All of us, after receiving secondary, general, special or higher education We’re starting to earn extra money somewhere. Someone works in their specialty, someone constantly changes jobs, someone is trying to develop their own business, etc. But very often many people face this problem: they don’t like their work, they’re tired of it, or it’s completely annoying. And then they are confused. Labor productivity is falling, and every day coming to work and performing the same actions becomes unbearable.
Many people are familiar with not liking their own work.
This problem occurs among employees different areas more often. But few people manage to solve it. To a large extent, this is due to the fear of leaving your comfort zone, fear of change and lack of confidence in yourself and your abilities. From this article you will learn what to do if you don't like your job.
How to solve a problem
Perhaps someday, performing the same duties, staying late at work, constantly tired of routine tasks, you will understand: “I hate work!” Realizing this will either push you to make drastic changes in your life, or cause a bad mood and stress. If you don't like your job, you will always have two options: endure it or quit. But making such a choice is very difficult for many people. They are afraid of losing their “home” place and finding a new job. So they continue to do work that irritates them.
Human psychology is quite complex and individual, so the problem in each case must be solved separately. But here are some tips that will tell you what to do if you are bored with your work:
- Identify all the worst aspects of your job that could be reasons to leave it. It can be unpleasant colleagues, bad boss, inconvenient work schedule, insufficiently high salary, etc.
- Constructive business conversations with managers can improve the situation. Explain what you are not happy with. The boss can improve working conditions. If management refuses to meet you halfway, this will be an incentive to find a better job.
- Try to treat work problems as small obstacles on the way to achieving your goal and getting what you want. Consider this an opportunity to improve yourself and develop personally and professionally.
- Don't be influenced by your colleagues. It happens that at first you were satisfied with everything in your work, but you constantly hear colleagues complaining about the number of tasks, the size of the salary, the boss, etc. Observing this more and more often, you yourself begin to look for shortcomings in your work, getting a negative attitude.
- Before you decide to quit, think about all the good things about your current workplace: a kind boss, a friendly atmosphere, flexible work hours, insurance, additional bonuses, or anything else. If all this does not cover the shortcomings, and you are still unhappy with your job, then you should not hold on to it.
- If you are new to something and don't like it new job, find an interesting hobby or start playing sports in your free time. This helps to take your mind off the hustle and bustle of work, relieve stress and forget about troubles for a while. Further new position will interest you.
There is no need to endure what is disgusting to you and do what does not bring pleasure. If you don’t like your job, then you need to quit it and look for something you like.
You can work in one place all your life and achieve nothing, and then regret the missed opportunities. Or you can take a risk and start all over clean slate, change your life.
And in this case, the likelihood that you will build a good career, achieve all your goals and live for your pleasure is much higher. After all, if you do what you love, you want to develop and conquer new heights.
Why we don't like our work
As psychologists note, in most cases, people suffer from an unloved job and do not want to go to work for the following reasons:
- poor working conditions;
- boss is too strict;
- hostility of colleagues;
- conflict situations;
- the need to get up early and go to bed late.
But you shouldn’t quit right away and look for a new job. You need to think everything over, consult with your loved ones and only then accept final decision. You can almost always find a way out of problematic situations, resolve conflicts, improve relationships in the team, and get your boss to improve working conditions. It is worth understanding that our work may not bring us pleasure for other reasons related to us personally.
Conflicts significantly reduce the attractiveness of work
Lack of understanding of your needs and desires
There are cases when a person is satisfied with his profession, working conditions and wages, but still does not receive moral and emotional satisfaction. Because of this, he is late for work, does not try, feels tired and empty, and after the end of the working day his mood immediately rises and strength appears. And then the question arises: is the person really satisfied with everything? Sometimes we ourselves do not realize what we need and what we want. It seems to us that quiet, calm, not hard, routine work is suitable for us, but for some reason it will not bring us pleasure. Maybe we need a more active, diverse and promising business that will charge us with energy, arouse our interest and desire to work. Until we try something new ourselves, we will not understand what we need.
Many people want to constantly receive the approval of others. And when someone says what kind of job they need, they listen to this opinion.
The result is a misunderstanding own desires leads to the fact that, having received a new job, people hold on to it tightly. We should listen to our emotions, because if our work does not meet our needs, then a feeling of dissatisfaction is inevitable.
