Cruelty always stems from heartlessness and weaknesses.
The struggle for power is a painful passion. Who is amazed, does not recognize good laws - that cruelty is just familiar. Yes, it will cost us all such a attack!
Whatever terrible crude animals seemed to us, a man is much worse in his cruelty. Although cubs and animals, and people cause lunizing.
Cruelty and fear shook hands each other.
Cruelty is always the result of fear, weakness and cowardice.
Breast-friendly people cannot correctly serve generous ideas.
Cruelty as the quality of personality is a tendency to show an offensive, unlimited, inhuman attitude towards other living beings, to hurt them and even encroach their lives.
A. Pisemsky once in a circle of drama expressed the idea that it was that a dramatic actress could create. "Take," he said, - a pretty and honest girl, twist her with a bastard, who would be pretty sent it, four times nailed, then drove somewhere in the village, a verst for two hundred and downtown, and drove out to the cold in a shirt ... Here is such a dramatic actress will be released. "
The whole history of mankind is permeated by examples of cruelty, chopping blood and amazing mind. There is no cruelty in the animal world. The wolf will not kill the hare to felt his importance or see the sadistic ruffle, as he wakes up from fear. The boil hypnotizes the rabbit is not for the sake of enjoying his grave suffering. The lionic, hunting for ancope, is absent to her hatred. Many animals are characteristic of aggressiveness. This is their way of survival, but they are never killed for the sake of murder, for the sake of obtaining pleasure from the torment of another living being. Animal behavior is managed by instincts. Cruelty as a moral category has no fastening to animals.
Cruelty is the denial of life and the incarnation of bezadresan hate to everything. She was born simultaneously with the yield of man from the animal kingdom. What happened that the gorilla is no cruelty, and the evolutionary continuation (person) is at least debugging? Man unlike animals endowed abstract thinking. As soon as a person saw his reflection and said: "This is me," cruelty starts his life from that moment. Ego and cruelty have identical birthdays.
The ego identifies himself with the body of a person and with things of the outside world, it needs a sense of possession, which always remains in the form of deep dissatisfaction, feelings of omissions and insufficiency. The ego says the mind of man: "I still have enough", implying "I'm still insufficient." Being under huge influence Ego, man is trying to prove its importance, asserted by all possible methods. He masters new spaces and habitats, fights with all their forces for his social status. The more rigid or severely affected by the circumstances, the more severely it reacts to conditions, intolerable and threatening it. Cruelty becomes a form of protection against aggression, for example, a neighboring tribe or conquistadors. Cruelty creates cruelty.
Las Casas testifies: "When entering into the village, the conquistadors did not leave anyone alive, the fate of this was also old and young. Christians were fought on the mortgage about the one of them by one of the sword strike destroyed a man in half, or cut off his head, or reveals the insides. Oh other wrapped with a dry straw, tie it to the body, and then, poured with straw, burned them. Others cut out both hands, and these hands were suspended to the body, speaking by these Indians: "Go with these letters, spread to news among fugitives, accused in the forests." And since sometimes it is not enough, and rarely, and at a fair reason - the Indians killed some of the Christians, the latter were dealing between themselves, which for one Christian who would kill the Indians, Christians should kill a hundred Indians. "
It is possible to argue: "Ego ego is, but not every person is inherent in cruelty." Quite right, but with one reservation. Cruelty is inherent in all people. Only one thing is in the manifest form, and most people have in secret, hidden even from them themselves. Cruelty is the reverse side of pity, this pity is inside out. Under certain circumstances, the secret side of the individual can reveal in all the terrifying urgency of cruelty. Pity for cruel killers turns into betrayal and cruelty to their victims . When the loop was overwhelmed on the necks of Gering, Goebbels, Rosenberg, guilty of the death of tens of millions of people, hardly someone decided to blame Nuremberg Tribunal in cruelty. And when a maniac who killed dozens of innocent people, goes to life imprisonment is, just, and is called treason and cruelty towards victims. They, if they are expressed metaphorically, "look" from the graves as the grass grows, and he sees the sun and the sky blue. He eats, sees dreams, can enjoy masturbation, from the memories of the past and live hope for the future. It can still hundreds of times to worry about the killings for him for him. Save life to such monsters, it means to show cruelty. Today we are a cruel state.
