it presents us with complaints. This is an immutable law.
So no complaints! This is taboo. No one - even the closest people. Especially the little things. And life will immediately sparkle with completely new facets.
And it is absolutely not typical for healthy niggas to regret what has already happened. After all, this is so unconstructive! You can't change the past anyway, but you spend your nerve cells. To draw conclusions - yes, but to regret - no, no, also taboo.
What was, what was and the past has grown - this is the principle for real happy person.
