Of course, you are aware that they are often blamed for emotions and moods. There is a grain of truth here, and a significant one. And the main roles in the performance based on the novel "Infuriates" are played by this company.
1. Estrogen and progesterone are female sex hormones.
Their level and proportional ratio change during the cycle. Hormones give you a set of vivid sensations in the form of PMS. Or rather, not exactly them. Emotions are a reaction to a change in the hormonal background from the side of the central nervous system (CNR). I wondered why for some ladies the premenstrual syndrome passes relatively calmly, but for someone life is not sweet? Yes, the first ones are unpleasant lucky people, but that's not the only thing.
“If the central nervous system reacts so painfully to hormonal changes, there are some problems in the body,” the endocrinologist explains. medical center"Atlas", Ph.D. Yuri Poteshkin. - For example, there is not enough serotonin, which should be released in moments of joy, and the mood regularly tends to be depressed. Or the pain on the eve of menstruation and other sensations in the body are so unpleasant that they give a reaction in the form of irritation. Conclusion: with pronounced PMS, you need to go to the gynecologist. And there it will be seen whether they will prescribe you anti-inflammatory drugs, prescribe COCs or refer you to a psychotherapist.
2. Thyroid hormones are thyroid hormones.
When too many of them are produced (this is called "hyperthyroidism"), sharpness, aggressiveness, outbursts of anger appear. In the limit, everything turns into thyrotoxicosis - poisoning the body with excess hormones (a condition that is dangerous even for the heart). Fortunately, it usually does not come to this, the patient is “intercepted” earlier. However, he still manages to show himself in all its glory.
“An important detail: the person himself feels good at the same time, the mood is often upbeat. People around him will complain about him,” says Yuri. Therefore, if different citizens more and more often utter phrases like: “You have become unbearable”, “It is impossible to deal with you”, in relation to your wonderful person, there is a reason to turn to an endocrinologist. An additional incentive should be the accompanying symptoms: hair falls out, nails become brittle, constantly throws you into a fever, the cycle is broken, and the weight suddenly disappears.
By the way, a lack of magnesium in the body can also cause nervousness and irritability. Of course, you should not prescribe it to yourself (side and allergic reactions, plus it is necessary to take into account the interaction with other drugs), but in which case it will not hurt to take tests and consult with a specialist.
Everything is annoying due to fatigue
The so-called manager syndrome (synonymous with chronic fatigue) is a common thing today. Workaholics, managers, perfectionists are used to living on wear and tear, ignoring their physiological needs, saving on food and sleep. How can you not growl here? " Gradually, this leads to the depletion of the body's resources, and asthenia may develop - a painful condition., which is initial stage is just characterized hyperexcitability and irritability (and then lethargy, apathy, drowsiness develop, up to anxiety and depressive symptoms),” says Alexander Gravchikov, a neurologist at the Atlas Medical Center. If rest in this state does not help, you need to go to the doctor and start an examination: it is possible that some kind of sluggish chronic illness or developing psychopathology.
And by the way, be careful with sedatives. “Even seemingly harmless valerian can give side effects, including liver dysfunction (when there is such a predisposition), indigestion, increase the risk of thrombosis, - Alexander continues, - with hypertension, instead of a calming effect, have a tonic effect, and sometimes lead to apathy. In general, taking something on your own is not the best option.”
Everything is annoying because of the psyche
Everything is in order with your health, there is no psychopathology, but you still live like on a volcano? Here is the definition of your emotions given by our expert psychologist, gestalt therapist, researcher at the Center for Secondary Education of the ASOU, teacher Victoria Chal-Boru: “ To piss off means to provoke someone to the extreme degree of anger.". The latter, as Vika explains, we need in order to survive, protect ourselves, and also establish social ties, distance in communication, build and regulate relationships with people and the environment.
If you're angry about something, it means it's important to you. And this feeling is the power to somehow adapt something meaningful, better use it, integrate it into life, or, conversely, push it away. "Then the extreme degree of anger may indicate that one of the processes described is running, some of the needs - to stay alive and / or be with someone - requires implementation." So rabies is a lot about relationships. Let's talk about them then.