It seems to us that we bring up a child, and in fact we, often, cultivate his ego. The result of the upbringing may be weak, strong or overwhelming ego. Most people have a weak and strong ego. Take, for example, the strong ego. When the requirements for the child were strict, but clear, fair and fulfilled when they did not humiliate his human dignity, his ego would become strong. A person grows with a sense of responsibility for his actions. He is able to independently overcome life difficulties. Such a person, most likely, will not replenish the rows of maniacs and cruel murderers.
The supplier of cruelty is the overwhelming ego. It is brought up if the child was presented too hard, exorbitant and impracticable requirements, and punishments were cruel and humiliating. The child was constantly driven into a sense of guilt, because he is always guilty, not good and do not love. The child becomes ruthless to himself and to all living things. Humiliation and cruel punishment of childhood he transfers adult life, becoming an independent performer of cruelty. The child dismissed the ego, turning it into a monster. Cruelty is an internal deformity. If the child "broke" ego exorbitant requirements and harsh punishments, he will become a loser, with low self-esteem and permanent feeling guilt. And if they could not "break" his ego, but only crushed and harvested on the whole world, then such a marriage in the upbringing will turn to someone's misfortune. Cruelty becomes a consequence of marriage in the education of the ego. It goes without saying that in incorrect education of the ego not only the parents, but also society. The flow of violence poured into the child to the outside world, provokes indifference to someone else's pain and produces a habit of aggressively look at the world.
If aggressiveness is congenital quality of man, then cruelty is the "scale" of the ego. Therefore, the reasons for the staggering cruelty, for example, in interethnic conflicts should be seen not in the innate aggressiveness of individual nations and its members. Its reasons are hidden in those specific conditions in which the ego of individual members of the nation occurs, in those ethical values \u200b\u200band behaviors, which are transmitted to them in the education process.
Cruelty is not synonymous with merciless and ruthlessness. Cruelty, often accompanied by the need to enjoy the torment and suffering of living beings. Such cruelty develops from the quality of personality into the mental pathology and receives the name of sadism. History indicates that power is sometimes merciless and ruthless. True cruelty stems from weakness. So, Guy Julius Caesar was cruel to the resisting enemy. After the victory, he was interested in conducting mass repressions against enemies. Caesar refused flat. A completely different impression is performed by the actions of other type policies. Caesar August. After taking Perusurance. All those who tried to pray for a mercy or justify him, he broke into words: "You must die!" He chose 300 people from all classes surcedished, and in Martov Ida, the altar of the deified Caesar interrupted them, like sacrificial cattle. Lucius Valery Mesal Volz, Asia Proconsul (11-12 G.N.). On one day I executed 300 people. Stone between the corpses, exclaimed: "On a royal act!" XVII century. Ladies die with laughter, listening to the stories of the Duke of Lotaring about how his people were tortured and tied in peaceful villages of all women, even the old woman. Caligula. Sodlened cattle. On the fodder, the wild animal orders to leave the criminals. Sacrifice. Caligula - Assistant Reznika. When the animal was led to the altar, the hammer blow kills the drain itself. Invited executed on the feast. Feast. Caligula smiles. What? "And what is worth nodding and you will be pressed a pharynx."
A sample of a weak person and at the same time a cruel king was Nicholas I. According to his order, Dostoevsky was arrested only for reading the letter of Belinsky to Gogol in the circle of Petrashevsky. He was never a revolutionary, and in the circle attended from boredom. By the court decision, Dostoevsky and nine other members of the mug were deprived of the noble title, the ranks were enclosed in the Peter and Paul Fortress. The Military Court admitted the Dostoevsky "one of the most important criminals" and, accusing him in criminal plans against the government, sentenced to the death penalty. Nicholas I, to try, ordered: "Announce about pardon only at that moment, when everything is ready for execution of the execution." At the Semenov Place in St. Petersburg over them were the rite of preparation for the death penalty. The dramatization was carried out so convincingly that one of the first three sentences came crazy.