Young professionals often become dissatisfied with their workplace. This is due to the fact that they do not understand what they are interested in doing. This is because they have no experience. And interest appears when we do something that evokes positive emotions in us. The more knowledge and experience we gain, the more likely we are to understand our interests and find the right job.
Fundamental unwillingness to work
In some cases, a person does not like his work not because it is uninteresting or hard, but because he does not like and does not want to work at all. He considers this a punishment, and the mere thought of work duties causes him dissatisfaction and a feeling of protest. Such people are convinced that they do not need a job, and the need for it is an externally imposed stereotype. Therefore, they do not understand why they should give up their strength and work in vain for someone else.
To get out of this situation, a person needs to understand that by working, he can get money to support himself. But it is not necessary to work under someone else's leadership. You can do freelancing, start your own business, etc. When a person begins to make decisions on his own and does what he wants, then the feeling of protest and dissatisfaction will pass.
Salary is a great incentive to work
Diffidence
Very often people are not happy with what they do because they are bad at it or don’t do it at all. But over time, they adapt and gain the necessary skills, but the work still does not bring joy. In this case, the problem is lack of confidence in your abilities and capabilities. This can arise due to failures, loss of qualifications and skills, due to a long working break, or lack of experience.
Sometimes various circumstances prevent you from getting the job you dreamed of: lack of jobs, high competition, lack of experience, etc. Because of this, you feel helpless and find a job where you were accepted.
You agree without hesitation, believing that best offer you won't get it. You work out of desperation, so you don't have fun.
But there is also a way out of this situation. You need to compare expectations with reality, understand what resources you have, what you know and can do, study the labor market, learn about offers, and find a vacancy that interests you. Don't think you can't do anything and don't be afraid to learn something new. Work on your self-esteem, if you set yourself up for a positive result, then you will succeed.
Difficult to make decisions
When your work responsibilities require you to make big decisions, it can be exhausting, make you nervous, worry about the outcome, and constantly worry about making a mistake. Because of this, you begin to associate work with something unpleasant, and just thinking about it makes you worry. And when you decide to quit, a new dilemma appears: can I find a new place, do I have a chance to outperform my competitors, do I have enough experience, etc.
The realization that fear of the future, uncertainty and inaction only slow you down and prevent you from developing will help you become more decisive. If you leave everything to chance, it won’t get better, the situation will only escalate and as a result you will hate your position. Think about alternative options and don't be afraid to take risks.
Life isn't always about avoiding risks.
Conclusion
Many people don't like their jobs. It depends on various factors. To change your life and enjoy your work, you need to improve yourself, try to change the situation in your favor, and act. Remember that your life is in your hands!
Don't like your new job at all? You ask yourself: “What to do?” - Look for another! Don't "hold on" to the good wages if you don't enjoy what you do.
By the way…. Maybe it’s not the work itself that you don’t like, but the finances that pay for it? Talk to your boss about a promotion or subtly hint that you are not happy with the salary. A smart and good boss will understand everything and make concessions if he considers you an excellent employee.
Your “changed” life will have a positive impact on your new (least favorite) job. Completely change your image, smile more often, be nice to management representatives. See how comfortable you will be!
- Don't pay attention to any difficulties
Believe that you can handle them. Solve problems carefully and with humor. Then everything will definitely work out for you! If you don’t develop love for your work, you will at least begin to feel sympathy for it.
- Look for the positive aspects of work
Don't be surprised if you find very a large number of"pros". They will help you find meaning in a job you hate! Your life will improve so quickly that you won’t even notice.
- “Turn off” all your workaholism
This action is necessary so that you have free time for entertainment and travel. You don’t need to completely devote yourself to work for everything to be good, believe me!
- Build a sea of plans!
It will be great if this sea is included in your plans. Dream, dream, dream. Then you will not have the desire to feel sad about being “dissatisfied” with your job. You should think (at your leisure) about the “problem” seriously. Perhaps you are not satisfied with the position, team or workplace. Change the unpleasant “factor” so that you don’t have to change your job in vain.
- Change of work environment
Make at least a minor but noticeable change near your workplace. Buy something new for your office or desk. Your eyes should feel the change coming! Your eyes will be “delighted” as soon as they see that everything is different.
- It will be great if you make friends with someone
Finding friendly support is a huge plus. Work will be easier and more interesting. Try not to be late for work so that everything works out in your favor. Earn a brilliant opinion about your person!