Basically, it's natural to get angry. Especially in a society where there are so many people - and the requirements for the individual, respectively, are also quite a few. Plus rudeness and aggression at every turn. " We go berserk when we endure for a long time, consciously or unconsciously: we don’t know how to do it differently, we miss early signals from the psyche and we don’t make decisions about how to cope with what we don’t like, - says Victoria. “There are those who do not hesitate. I don’t like something, right away - I hit, shouted, moved, trampled. These people are easier. For them, the relationship - in principle or with some specific person- not a valuable thing. There is nothing to strain here, sent to hell - and there are no problems.
Another thing is if social connections are important or even overvalued (which is typical for neurotics): let's say you are terribly afraid of losing a friend or boyfriend. Either the hands are tied, for example, corporate culture and it is impossible to send an idiot customer to hell. Then, in order to maintain relations, one has to take a patient position, be silent, adjust in order to be close to someone or not to lose a lucrative contract. And then all that's left is to suffer.
“When everyone and everything is enraged, it means that everyone and everything is very necessary, but it’s impossible to take something important from people or the environment. There is a lot, a lot of power that is not being used. It looks like despair associated with the inability to get through to people, ”continues Vika. But here a legitimate question arises. And if, for example, you snapped at the saleswoman, yelled at the boss, discussed with your friends the reptile who did not call, is this not a surge of energy? “In anger, it is important where and how to direct it., - retorts our expert. - Good for business. Having yelled at the boss, it is unlikely that you will be able to establish contact with him; get your way, even more so. When a person raises his voice, a discharge occurs and the tension seems to decrease a little. But everything else remains the same.” Moreover, a feeling of guilt is added: oh, maybe in vain I offended Sergei Petrovich!
Who has been forgotten? A manicurist who is so interested in your family's future. It would seem, that's really someone who, but she definitely doesn't mean anything to you. But it's annoying! However, with "unnecessary" people, you also have to build relationships and set the right distance. It is possible that you let the lady get too close - and now she is already invading your personal life, one might say, comes to your house, sits on the sofa, drinks coffee. It is more convenient to analyze such cases at the reception of a psychologist. Why is everyone so important? Perhaps it's the lack of good close relationships: while they are not there, you bring anyone closer to you.
What to do if everything is annoying
“The beauty of the situation is that you have a choice, opportunities, and most importantly, the strength to change everything,” sums up Victoria Chal-Boru. And he offers to work productively with it. So when things get mad...
- Stop, sit back, or even lie down.
- Allow yourself to take time for yourself.(fifteen to thirty minutes).
- Localize your feelings: feelings, tension, tingling, trembling.
- Be honest about who and what you don't like. Don't forget anyone, including that guy in the elevator who didn't let you go ahead. Do not rely on memory, take a sheet of paper, but more, and write everything down.
- Look what wonderful people- in some way they will all be similar. Group them according to the degree of rabies they cause or the qualities that offend you.
- Analyze what type of relationship these groups symbolize, by distance: e.g., inner circle, buddies, far circle.
- The hardest part begins. You will have to admit to yourself what specific things you would like in each of these types of relationships. And then show responsibility and do something.
For example, the crowds in the subway are infuriating. This is a distant circle that maliciously invades your life twice a day during peak hours. What can you want in such a relationship? Of course, push a bunch of people away. But you understand: they will not move on their own. Choose what you will do: put on headphones or aggressive clothes - dirty, dirtying others; you start roaring at everyone passing by, pushing, meditating; buy a car or start walking; in the end, you will change jobs.
In the inner circle, the settings are thinner, although the needs may be similar. Move away or bring closer? Defend your borders from invasion or make closer contact? Again, decide for yourself. Ignore and endure, take risks and approach, be interested in a partner or ask him not to do something? Finally tell your husband: let him give you flowers at least once a month or pick up your child from school. Or take the risk of discussing with him what you don't like about sex. At worst, ask him to convey something important to his mother: she is not a member of your family.
Colleagues and partners. Professional relationships are a separate area, with a special type of distance and rules that, alas, are not set by you. But you can still choose whether to follow them or not, realizing, of course, that this is only your responsibility. There are options: to obey and rage, to obey and accept, to obey and agree on possible changes in working conditions.