Cruelty does not depend on the floor. Nevertheless, as in nature, females are superior to their poisonousness of males, and in life, some women in cruelty will exceed any man. Hungarian Batory, better known as a bloody lady. I tormented and killed the maids and the peasants: they brutally beat them, the hands, faces and other parts of the body with a hot iron, filmed the skin with still living victims, Morious hunger, mocked and raped. In 1610, it was concluded for home arrest on charges of murders, heresy and witchcraft. At the process of serving the castle, the exact number of sadistic sacrifice was not able to name: the approximate Council, which was on the dock, talked about four - five dozen killed, the rest of the servants assured that the corpses of hundreds took place. Catherine Knight The first in the history of Australia, a woman sentenced to life imprisonment. In October 2001, during a family quarrel scored her roommate with a knife for cutting meat, after which he was abandoned above the dead body so that he would have been chikatilo, it would be necessary. Irma Griz is one of the most cruel wardrifiers of women's concentration camps of Hitler's Germany. Torturing prisoners, she resorted both physical and psychological violence, scored to death and having fun, shooting on prisoners. She Morious famine his dogs to then hurt them for victims, and personally selected hundreds of people to send to gas chambers. The dream was heavy boots, with it always, in addition to the gun, there was a braided whip. It was sentenced to death through hanging.
Thus, the cruelty of its existence is obliged to false ego. This is necessary, but not sufficient condition for the birth of cruelty. It is necessary that a certain bouquet of human qualities formed as a result of the upbringing, the smell of which would absorb the ego. Threw by this smell, the ego pushes a person to the manifestation of cruelty. It seems that a bouquet of cruelty consists of betrayal, indifference, humiliation of others, ruthlessness, merciless, mockery, unreasonable aggression, violence, egoism, intolerance, despair and sadism. In the bouquet of cruelty, there may be an obsession with some utopian idea, such as the ideas of communism or universal justice. Cruelty is always outside the ethics and indicates the transition of all permissible moral boundaries.
Peter Kovalev
We often complain about how cruel in relation to us the world. Our censure fell on the malicious judgments of colleagues, aggression, emanating from adolescents, the ruthless attitude of wealthy officials to the subordinate to the social stairs to people. What is cruelty? How to deal with it? We will look for the answer to these difficult questions not only in the reality around us, but also in the depths of our own consciousness.
Characteristic concept
General psychology describes in detail what cruelty is. According to experts, the ability and opportunity to cause pain and suffering to people, animals, nature. A man in can pounce with fists not only on the interlocutor, but also on ordinary binding items: it breaks the furniture, destroys the technique. You will say that it is impossible to be cruel to inanimate things. Yes, it is partly so. But in this case, the splash of negative emotions is indirect. After all, the individual does not receive severely with things, but with that man who bought them, spent earned money, with love causing a dwelling.
The most common form of cruelty is children's. First, she arises due to ignorance: the baby does not understand that, Calace Cat, he brings her pain. Over time, the upbringing and age give fruit, the child is produced by compassion, sympathy, the ability to empathize. In this case, the cruelty is easily eliminated. If the baby consciously causes injury to the living organism and gets pleasure from it, the help of psychologists is simply necessary here.
Causes of occurrence
We are not born by evil people. Such people become survived weight injury or stress. This usually happens in childhood, when the rapid psyche cannot cope with deep experiences. Watching conflicts and assault in the family, the baby is harder, becomes aggressive. The reasons may be somewhat: it copies the behavior of someone who hurts, or sympathizes the victim and exhibits the breathtone to the whole genus of the human because of suffering suffering.
Special cruelty can develop in a teenager because of his egoism: he is stated by the fact that he is not noticed at home, they are not praised at school, they do not stand out as a leader in the yard. Unable to earn a reputation in another way, he applies violence against peers and relatives. Interestingly, the attacks of anger cause some unpleasant odors, for example, tobacco. Their reason can also serve as mental disorders, somatic diseases, social factors, love experiences, and even watching militants who demonstrate rigidity and ruthlessness.
Main species
What is cruelty and why it arises, we have already found out. Now let's highlight the main forms that it acquires in the process of contact of an evil person with the outside world:
- Physical. Such cruelty is violence, the use of physical strength, bodily injury and injury.
- Indirect. Looks like evil jokes, gossip, curses that significantly spoil the life to another person, bring him pain and trouble.
- Irritability. The state of "on the verge" when negative feelings are ready to manifest themselves with the slightest remarks of the interlocutor, gesture, look.
- Negativism. The cruelty "called". It is manifested in the form of meaningless aggressive deeds aimed at crushing installed canons and traditions.
Cruel attitude towards people is also manifested in the form of threats, curses, swearing, calling. In this case, anger is verbal. It is essentially similar to indirect, only unlike her has an open form.
