Probably, every person at least once in his life asked what to do when everything is bad. Not glued at work, problems with studies, no personal life, relatives do not understand, friends betray ... But you never know the reasons when a person can despair, give up and fall into depression? If you find yourself in this situation, then you urgently need help. And first of all, you must accept it from yourself.
And we will help you do it. How to cope with a depressed state and regain the joy of life? What to do when everything is bad? I hope that the following simple tips will help you overcome problems and change your life for the better!
When everything is bad: act
- Don't hold back your emotions. What to do when the soul is bad? When did you most recently experience a deep emotional upheaval? Give vent to feelings. Everyone does it in their own way. Someone is crying on the shoulder of a close friend, and someone is planning a grand party to distract themselves. Do what you want (of course, within the law), and you will see that it will become easier.
- Break the problem down. Try to think about it objectively and dispassionately. Identify the cause and think of possible solutions to the problem, which can be done now. When everything is bad, you want to withdraw into yourself and grieve, but this is not a way out of the situation. It's enough to be in this state. for a long time- means to register two new tenants in your house: depression and hopelessness. Strong people act while the weak sit and feel sorry for themselves. Be strong!
- Despite the fact that the current situation brings nothing but grief, as it seems at first glance, still think about what she taught you. It is problems that temper character, make a person more experienced and wiser. Think about what your problem has taught you, what experience you have learned from it.
- In everything bad, if you try, you can see something good. Analyze your problem, and you will find positive moments that will surely please you! For example, you met a young man for a long time, were insanely happy, and then he suddenly unexpectedly left you. Yes, it is very painful, but along with the loss, you have acquired one important advantage - freedom. You are free in your actions, you no longer need to think about what he would say, how he would react, what he would do. From now on, you are your own mistress, you have more free time for yourself, and no one has canceled flirting. And flirting, as you know, adorns any woman! That's it! And there, you see, new love will come and be much better than before.
- It is important to say not only what to do when everything is bad, but also what not to do. Don't get locked up. Do not withdraw into yourself, do not dwell on the problem. In times like these, you need to be able to relax. After all, life is so interesting, and you sit and rack your brains over something one and extremely unpleasant. Meet old friends, spend an evening with the whole family together somewhere in nature, go to a nightclub and have fun with a friend, play sports, start learning foreign language or learn a new program on the computer, find a new and interesting hobby, get yourself a dog, etc. Options - the sea! Do what you love and make you happy. The world will sparkle with new colors, and you will discover such bright facets in yourself that you did not even suspect!
- Don't be afraid to ask for help. The support of family and friends, friends and loved ones is very important for every person. After all, these people will always help get out of difficult situation, support and will not leave to the mercy of fate. If you are single, then look for friends. And you will definitely find them. In the meantime, seek the help of a good psychologist. It will help you get back on your feet.
- Finally, don't be afraid! It may take a lot of effort to solve your problem. Does it scare you or are you just lazy. Fight it and do not be afraid to carry out your plan, even if it is very difficult, and then fortune will definitely smile at you! It is useful to remember one important wisdom. King Solomon did not live such a sweet life as many people think. And he had a ring that helped him survive all the hardships. The secret of the ring is in the inscription on it. And it is one simple phrase: "This too shall pass." Remember this in moments of despair. Grief cannot last forever, and happiness will surely smile at you, just help it a little!
We have already written about depression and apathy, but what to do when your heart is just bad, and you seem to understand that this will pass, but you want to somehow speed up the process? First of all, accept this state, do not try to reject it - absolutely all people are prone to blues, to a greater or lesser extent. This is due to the change of seasons, and the lack of sunlight, and hormonal changes in the body. In order to quickly return to a good mood, use our tips on what to do when you feel bad at heart.