In the case when you want to enter into a relationship, to be in them, make up your mind and take a risk - start approaching people. Pay attention to them, note how different they are (and sometimes strange, yes), be interested, be curious, invite to communicate. Be sure that your "body movements" will not go unnoticed.
- When you have already begun to take all these responsible actions, observe if something changes, and try not to devalue what is happening right away. Phrases like: “I do, I do, but nothing happens” quickly return you to your original state - and, of course, save you from change. Maybe that's what you need? Sometimes it's better to be angry than to endure changes in your life. And this is also your decision and your choice.
Irritability is contagious. The slightest excuse - and we are ready to pounce on the one "who did it", without finding out the reasons. Words that the boss is out of sorts instantly fly around the office, and it becomes spacious on his way. However, the one who is in an excited state is also not sweet. What should I do to recover as soon as possible? Seven steps towards peace.
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1. Find the cause of irritation
Although it seems to you now that literally everything is annoying, the main reason is always there, and very often it turns out to be simple and even banal. It can be a small cut that you constantly touch, an uncomfortable insole, an unloved prickly scarf. Analyze the events of the day and remember when you felt irritated for the first time. Be sure to eliminate the cause: it is the insignificance of the event that makes us postpone it until later, which becomes fertile ground for new discontent.
2. Limit coffee and alcohol
Sometimes unlimited access to coffee in offices can play such a trick on those who cannot deny themselves another cup of coffee and do it every hour. Psychology Today blogger Guy Winch recalls a barista friend he once worked with who was extremely emotional person, and year by year it became more and more difficult for him to restrain himself. It turned out that the reason for this was the endless cups of mochachino that he could afford while working at the bar.
3. Sometimes we do not admit to ourselves the true cause of stress.
Because it's stupid to be angry at someone who passed you and managed to sit in an empty seat in a subway car, or came up with a word three times longer than yours when you decided to play scrabble? That's why so many of us don't realize true reason irritability and drive stress inward. Such minor annoying troubles have a subtext for a proud person - "you are not the first." Be honest with yourself, get to the bottom of it, and remind yourself of what an adult and successful person you are.
4. Feel sorry for yourself
When you find fault with everyone and everything in annoyance, do you know deep down in your soul that you are doing something wrong? Undoubtedly, and sometimes the more you realize it, the more you find fault. Make an unexpected move - take pity on yourself. Imagine that someone who cares about you comes up to you and hugs you. If you feel better, you can come up and hug the person you just lashed out at.
5. Change the scale
Usually we are not annoyed by global things, but, so to speak, by events of medium and small scale. Those that after a couple of days we will not remember at all. So push the perspective, change the scale and think about what suits you in a global sense: home, work, family ... Or even if you are so lucky, both, and the other, and the third.
6. Get rid of excess energy
It's no secret that a person as a biological species is "designed" for a greater range of movements during the day. In addition, large portions at lunch provide us with calories, some of which we will never use. Let us add that part of the nervous energy accumulates from unspoken and restrained emotions. If you lead a sedentary lifestyle, briskly walk part of the way home from work, or better, at the slightest sign of irritability, go straight to the gym.
7. Set aside time for silence and solitude
If you are completely alien to the idea of sports, just the opposite will help. Irritability can be a natural reaction to an excess of communication, to the people around us everywhere, openness. How many eyes do you think look at you every day? Our ancestors, the same ones who guarded the ancient sites, would tell you that each such glance must be analyzed (is it friend or foe?) to take into account what action will follow in a second. So don't beat yourself up about being stressed, your body is just working at its maximum and asking for a little rest. Turn your music on (or off if you listen to it with headphones all day). Do a couple of stretches or just let yourself lie down without getting up for as long as you want. Then take a deep breath and get ready to return to your usual rhythm.
Many are familiar with the situation when everything infuriates, even the most insignificant trifle and, it would seem, a neutral situation, when you want to crush or, conversely, cry from impotence. All this is a sign of accumulated aggression, the cause of which may be hidden in constant external pressure on the psyche or in internal experiences.