How to help the victim
The cruelty of people is a feeling that occurs under certain circumstances. Not always and not with everyone. Circumstances add up in such a way that a favorable soil is created to germinate the root of evil. Usually, the victims are insecure people who constantly doubt and worry, have such people are convinced that they are deservedly criticized or beat. They, like a magnet, attract cruel people who wish to bring them a whole set of a variety of disadvantaged.
If a person himself cannot get out of such a state, you should help close and native people. The potential victim should be explained that it is individuality, personality. And no one has the right to call it and beat, mock her. A person needs to make it clear that the offender himself shaves a variety of complex, which hides behind the patient aggression. At the same time, all paths to overcome the victim complex should be aimed at improving self-esteem and the belief of it in their own success.
Other ways of protection
To those who suffered from cruelty, you need to urgently take action. First, sign up for the School of Martial Arts. After examining the receptions of self-defense, the victim will be able to apply them in practice - on their offender. Some experts argue that it is not worth responding angrily to aggression. But some of the psychologists are still confident that the change of behavior imposes a cruel person into a stupor. He does not expect such a pressure and retreats.
Secondly, you need to seek help. If aggressive behavior comes from children, then talk to their parents and teachers. When the cruelty manifests an adult, then they will not only protect you from the offender, but also determine him if his actions are particularly violent. In the case of verbal cruelty, you can simply ignore the unpleasant words or respond to them with humor - the opponent will soon get tired of spending their strength and it will find another object for claims.
What is cruelty? This is a phenomenon that is completely eradicated. The most important weapon in the struggle against the aggression directed towards you is your hardness, confidence, calm, competent actions and ability to stand up for yourself.
Almost every person sometimes manifests cruelty. In most cases, negative emotions we tear on those whom we are very expensive. What is this explained?
If we communicate with a person who is not particularly close to us, but which we are very expensive, we we try to control Your emotions. After all, we understand that he can leave us at any time forever. This fear Forces us to restrain.
But if we contact with family members or relatives, we have no doubt that they will be with us until the end of their days. If you even throw all your negative on them, they still will be forgotten about it anyway. "Where will they go?".
Sometimes a person simply needs to pull all his negative emotions. However, if you say, he will do it towards the employer, it can entail the deprivation of the workplace.
As a rule, a person controls himself when communicating with employees, neighbors and buddies. However, if he, staying in bad mood, it turns out to be among the relatives, then he not at all controls With its emotions.
A person can get out of himself even after the lacaround of the words obscured by someone. After pulling out emotions, he feels relief in the soul. Naturally, ON. consciousWhat does incorrectly do. However, at the subconscious level, it realizes that if it is periodically not to be released from negative emotions, it will be easily or late to come crazy.
In this regard, we are often cruel with those who love and who loves us. Naturally, it seems paradoxical. However, we feel need Being confident in what they will not give us.
In this regard, we break the negative on the closest. After all, they will value us. Many of us from time to time conflict with mom. And at the same time it does not matter who is right.
Nettaactive behavior in relation to the parent is determined by what we know that mom will love us until the end of days. Approximately the same we behave in relation to relatives and close friends.
Anyway will go!
It is worth noting that many people too often allow themselves rudeness when communicating with loved ones. They break off even because of nonsense. However, if you show cruelty constantly, then your close person one fine day may simply endure your tactlessness and disappear from your life.
As an example, it is possible to bring the situation when parents constantly break their bad mood on siblos. When children grow up, they tend to leave their father and mother forever.
It also happens that a man, splashing all his negative on the soul mate, in the end, loses his beloved woman. The victim can endure bullying only a certain period of time.
How do I all tired!
Some people often have to hear that they bored Their close, who are all the time nearby. Naturally, we are sincerely tied to them. However, our habits are constantly nervous.
Of course, for some time we all tolerate. After all, our loved ones want us all well. However, when we finally bored tips close man, we start him bubble.
Sometimes we are nervous how he behaves at the table. Of course, we love it that it seems to us that we cannot live without it. However, when he, for example, begins to be mad at the table, we immediately begin to be angry and grumble.
The situations are known when close people do us to such an extent that we leave them for a removable apartment. Such a step, as a rule, gives us the opportunity to analyze your attitude to those we love.
Sometimes a person behaves unfairly and brutally to close relative to another generation. After all, people who have a difference in age have completely different views on life and all sorts of situations.