- Fall in love!
You won't think about how much you hate your job. Your thoughts will be occupied with the “conqueror of your heart.” Let romance solve all your problems and allow you to look at the world with different eyes!
- Get married
How do these two concepts (“marriage” and “work”) fit together? If you are the wife of a loved one, you will become much happier, and any work will bring you joy and satisfaction.
Finding another job
If you still decide to “get rid” of your job, then do not do it right away. You need time to find another suitable location and not sit without financial reserves while searching. Make a resume, check it and send it to various (all kinds of) sites. Try to check the box every day. Very soon you will find a lot of offers in it.
The moment has come when you will have big choice vacancies. The only “minus” is that you will have to choose time after work and travel to various interviews.
It happens that a person finds his “dream job”, and then realizes that he made a mistake in his choice. Then you will have to “hang” at the chosen job for at least a couple of months in order to get at least a decent entry in the work book.
Very a good option - combination of beloved and unloved job. One of them can be official, and the second can be a part-time job. It will be hard. But if you are confident in your abilities, then you can overcome anything.
Take a mini-vacation at your own expense. You are required to spend some time outside of work! Imagine being banned from working altogether. Take advantage of this “ban.” Relax and unwind to your heart's content.
The story of my choice of work
When I didn't like my new job. Here's how I did it...
I had one too difficult period in life. I faced the same difficult situation. Immediately after college, I got a job at a school (as a primary school teacher). I hated my salary, but the work itself gave me an “indescribable thrill.” Then I got married. I had to urgently change jobs because my husband earned very little.
I got a job outside of my specialty (in a store). The first thing I didn’t like about my new job was the team. Everyone envied me with “black” envy. They were unable to hide this feeling. I had a great figure, I looked ten years younger than my age, I managed to make all the men (who worked with us) fall in love….
When the girls found out that I was married... All hell has broken loose! They constantly did some dirty tricks so that they would call me to the director more and more often and discuss me behind my back. It is very offensive and unpleasant to listen to terrible lies about yourself.
I couldn’t stand such “heat of passion.” Gone. I no longer wanted to get big money. I was ready to run back (to school). My story, unfortunately, did not end like good fairy tales. For about three years I didn’t work at all. I realized and understood that we needed money. However, I experienced some kind of “stupor” and was overcome by a state of wild depression. For a while, it seemed like I would never get another new job.
Thanks to my beloved husband, I was able to pull myself together. He found a great way out of the situation. We opened an individual entrepreneur and started selling various beautiful things. I felt like a real person! It was so nice that the world needed me! How glad I was that no one envied me.
A year later, I got a job, leaving our business to my husband. Everything went like clockwork. We were able to buy everything we needed. Then they thought about the child. We were born beautiful and healthy baby. Having become parents, we realized that children are the greatest happiness! And money is just the necessary paperwork for a normal life.
I wish everyone to start a family. Because only family and relatives replace any wealth for a person. If, of course, a person is able to appreciate human happiness.
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Surely, everyone is familiar with the situation when the everyday routine becomes so boring that thoughts about dramatic changes in life appear more and more often. And first of all, this concerns a disgusting place of work, which is perceived as hard labor. What to do if every morning brings only negativity and you don’t want to go to your work post at all? How to find a field of activity where you can combine decent remuneration and complete satisfaction?
If you don't like your job - what to do?
If you decide to ask your friends and acquaintances about whether they like their work, then you will understand that you are far from alone in wanting to change something in your life. Many people perceive this as a duty that they have to perform only for money, which leads to constant stress and professional burnout. Perhaps some tips will help you do correct solution and improve the situation:
- The first step is a gap analysis. Think about what irritates you most about it - unpleasant colleagues, annoying clients or paperwork? This understanding will be the decisive moment on the path to change.
- Constructive and maximally reasoned dialogue with management in in this case necessary, because conversation can help get rid of shortcomings in your work. During the conversation, try not to blame anyone and be prepared to accept new powers and responsibilities.
- Try to change your approach to problems that arise during your work; perceive them as a kind of challenge. Criticism from superiors and misunderstandings with colleagues sometimes become a powerful incentive, an opportunity to improve oneself and look for new areas of activity.
- Do something interesting or find a hobby in your free time from work; your favorite activity will become an outlet and help relieve stress.
- A good alternative would be physical exercise and sports, which not only distract from negative thoughts, but also bring the spirit and body into good shape and give a positive charge of energy.