1) Eat positive! The first thing to do in the fight against blues is to reorganize your diet by adding mood-enhancing foods to it. These include milk, tomatoes, fish, blueberries, broccoli, red peppers, bananas, cottage cheese, whole grain flour products, all kinds of cereals and almonds, as well as citrus fruits. Don't forget about the visual component of food - when food looks beautiful, mood and appetite increase by themselves. It will be just great if you are fascinated by the preparation of a new dish, for example, cottage cheese pie with almonds and banana. Inhaling wonderful aromas in the kitchen and enjoying the results of your labors (better not alone), you will quickly forget about all your worries.
2) "Injections" of joy. Imagine that your feeling of "not feeling well at heart" is a perfectly treatable disease, and follow the written prescription for the most positive films, books, series and magazines you can find. Review your favorite comedies, films about love, in which a happy ending invariably happens, re-read positive books, in general, remember everything that has ever made you laugh, touched you and cheered you up, and take it with shock doses!
3) Surround yourself with care. Very often, a depressed state is a sign of fatigue, so your body reminds the owner that he is not a machine, he needs rest, care and affection. Give it to him now! Go for a massage, take a fragrant bath, stop overworking yourself at home, let someone else cook food for several days, or go to catering with the whole family. It is imperative to reduce the level of stress, and for this, forget about problems and worries for a while, and focus on your loved one. The sooner you get out of the current state, the sooner you can return to your life with its sorrows and joys.
4) Get rid of the old. There are two wonderful and accessible to everyone techniques for those who do not know what to do when the soul is bad. One of them is a general cleaning of your archives and mezzanines. No, we do not force you to wash windows and vacuum the far corners: your task is to get rid of all unnecessary old rubbish that completely unreasonably takes up space in the apartment, not letting new positive energy into it. Haven't used the item in the last six months? So you don't really need it. Give and throw away everything: old notebooks, clothes, broken furniture, unnecessary books and interior items. Pay attention to how much easier it becomes to breathe with each discarded bag or box - of course, because you get rid of the ballast, the burden of the past, which does not allow you to move forward.
5) Create a new one. The second practical technique, which is a logical continuation of the first one, is creation. Draw the sun or flowers on the wall, repaint (re-paste) the wallpaper in a bright color, enliven the room in which you spend the most time with flowers, fabrics, something new. This will help to breathe new energy into you, so that your soul becomes light and joyful.
How nice it is to open your eyes, stretch in a warm bed, look out the window at the sun-drenched sky, greenery and courtyard, drink delicious aromatic tea and start a wonderful day. And then everything works out. Then the Soul itself rejoices and already problems are just tasks, insults are not noteworthy little things, and loved ones are the most wonderful people. And here it is happiness - there is joy inside, things are arguing, and everything around is developing the best way.
Unfortunately, this is not always the case. I think many people have come across a special condition that pushes the joy of life out of reach. This condition is often called a stone on the heart. It is burdensome and it seems that the world is shrinking to those problems from which it is impossible to escape. And then bad dream leaves a residue for the whole coming day, any little thing irritates and develops into nervous tension and maybe a scandal. At such moments, even the most beloved food loses its taste, and loved ones seem so distant and alien that it still shrinks inside. This state is especially susceptible to people who perceive the world through emotions, sensations and internal states. It is difficult for them to switch and get the wave of unpleasant emotions out of their heads. It is also difficult because it is necessary to throw it out not from the head, but from the body and heart.
I am writing about this with knowledge of the matter, tk. herself like that. Yes, hypersensitivity has not only pluses, but also minuses. I will write to you how I cope with such conditions. Perhaps some of the above will be useful to you.
Walk. If inside there is a desire to curl up in a ball and lie for such a long, long time, try to pull yourself together and go outside. Go where your feet will go. This will help switch your body from one state to another. Thus, you yourself will be a little distracted. Especially if you listen to or hum a song at the same time. This works best if you walk in a safe area and during daylight hours. If you have the opportunity, it is best to take a walk in nature. No need to wind up kilometers. You can just walk for 15 minutes aimlessly in one direction, then turn around and go home.