Almost every one of us from time to time conflicts with grandparents, grandparents, father and mother. Quarrels especially often happened in transition.
We were nervous that the elders constantly advanced prohibitions before us. We, in turn, tried to raise them more.
I want to be independent!
For what other reason a person can show cruelty towards those whom loves? Because of the desire to be self. He believes that his loved ones constantly impose him his point of view. And he does not want to live by their pointed.
Therefore, a person begins to tell them different quiet. If close and then continue impose he has his own advice, he often starts them insult.
Naturally, after a while, a person understands that the people around him gave him advice only from the best feelings. However, then it seemed to him that only insults would help him to achieve independence.
As often yesterday, a person whose character seemed to us almost perfect, exhibits unheard and unexpected cruelty to others. If you analyze his behavior to such situations, you can find some indirect signs of cruelty and aggressive human behavior (hereinafter subject). Let's look at what you should pay attention to when meeting the subject and close communication with him.
Everything is perfect.
You came to the first date, I liked each other and lead cute secular conversations. Your new chosen one is raised, restrained, deprived of nervousness and calculates every effect. Stop! Too all perfect. It is very difficult to control each trifle of your behavior, especially at the first meeting with pleasant man. So, a man put on his mask and tries to seem better than in fact. The question is, what is the purpose of such behavior? This is a great desire to like or unwillingness to show a true essence?
Egocentrism.
Everything should go according to the plan and desire of a person. He will never come out with personal pleasure to make a pleasant to another person. If he needs to accompany a close man to the event, while skipping his favorite auto racing, he will choose the second. It can be said that this is ordinary egoism, where is cruelty? And despite the fact that in any situation where the choice between the interests of a person and his partner will be, he will choose his own interests, even if, at the same time, the second will suffer (physically or psychologically). Inability to put yourself in place of another and understand the damage caused - it is also cruelty, although not explicitly.
Mood.
The subject occurs a sharp change of mood, if everything goes wrong, as he wants. His interior Fully depends on external factors. He does not have self-sufficiency, self-control and independence, thanks to which a person behaves calmly and controls the situation (and not the situation controls it).
Anger expression.
Frequent emotional explosions, manifestation of anger, even in small situations. Write a person to conflict and see how he behaves. He may, because of the petty claim, sharply increase the voice, but quickly become the same. Either increase the tone on the waiter, which brought a dish. Or in public transport roughly scolding a person who has come to his leg. The most truthful emotions last the first couple of seconds, and then a person again acquires control over himself and becomes good-natured and calm. Therefore, carefully follow the first satellite reaction to provoking factors.
Intirect to someone else's opinion.
The subject seeks at any cost, impose its point of view. And very nervous, if dealing with a confident and conscious person, who has his own opinion. Providing advice, instructions - this is a desire to control someone else's life. A cruel person does not recognize someone else's will and other point of view, except for his. If your friend started to prove something nervously, while interrupting and not giving inserting the word, it bad feature. In future relationship, he will control every step of his halves, and absolutely all - ranging from the style of clothing, a circle of communication and ending with the value system.
Man - pathological lies. Because of fear to be incomprehensible, show his true face, he is lying, constantly looking for excuses to his antics and does in all the guilty surrounding. A comrade does not like to speak about his misconducts, or finds excuses. As in the situation:
- Dear, where have you been yesterday?
- It's a lie! Who told you?
Unusual situations.
You can learn about the unusual deeds that the interlocutor did. Pay attention to such: participation in extreme situations, under which the interests of other people (animals) are addressed, all sorts of familiar draws, who have experienced fear, offense, disappointment. He may chance accidentally about such adventures.
Forcing to certain sexual actions, while the desires of another partner are not taken into account. And even on the contrary, knowing about the reluctance of a person to do something, the desire to achieve this at any cost. The subject does not exist internal border, and every time he will invent an increasingly sophisticated sexual behavior until an unexpected situation happens at which someone will suffer.
Behavior with other people.
Intentional provoking conflict situationsCause of behavior in society. The subject chooses the victim weaker than him (physically, mentally), and it tries to behave with equal to himself restrained, control their actions. Remember whether you have no situations when dangerous situation (Hooligans in the doorway, aggression of wild dogs, etc.) Your companion behaved suspiciously, showed cowardice?