Often the cause is stress, overwork, an abundance of incoming information, constant sensation haste or waiting. When the general irritation from disorder or dissatisfaction grows, but has no way out, it develops into powerful aggression, which must be thrown out, otherwise the state of the psyche will approach the neurotic, and this is already a serious medical problem.
It is very important to remember that anger and anxiety cannot be brushed aside. The constant suppression of such natural feelings (unless, of course, they have become eternal life companions) leads to a deterioration in both moral and physical health. And, as a result, to aging, and to other complications.
About Methods
There are several ways to help timely cope with the intensity of passions and boiling feelings. First of all, it is necessary to eliminate the irritating object, isolate your consciousness from an objectionable situation or some kind of trouble. Going to another room, turning down sounds, even just taking off your tight shoes or changing jobs (in more severe cases) are all good ways.
You need to learn how to disconnect from the world around you, withdraw into yourself, but not into the constant grinding of problems, making plans and thinking about what to cook for dinner, but to find inner emptiness. And only then, having found a quiet corner, begin to fill it with warmth and joy.
It is important to exhale resentment and irritation from oneself, and not even figuratively. Feel your body and give both it and your mind something pleasant. For some, this is their favorite music, for some - flipping through old photos, and someone just wants to pet a cat. You need to do something for yourself at this moment. Selfish and honest. Scarlett said "I'll think about it tomorrow." Maybe it's worth adopting the method? At least learn to solve problems as they come after calming down. Don't pile everything up at once.
If psychological unloading, which requires time and "hunting for a change of place" is not suitable, and the situation requires a speedy resolution, then you will have to give aggression a sharper outlet than exhalation. Which? Convert psychological irritation to physical activity. Go for a run, squat, vigorously rip open a stack of paper, dance, smash something, or even yell if conditions permit. Only not on relatives and loved ones, even if they are involved, but nowhere.
And the most effective salvation from the state when everything infuriates is the following: do not succumb to provocation difficult situations and take care of yourself.
Everyone is prone to anger in one way or another. Irritable are all and always, regardless of character, level of education, upbringing and gender. Irritability can be a character trait, or maybe a symptom of a disease. But despite this, we can control outbursts of anger and irritation, the main thing is to know the causes of these negative manifestations.
In the most unexpected situations of our lives, we can feel growing and strong irritation as close person as well as to strangers. We can be annoyed by a certain environment, situation and the whole world as a whole.
Everyone knows what irritability is and what we feel when we are irritated. But few people understand the reasons for the appearance of this feeling. Too many people take their irritability as some psychological problem, which suddenly appears and interferes with a full life. So why is everything annoying?
Why is everything infuriating and annoying? Causes of irritability
Irritability is associated with obstacles that arise on the way to a certain goal. Irritation is the first reaction to an obstacle or hindrance. For example, you planned a trip, but it did not happen due to certain circumstances or people - irritation appears. In this situation, people, things or circumstances act as irritants.
Irritability in both women and men appears when a person cannot accept the situation that has occurred as a given, and also cannot influence its outcome.
Irritability can lead to aggression when a person has an object nearby on which to throw out their indignation. By the way, it often happens that people suffer from irritability, who are not to blame for the problems that a person has. It is all the fault of such a vile property of irritability, which is most directly connected with the impossibility of our consciousness to adequately respond to the obstacle that has arisen.
This property does not appear immediately, but some time after the event in which your interests were infringed. This can happen in ten minutes, in an hour, or even in a day. Thus, "under hot hand» you will get completely different people, situations or environments. This is not always the case, but very often. At least due to the fact that a real obstacle in your way cannot experience the strength of your opposition.
If there is aggression, then you will not find an ounce of irritability in it. Even those who, having properly boiled up and filled with not the most iridescent feelings, begin to destroy the world, explaining to his victims how he got sick of everything, how he was disgusted with everything. But in this person, in fact, there is no longer any irritation. There is only aggression in its most direct form. Therefore, irritability is always perceived as something foreign, arising in us without warning and apparent reason.
Irritability is explained as an annoying nuisance, a bad personality trait, a disturbing feeling that you want to get rid of once and for all.