- Pay attention to the people who surround you. If colleagues constantly express dissatisfaction with the amount of work and the low salary, the general mood will involuntarily rub off on you. Do not let yourself be influenced, do not agree to carry out other people’s duties and assignments.
- Think about the pleasant moments associated with your current place of work - good experience, decent salary, invaluable knowledge.
How to change jobs
Before you submit your resignation letter to your boss and post your resume, read the following information which will help reduce the risk negative consequences to a minimum:
How to find a job you like
Work for your heart is an activity that, first of all, brings joy, pleasure and satisfaction on all counts. It’s not difficult for you to get up in the morning, because something new and interesting awaits you, which will allow you to keep your mood at a high level throughout the day. However, not everyone is so lucky; many people long years They are agonizing over the answer to how to find a job they like.
How to find your calling
For most, it becomes a serious problem to find themselves in life; when they are already in adulthood, they think about who they want to be and what their true calling is.
- Absolutely, you have certain abilities or inclinations for some type of activity. Perhaps you simply forgot what you were interested in before. Take the time to make a list of all the hobbies that bring you pleasure. If there are several of them, choose the one that is closest.
- Think about what excites you most in life; this is what can become your calling and the link between pleasure and professional activity.
- We are what we read. A few points from your favorite authors and works will reveal you in a new way.
- Often what we dream about as children is a true reflection of our personality. No matter how fabulous children's dreams may be, they can be turned into reality by interpreting them in your own way.
- Decide what you are interested in knowing and learning. Don't stop until you study these topics thoroughly.
- Throw away all fears, uncertainty and prejudices; they prevent us from achieving what we want.
- On the path to happiness, free up time for the most important things by giving up unimportant things.
Question for a psychologist:
Hello! My name is Marina, I am 22 years old, not married, no children. In 2015, I graduated from the university with a bachelor's degree, immediately entered the master's program and am still studying there (there is still a year left). At the beginning of 2016, I started looking for a job (I hadn’t worked before) in order to have my own money and move away from my parents (with a young man), as well as for experience. In May, I managed to find a job with a good schedule, not stressful (administrator), and immediately I received an offer to work for the state. service on maternity pay. I immediately quit my job as an administrator (although I didn’t manage to work there for a single day, I managed to sign a contract) and got a job in the civil service, because my parents insisted, they say, I had such a good chance, great experience, opportunities, etc. Although initially at the interview I didn’t really like the field in which I should work. And now I work for the government. I've been in the job for a month and I just hate this job. I don’t like the schedule (I don’t get anything done), the salary is minimal and I understand absolutely nothing about this job, absolutely! And everyone demands something from me, expects... I would have run away a long time ago, but I don’t want to upset my parents (now they are proud of me and don’t even want to hear about my problems), I don’t want to let my boss down, because he treats me well , he took me without experience, and besides, he agreed to let me go to study, and he’s also teaching me quietly... What’s more, I don’t want to let myself down, because in the future I planned to enroll in the state. service, only in a completely different area. With experience, there would be more chances to get a job, and the salary would be higher (additional bonus for experience). So I’m rushing about, I don’t know what to do, work here, but I don’t have the strength, every morning I almost cry, when I come home I’m no longer capable of anything, I’m only happy about Friday... I keep hoping for some miracle that I will be laid off or that the girl I am replacing will return from maternity leave (even though she hasn’t given birth yet). I have thoughts that I’ll quit in just another week, I’m looking at job openings at work, but nothing interesting comes up... It’s a shame that I’m still young, but I’m already so tired of work and exhausted... I want to work, I even have a big salary for now not so interesting, I just want the work to be a pleasure (or at least just like it). What can you do in this situation: endure until the end (and be left with damaged nerves and health) or leave and look for a new job (without any prospects and remorse on the part of your parents) without even knowing what you want? I can't imagine...
Psychologist Ksenia Vadimovna Kondaurova answers the question.
Hello, dear Marina. You already know deep down what is best for you to do. Emotions are the language with which our psyche, our nature, communicates with us. And your emotions indicate that for the real you this work is unbearable. The question is why you can't do what you want.
And one of the main reasons is the obligations that you have imposed on yourself. Obligations to the future Marina, to the boss who hired you without experience and is teaching you (did you ask him to do this?) and to your parents (You like the fact that they are proud of you and don’t want to disappoint you). You owe everyone something. What about you yourself?