For example, you walked, holding hands, and passed by a crowd of young people who asked to smoke. And your young man at the same time the hand twitched, giving off the fright, unpretentiousness to protection. If passersby required money, your companion could well leave you and flush. The most interesting thing is that such a person will then find a million reasons for justifying his behavior, ranging from a rush to the last tram and ending with a sharp premonition of a suddenly incorporated iron at home.
Family behavior.
In a relationship, a person seeks to take a dominant place, while humiliating the dignity of loved ones. If he does not respond to him, he is convinced of the correctness of his behavior and aggravates the ill-treatment. An indirect sign of cruelty in the family can be a biased attitude towards children, in which it is important not to understand the situation, namely finding the guilt of the child and the reason for the subsequent punishment.
It is very difficult to reveal the hidden cruelty from the interlocutor. This can be done only when a stressful situation occurs in which a person cannot control itself and behaves naturally. With a big desire, you can specifically create such a situation to look at the reaction of a new acquaintance. In any case, if there are even several items described in this article in the behavior of a person, it is worth seeing to him more closely and objectively. And draw conclusions to further communicate with it.
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Every day our life penetrates a solid negative of various scales. The media servely report who killed whom, robbed, hit. Constantly various sources of information are adjusted to our information information on new cataclysms, political troubles. And the positive, in comparison with the number of negative news, is negligible. It seems that good and good in the world is completely left. Unfortunately, this stream "closed" the head so "clouded" that no one even thinks today, why are people such cruel? How to change it? And really Lie modern humanity so soulless?
Main reasons
Why are so many brutal people? The answer to this question should be sought for the causes of aggression. It should be noted that the manifestation of cruelty is quite multico. At the same time, it is not difficult to identify it. A person who hurts another pain, causing suffering, no matter, morally or physically, fully aware of this and striving to cause harm - cruel.
Psychologists allocate three reasons why people are cruel:
- Dissatisfaction with life. Operations dissatisfied with their fate are quite often subjected to stress, depression. These emotions are so much overwhelmed by their soul that at any moment they are ready to break free to freedom. That is why all the negative often splashes by mothers on children. Some people under the action of anger break the branches of trees, beaten animals. it independent state quite dangerous because it threatens the owner the emergence of neurosis, mental disorders. In addition to all this, the permanent negative seriously shortens the life expectancy, leads to the development of heart disease or skin problems.
- Indifference. Very often it generates unjustified cruelty. Some people do not even try to understand how much pain can cause their actions, and sometimes words. They do not think about how much they can hurt the other. In this case, the object of their cruelty becomes a weak creature, which cannot show emotions and explain what pain caused to it.
- Published emotions. Sometimes aggression man exhibits "on the side." This behavior is peculiar to those who are in everyday life It is forced to constantly hide and suppress desires, emotions, gust. Most often, such cruelty among the grew children (especially boys), which have grown in the family of authoritarian parents in the family of authoritarian parents. Employees who are unquestioned to fulfill the orders of the head, without having the opportunity to identify their will, in some conditions they can show extremely cruel mercy.
Historic cruelty
The older generation loves to be surprised - why so many cruel people appeared? That's before everything was kinder. Listening to their merchants, involuntarily agree. It is only worth opening a newspaper or watch news.
Previously, people should think. And before - is this when? Millennium Back, when cannibalism flourished? Well, these people can be even justified by and large. They were primitive. And they did not know about humane attitude towards the Middle. Or maybe the kinder were those who lived in the Epoch of the Inquisition? Or during the reign of Stalin? A lot of people sitting on prisons thanks to the bottom. How many sort of "Dobryakov" sincerely tried to present the neighbor "Gift"!
Why does the feeling that today is so many cruel people? Of course, media made their contribution. In the era of democracy, they pay more attention to the manifestations of cruelty. It should be noted that the level of humanity in humanity increased, so the aggression is so stronger.
Relationships with relatives
All people tend to show cruelty. One thing happens very rarely. Others quite often show aggression. At the same time, a brutal act can anyone, and quite often such outbreaks happen from truly good people. Unfortunately, the whole negative splashes on the most relatives and friends. For those who really love and very roads. Why are people such cruel? What makes them "tear" anger on their relatives, and with the surrounding to restrain the gusts of anger? Why in communicating with close people does not manage their behavior?