Music. Sometimes you need to enjoy the state to the fullest in order to let it go. And if only sad songs come to your mind, I would not be in a hurry to drive them away. But there is always a golden mean. Therefore, after sadness and sadness in songs, switch to dynamic and lighter compositions. This will be what you need. Especially if you switch to music that will make your body dance. Dance, movement, relaxation and muscle contraction is another chance to release tension in the body through movement and switch internal state. You can give preference to mantras, classical or instrumental music. Here for your taste. In any case, I recommend experimenting in this direction. Regarding songs, music and mantras, look at what resonates in you, what is close to you at the moment. In no case do not force yourself. The important thing here is to enjoy the process.
Smells. You can, of course, smoke a person out of his depressive state with the help of something smelly. But it's so drastic, and it might not work. I would recommend aromatherapy techniques, when with the help of this or that smell they switch the state of a person. For example, orange oil gives joy, verbena- tones up, mint - soothes. You can wear an aroma pendant, you can soak cotton wool and put it on a pillow, you can add a couple of drops to a humidifier or an aroma lamp.
Here are a few recipes that help you switch to a harmonious emotional state:
Calm harmonious state:
- Valerian - 4 drops.
- Ylang-ylang - 3 drops.
- Lavender - 3 drops.
The joy of life:
- Verbena - 3 drops.
- Ylang-ylang - 6 drops.
Relaxation and tranquility:
- Sandalwood - 4 drops.
- Bergamot - 3 drops.
Burning herbs, pieces of trees and resins. Thyme, sage, oregano, juniper are considered sacred in many magical traditions. They help stop internal dialogue and calm emotions, thereby switching the emotional state. Take any of the listed plants in a dry form. Take an iron tray or iron plate at least 15 cm in diameter. Light the dry plant gently. Sit nearby, inhaling the smoke. If the herbs came to you in a crushed form, then you can light them with the help of coal for incense, these can be bought at the church shop. You can also buy there myrrh and frankincense. Ideal if you take natural resins without additives. Their smoke also cleanses and pacifies the body and Soul.
Drink. To calm down and throw out the shackling state from thoughts, heart and body, it is well suited druid tea. He is Phu. You will need: valerian root and a pinch (to taste) of lemon balm or mint. Wash the valerian root, put it in a teapot and fill half with boiling water. Let it brew for 15 minutes. Add lemon balm, add boiling water to the kettle to the top. Let it brew for another 10-15 minutes.
To cheer up and awaken your inner fire, brew yourself ginger tea . Grate a spoonful of fresh ginger, add a slice of orange and a few sprigs of mint, pour boiling water over everything. Ingredients can be increased or decreased according to your taste.
Creation. When such a person is not around, you can write everything down on paper, or on canvas. Clay, plasticine and other similar materials take emotions very well. If you have the opportunity to engage in planting something for fun, do not limit yourself to this. I'm going to cook do not recommend, because then your whole family will eat your unpleasant state. But it can be made from wood or any other material subject to you (even on cardboard) scattering spiral(twisting counterclockwise). It can be worn around the neck or in a pocket. Ideally, if it will be in contact with the body. So your unpleasant state will dissipate.
Stones. Make friends from the world of minerals. They are not windy and are quite constant in their choice. Therefore, if a stone chooses you, this is a fruitful union for many years. Here are a few stone options that will help you unburden your Soul and take a deep breath:
Turquoise- in the old days it was considered exclusively male stone. It is a symbol of good luck, prosperity and victory. Turquoise is a good amulet for brave people, whose life is often interspersed with dangers.
Jet- protection from dark forces. It absorbs pain, negative emotions and fears of a person wearing jet. It also absorbs bad thoughts ill-wishers. The jet put under the pillow protects from nightmares.
kyanite- has a general tonic effect on the body, helps to better circulate energy through energy centers. They have a calming effect on the nervous system.
Malachite- removes energy blocks in the body, if applied to them. Improves energy flow throughout the body. Removes emotional stress. Creates physical and emotional harmony, absorbs negative energy.