I see your dilemma not in “stay and endure or go into the unknown,” but in “live in the present or endure for the sake of a possible bright future.”
Just realize, Marina, that you are now living your only life, your wonderful young years. Are you ready to just tear this segment out of your life for the sake of the future? And are you sure that the future you see is worthy of it? If a person chooses to “endure,” he must clearly understand why and for what, so as not to become despondent and depressed. And you, judging by your reaction to your work, are not so captivated by the prospects that they compensate you for the discomfort of the present.
You hope that a “miracle” will happen and you will be able to avoid making a choice and responsibility for this choice.
You stay in this job not only because of obligations. You are afraid of the future that awaits you if you voluntarily leave your job. And it’s not just a matter of parental condemnation. The fact is that you will be left alone with the unknown and the space of options. And this work, no matter how tedious it may be, still gives you a feeling of confidence and reliability.
You are studying for a master's degree. You voluntarily and independently decided to enroll in this specialty, do you like it? Do you clearly understand what you want to do in the future? Do you know yourself well?
I ask these questions because Mr. service - state service exists, regardless of the industry. The principle is approximately the same. Are you absolutely sure that the job for which you are determined, for which you endure the hated current job, will bring you less negative emotions?
The old place of duty, where we worked for quite a long time, did not promise us any career growth. And so we finally decided to leave it and found a new one, which, at first glance, suits us in many respects - and it’s faster to get to it, and there is a prospect for career growth, and the office is more comfortable... And everything seems to be fine, and everything from the beginning pleases. However, some time passes, and for some reason we begin to really miss our previous service. And suddenly we catch ourselves in the fact that the prospect of a career no longer brings joy and we don’t want to go to this job, but suddenly, for some unknown reason, we want to abandon the implementation of our plans. But these plans were cherished for many years. What's going on? How to get used to a new job, because there is no point in losing it?
In fact, this is quite a common condition when changing jobs. After all, joining new team and getting used to our environment, we experience a lot of quite strong experiences. As a result of this, our psyche and emotional world are exhausted and ask for rest. And for them, their previous place of work, where everything is familiar and familiar, seems like a vacation. And there is no need to strain yourself when getting used to new routines. In other words, new work and stress are inseparable. Even at first it causes delight; after a while, a trivial depression begins, which will pass over time. Therefore, there is no need to panic, trying to return to your old place. You need to approach your condition wisely and just wait, little by little trying to join the new team. What's the best way to do this?
How to adapt to a new job
Firstly, before choosing new girlfriends or friends among your colleagues, you need to study your employees and determine which of them in the team is the leader and which is the follower. Of course, start a good relationship only with leaders will be a mistake - any of those currently lagging behind may well later become the vanguard. However, you should not communicate closely only with those who are in the shadows - this can greatly harm further career advancement.
As for girlfriends, they are usually chosen according to personal preferences. You need to communicate with all your colleagues, however, at the same time, you shouldn’t trust everyone too much: one of them may well turn out to be, to put it mildly, not a very decent person. And, as a result, excessive trust in him can turn out badly.
Secondly, in order to avoid unnecessary conflicts in a new place, you should reconsider your habits associated with your previous place of work. Any new job implies new traditions of behavior and new orders. In order to successfully integrate into a new team, you must comply with them.
Thirdly, don't talk too much about your same place work and praise him. This will cause bewilderment for most employees: if everything was very good, why did we leave it? And the complete trust of these employees will be lost. Let them better evaluate us according to our merits in a new place.
Fourthly, don’t be shy about asking others about how best to fulfill certain of your responsibilities. This will eliminate mistakes in your work and help you quickly get closer to the team. Things should be dealt with as they come in - neither we nor the authorities need blockages in work. Firstly, they are exhausting, and secondly, in a jam it is very easy to miss something or make a mistake. And we need psychological comfort, which so far is not at all facilitated by the fear of a new job and the fear of doing something wrong.
By the way, about fear. Under no circumstances should you be afraid of losing your new job. This interferes with the peace of mind and self-confidence that are so necessary for career growth. In addition, the team will definitely feel this fear. And this can result in neglect from both employees and management.
These tips are quite simple, but how often we neglect them! But they are time-tested. So let's try to comply with them, and all our expectations from a new place of work will certainly come true.