Yes, because relatives communicating with other people's people, a person is holding away. There are a lot of reasons: and the desire to arrange the interlocutor to yourself, and the fear of losing an interesting friend. In the case of the boss, incontinence may threaten the dismissal. But if you get into the circle of relatives, especially in a bad mood, a person can withdraw even one word. Then the scandal is flared up at a completely scalp. Of course, this is rooted incorrectly, but the accumulated negative requires discharge. That is why he is poured on the most relatives and loved ones. They, even if they are strongly offended and collapsed with them, they love so much that they still will be forgotten.
Root of evil
The feeling of anger is given from nature. It is necessary that in dangerous moments mobilize all the forces on the struggle. But as it will be used by a person, depends on the norms of morality, bunned in childhood. If parents treat aggression towards the child, it will definitely be aware of. The relations between children and fathers, based on fear, most likely will be adopted by a teenager in communicating with peers. It is in the family that the root of evil should be sought. This upbringing clearly explains why people become cruel.
Although another model of behavior can be developed in this situation: it decides that it is bad and to blame for everything. Such a teenager becomes a victim of the cruel treatment of peers. Often it is not even looking for protection methods, believing that he deserved like.
Sometimes the cause of aggression may not be at all violence, but a hyperemp. This method of upbringing invests a feeling of permissiveness in the child's subconscious. Teenager misses itself the most important and requires unquestioned subordination. Unfortunately, a person, not scientific parents respect others, will not yet flow this wisdom. He will not even notice how to humiliate.
Unstable in society
An indirect cause of cruelty is increasing anxiety. Unstable generate a sense of discomfort. From TV screens, people see again cruelty. A person whose psyche is formed, able to distinguish the grain from the husk, he will not take aggression as a call for activities. The child will absorb, like a sponge, screen scenes of violence. And it can perceive all this as a certain school of life. It is important to realize how much children's psyche hurts such television, and the answer to the question: "Why did people become cruel?" Instantly will be obtained.
Feeling non-acceptance
It is especially developed in adolescence. However, many adults suffer such feelings in adulthood. Quite often you can watch the picture when the kid loudly exclaims on the street and pokes his finger into individual with another skin color or having a physical disadvantage.
Adults react quite differently. At the subconscious level, they feel a sense of danger. Immediately there is a desire to threaten. But some it is manifested in cruelty and violence. It is this feeling that sometimes makes teenagers to mock the peers differing from them. Why are people such cruel? Again, the grafted skills of tolerance and respect in the family will not allow a teenager or an adult to behave.
How to defend the victim
Psychologists claim that the team is fairly easy to determine what kind of people are cruel, and who is a "lamb". Therefore, the victim of aggression is advised to identify the following signs:
- diffidence;
- complete taking opinion that trouble is deserved.
It should be started with the awareness of your "I". Anyone has a number of advantages and disadvantages. He is, what is it. And no one has the right to offend him. Only fully accepting this truth, you can move on along the way of raising self-esteem, the development of a sense of success. Parents can help the child in this awareness. An adult man, since the behavior model has rooted, it is better to use the help of a psychologist's professional.
As a rule, the passion for some new business helps well. You can even sign up to the martial arts section.
It is very important to consider the reaction to the offender. He will be perceived anyway, if the answer is different from his expectations. In some cases, it helps try not to succumb to irritation and send a complex conflict in the rush of jokes. At the same time learn how to perceive less acutely unpleasant situations.
How to deal with your own aggression?
The reasons described above give an idea of \u200b\u200bwhy good people become cruel. But how to deal with such manifestations? What to do if you start internally screamed?
Perfectly cleaned from negative physical exercise. After all, sport teaches conscious control over their emotions and body. Psychologists are often recommended to master respiratory gymnastics. It will allow you to manage the body, and the Spirit.
Find a safe exit for the accumulated negative. Throw your emotions with a cry. Only not on relatives and not on your colleague. Shout where it is necessary. For example, become a tary football fan or attend rock concerts.
By the way, psychologists recommend this technique: get up near railway in the evening. When the train goes around, shout that there are urine, so loud as soon as you can. Wheel noise will muffle any sound. Nobody will hear you, and the body will receive the necessary discharge.
Conclusion
Remember that with that feeling of cruelty that occurs within you, you can cope only. And it is completely for the power. If you want to find an answer to the question "Why people such cruel", start with yourself. Analyze your behavior. Get rid of the poisoning feeling, because sooner or later it threatens to grow into a hardest depression.