Obsidian- saves a person from rash and dangerous actions. Helps to face life changes with courage. This stone is able to cleanse from negativity.
Tourmaline- removes fears and anxieties. Helps to believe in one's own strength, gives a sense of security and helps to believe in one's own strength.
Unakite- helps to achieve harmony between body and spirit, mind and emotions. Helps to live in the present, cheers up, removes sadness.
You can choose for yourself one of the listed stones. But, if you trust your own intuition, then my favorite way to choose a stone will also suit you. When leaving the house, think about the goal - I want to buy a stone that will help me ... And here there may be options for what it will help, for example, get out of a depressive state, strengthen the will, achieve the goal, etc. With this thought, come to a place where stones are sold. Mentally ask the question: "Which stone will help me in ...". Now go ahead and choose. Look, take it in your hands, feel it. Trust your feelings. The stone that you like, the one that becomes warm in your hands or somehow resonates with you internally - it is the stone that you are looking for. On this journey behind the stone, you may need information on how to negotiate with the Spirit of the place. And when suitable stone will be with you, then it will be possible to negotiate with the Spirit of the stone (read how to do this in the article "My stone is a talisman" on the Wizard portal). Of course, the stone will give energy anyway, but by agreeing with the Spirit of the stone, the result will be stronger.
As for how to wear stones, it is good to wear them in beads, a rosary (if you are in the habit of wearing a rosary in your hands), in a pendant, a bracelet. Those. so that the stone is in contact with the body. So the connection will be stronger and the effect of wearing the stone too. Unfortunately, often the stone in a modern ring or earrings does not touch the skin. Therefore, the connection will not be so strong. If you take one large stone, then you can carry it in your pocket and pick it up when you feel the need for it. As for the stone on the keychain, if you constantly carry it with you on a bag or keys, it can hit and deteriorate, which means your relationship will deteriorate, and its beneficial effect on your life will decrease.
All of these techniques will switch your state to one in which it will be much easier to cope with the task before you. Remember, the stronger the person, the harder task puts the sky in front of him. And you are able to cope with what has been sent down to you. May Heaven help you in this, directing you on the Path of Truth, Order, Justice and Peace. May there be more pleasant moments in your life, bright colors and happy days.
"There is no salvation without sorrows, but the Kingdom of Heaven awaits those who endure."
Reverend Seraphim of Sarov
Depression, loneliness, withdrawal from the world...
How terrible these words are when the soul hurts. I would like, of course, to wish everyone that there is always a bright heart, that joy always lives in it. But there is no earthly life without pain. Many of us have had or will have moments when we feel bad at heart, we want to cry; when you don't want to see anyone, you don't want to talk to anyone; when there is no desire to eat and move. It seems that he would lie here for years and wait (s) until his soul hurts, and his heart wants to rejoice again. But, as a rule, in life all the problems pile on a person and turn into a big snowball. Possible causes of depression: loss of a loved one, trouble at work, lack of variety, loneliness, premonition of something unkind, sad memories, loss of meaning in life, unrequited love, failures, self-doubt, dissatisfaction with oneself, quarrels, misunderstanding of loved ones, complexes, rumors , lie, "black stripe", betrayal.
What to do when you feel bad at heart and want to cry?
What do you do when you feel bad and want to cry? Maybe cry? Yes, this is a great option. It is a pity that it is short-term, and after it the head splits.
Here are a few more ways that may help when you feel bad and want to cry:
- Start correcting mistakes (if at all we are talking about them, if there is something to fix).
- Arrange a noisy fun holiday.
- Workout.
- Allow yourself to sleep as much as you want.
- Review nutrition. Start consuming more dark chocolate, cheese, coffee, bananas, oranges.
- Relax in the bath, massage, spa, etc.
- Go on a trip.
- Engage in meditation.
- Seek help from a doctor or a psychologist.
- Go headlong into difficult work.