But you seem to have already figured out that this is impossible. On the one hand, we cannot rush with a sledgehammer at any obstacles that arise in our path. On the other hand, we cannot be indifferent when our interests are obstructed and hindered. If both of these conditions are true, then irritability appears. And that's okay, that's the way it should be.
So if you look at all this from a certain point of view, then a person needs irritability in the same way that he needs pain. Ideally, you want to never have pain. But what is important here is not even that it exists, or that it does not exist, but only that it can appear when it is relevant. Pain is an immediate physiological response to an overly strong sensory stimulus that can be detrimental to your body.
So why is everything annoying? And what to do if everything infuriates?
Irritability is a delayed psychological reaction to a situational stimulus that is an obstacle to achieving a particular goal.
Accept your displays of irritability as a natural emotional reaction to obstacles that arise.
In time, establish the cause of your indignation, what specifically interferes with the implementation of the intended, analyze all the circumstances and accept them as they are. And then you will learn to control your manifestations of irritability and aggression, without offending loved ones and relatives.
It is an out of balance mentality. This is not even a property of character, so you need to somehow avoid such states, and if this has already happened to you, then sort yourself out before you finally quarrel with everyone. Reasons why this happens Stress, problems at work, in the family, in life... Sooner or later, all this develops in a situation where everyone is angry. Getting used to anger, experiencing its outbursts more and more often, you soon begin to feel anger all the time. Most often it depends on your perception of the situation. If you do not understand that you are the creator of your own happiness and continue to be angry at everyone and everything that is possible, believe me, you are doomed. Doomed to be angry forever. Angry everywhere. Get angry at everything. From this vicious circle need to get out. Constant irritation and anger - should they be ignored However, if you have already brought yourself to such a state, then this is a sure sign that it is time to do something about it. The first thing that comes to mind is to ignore everything that happens to you and try to continue living with clenched teeth. Is not the best solution, because if the disease is not treated, it can turn into depression, neurasthenia, or even into a nervous breakdown. Remember - this is a road to nowhere! An untreated disease can lead you to premature death. Alternatively, you can survive, but at the same time become a permanent patient of a psychiatric clinic. Do you need it?First of all, calm down. To do this, you have to retire, move away from your problems. How to put consciousness to zero. From this point of view, you will have to analyze what went wrong in your life, what exactly led to uncontrollable anger? That continues to feed her. Maybe you can exclude some one factor, some single link, and this endless chain of grievances will break, release you from captivity. People are pissed off It happens that you begin to jar from the company of people. People around are slow, lazy, stupid and so on. There may well be ordinary fatigue behind this, especially if you work with people. Try to stay at home alone for a couple of days, because you also need to rest from communication, right? You can get out into nature and live alone in a tent. In a week or two it will pull to the people. Annoying work Job. Most we spend our lives at work. And very often it starts to enrage us. No one can work without rest, and here you need to think: maybe it’s just worth taking a vacation? It's time to give yourself a break, change the environment and environment for a while. If the vacation does not help, then maybe you just need to change jobs? Not everyone, of course, has such an opportunity, but think about it, because money can't buy health and happiness! Sometimes you just come across a nasty team that you don't fit into. Especially if you are used to the fact that the work is done in a team, count on the support of colleagues, and they sit on you instead! Get your feet out of this place of work and forget it like nightmare. Remember, it is always possible to find a good team. Not everywhere at work is such a "viper" in which you are now. If you go to interviews, then try by hook or by crook to get to know potential colleagues at least briefly. Here you just need to act, and not get angry. Annoying loved one If something annoys you, you can always spend time with someone you love. But what to do if the one you care about begins to annoy you? Try to talk to him, he will enter into your position and try not to get you. Or, everything is very bad, then perhaps it is not for you? Sometimes you can ask to take a time out in a relationship. Go away for a week, miss each other. Maybe this will save your relationship. If you can't cry into your lover's vest, then just keep her out of your troubles and pause before deciding to break up. Everything pisses me off and I want to cry Cry! Tears are generally designed to release excess tension through them. It is best to do this where no one sees you, so that this does not lead to a new round of tension. Drown out the sounds of crying with music or the sound of water, and begin. Believe it will help! Tears are the way out of unspent aggression. Even the Bible says that those who mourn will be comforted. Trust this authoritative source.