- Walk more and relax in nature.
- Start a repair.
- Go shopping.
- Do charity work.
Personally, being an Orthodox person, I advise you to confess and take communion. Priests call depression the cry of the soul about its trouble. Do not fall into the sin called "despondency".
What to do when you feel bad at heart and want to cry, everyone can decide for themselves. The main thing is to do something. Of course, time heals all wounds. But it is precisely the moment when mental pain pours over the edge that you also need to be able to experience correctly.
What not to do when you feel bad at heart and want to cry:
- Constantly analyze your condition, constantly scroll through traumatic events in your head.
- Ask yourself questions: “Why do I need this?”, “Why did this happen to me?”. If you really can’t ask questions at all, then it’s better to think: “Why (for what purpose) were tests sent?”
- Blame yourself or someone else.
- Develop a plan of self-destruction.
Depression is dangerous in all manifestations. Remember this. I recommend Sinelnikov's book "Love your illness".
Yes, it is difficult (or even impossible) to give recommendations on the topic “What to do when you feel bad at heart and want to cry” in one article. I just want to ask you to accept all trials with gratitude. They make us stronger. Or I really want to believe it.
What do you do when you feel bad and want to cry?
Do not forget that life is not one day. If it didn't work out today, tomorrow things will be different. Friends forgot to call - there will be time and you will not call. All the clouds that are gathering over our heads are all temporary. Difficulties must be overcome.
“It happens that wherever you look, everything is bad. Hands down, I don’t feel like doing anything, my heart is sad and, as luck would have it, my friends don’t call, there’s a blockage at work, and a nightmare on TV, the pictures taken by my beloved Sony DSC-TX55 disappeared without a trace on the PC. - writes the website growth.in.ua. And what to do when everything is bad? How to get out of this state when you feel bad? What to do?
We offer you a number of tips and we hope you find the answer for yourself, what to do when things are bad.
1. Think only positive things.
Remember, absolutely everyone can change their life. Only desire is needed. And to change your whole life you need to start with your own thoughts. If you constantly think about only bad things, it will come to you. You have heard many times the phrase that thoughts are material. What does this phrase mean?
2. Talk about good things
It is not enough just to think about the good, because the word is also material, and therefore it is necessary to talk about the good. With friends, at home, at work, say that life is getting better, everything is just fine. If acquaintances begin to discuss the topic in front of you: “where is this world heading”, do not support this discussion. After all, you know that everything will be fine, life is getting better every day.
3. Don't drink
Do not try to flood all the problems with alcohol. They will only add up. In addition, you will lose your health and a lot of money. The same goes for smoking. This is a direct path to permanent illness.
4. Go in for sports
You can advise to go in for sports: it gives positive emotions, health. It is not necessary to achieve records, just a regular run, swimming pool, morning exercises are enough. It not only invigorates the body, but also tempers the spirit. After that, you will not want to think about the bad, decide how to overcome depression.
5. Love
Love always changes life for the better. She brings a lot of positivity and happiness into our lives. This bright feeling turns our life upside down, inspires us to exploits, to achieve success. What can be depression if you love and are loved?
6. Give free rein to your emotions
It's not true that tears won't help me. Sometimes it is enough to cry when the soul feels bad to see life in a new light, to understand that it has not ended yet, that there are other interests in life.
Try to look at your situation impartially. Is she really that bad? Look around, how many people around you are much worse off. But they continue to live, rejoice, fight.
8. Communicate
When everything is really bad, you really want to withdraw into yourself, not to see anyone, not to communicate with anyone. This is the wrong way. On the contrary, be among people who can listen to you and relieve suffering.
9. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, start taking action
Stop feeling sorry for yourself: many are worse off than you. Get started. This is the only way to change the situation. Or start a new life.
10. Ask for help from loved ones
Feel free to ask family or friends for help. For any person, timely support is very important. It will help solve the mass life problems and find a way out of any situation, and especially when bad at heart (what to do?).
