There are many cases when this happens. 3 main reasons why during the first sex the hymen does not tear, but stretches...
The hymen is different for all girls, it can differ in the number of holes (for example, there are ring-shaped, lattice and septate hymens), in the size of the holes and their locations, in the thickness and density of the hymen, in the ability of the hymen to stretch under mechanical stress.
In most cases, during defloration, girls may experience pain and also observe bleeding, the intensity of which can be completely different, since their nature, as I have already said, directly depends on the anatomical structure of the hymen in each specific case.
In some cases, during the first sexual intercourse, a girl may not experience any pain or bleeding.
According to statistics, almost 30% of women do not experience pain during defloration, and 10% of them also do not experience bleeding after defloration.
This can be explained by the fact that:
Firstly, some girls may not have a hymen from birth.
Secondly, some girls initially have a large hole in the hymen, which is capable of allowing an average-sized penis into the vagina. Also, the hymen of some girls can easily stretch, and sexual intercourse can easily take place without tearing the hymen.
Let's take a closer look at the second one.
What does “hymen stretched” mean?
Quite often, when girls hear that their hymen has stretched, they do not immediately understand what they are talking about and what actually happened. The reason for this is the not entirely correct definition of what is happening, that is, the name.
It would be correct to say not “the hymen has stretched,” but “the hole in the hymen has stretched.” After all, what is really happening? When penetrating a virgin’s vagina, the penis rests against the hymen, in which there is a hole. So, if this hole is very small compared to the penis, then when a certain pressure is applied to it, the penis breaks through it and as a result, what is called in medicine defloration (rupture of the hymen) occurs.
But if the size of this hole is almost identical to the volume of the head of the penis or slightly smaller, then when pressure is applied, the head of the penis is partially immersed in this hole, exerting pressure on the boundaries of the hole itself. Under pressure, these boundaries begin to stretch. If this pressure does not increase sharply, but gradually, then this allows the hymen, or rather the hole in it, to gradually increase in size. When the size of this hole is stretched to the size of the equal head of the penis, the penis eventually passes completely into the vagina through this hole, without tearing the hymen itself. Sometimes small tears occur at the edges of the hole, after which barely noticeable bleeding can be seen, but the hymen itself remains intact.
What causes the hymen to stretch?
3 reasons why the hymen does not tear but stretches during the first sex:
Greater elasticity of the hymen and a large hole in it. All girls are different and, accordingly, their hymen is also different, with its own shape, thickness, elasticity, etc. The size of the hole and the elasticity of the hymen are the 2 main criteria that determine the likelihood that the hymen will not tear during the first sex, but will stretch. The larger the hole and the more elastic the hymen, the more likely it is that the penis will penetrate the vagina through the hole without tearing the hymen itself.
Small dick. Since the size of the penis in this context is a relative concept, that is, it depends on the size of the hole, it would be more correct to say that the larger the size of the penis corresponds to the size of the hole, the more likely it is that the hymen will stretch rather than tear.
Slow gradual penetration. Such penetration, depending on the duration and elasticity of the hymen, can stretch even a small hole.
The hymen is not torn - what are the consequences?
Usually, the main consequence of the fact that the hymen did not break during the first sex is discomfort at the beginning of each intercourse in the first stages of sexual life. This is pain and discomfort during the first penetration of a penis. This happens because during the time that a girl spends without sex, the hole in the hymen narrows slightly due to regenerative processes. With each subsequent penetration of the penis into the vagina, this hole again has to be stretched a little, giving the girl not entirely pleasant, perhaps even slightly painful sensations. But pretty soon, if the girl is sexually active, the hole will stretch to the required size and over time will cease to remind of itself and disturb. Finally, in this case, the girl will lose her hymen only after she gives birth to a child.
Is there any other way to break the hymen?
Naturally, this will be quite difficult to do.
It is possible that if one of the girl’s next sexual partners is a man whose instrument of love is significantly larger in size than the penis of his predecessor or predecessors, defloration will take place.
The most effective and fastest way to tear a stretched opening of the hymen is intimate surgery. With a quick (15-20 min) and easy operation, the hymen can be cut. This option is good for those who do not want to wait for the time when their hymen will no longer cause them discomfort during sex.
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2008-01-17 23:33:40
Asks Sad sun!:
I had the following problem: I didn’t have sex, so I was confident that my hymen was intact. But my boyfriend inserted his finger into me while having oral sex, and I didn’t feel any discomfort and he didn’t have any obstacles either, so he began to doubt that I had a hymen... I’ve used a tampon once in my life, maybe that’s the reason? And is it possible to avoid damaging the hymen by inserting a finger? there was no blood either...And can a doctor confirm the absence of sexual intercourse if it is disrupted? Help me please!
Answers Karapetyan Eliz Martinovna:
Good afternoon Due to the fact that the hymen is quite stretchable, it is difficult to say for sure whether you are a virgin or not without examination. In addition, the hymen can have different shapes (oval, triangular, semilunar, etc.), it can be underdeveloped, it can be completely absent or have large holes in it. Theoretically, insertion of tampons and masturbation could damage the hymen. When the hymen ruptures, in 90% of cases bloody discharge and pain appear; if you have not had any discharge, perhaps the hymen is not yet damaged. Or you are one of the remaining 10% of the lucky ones. If the issue of the integrity of the hymen is of fundamental importance to you, contact a gynecologist for an examination; the doctor will pay sufficient attention to any of your questions and, believe me, will not be surprised by anything. Be healthy!
2009-11-19 22:37:13
Svetlana asks:
Hello!
Please tell me, is it possible to have first sexual intercourse without blood and pain? The fact is that during the first sexual intercourse I had no pain or blood. Before this, I had not had intimate relationships and I did not use tampons, so in my opinion I could not damage the hymen in any way. True, there is one “but”: my sexual partner inserted his finger into me, and when he did it for the first time, it was very painful for me. Tell me, is it possible to lose my virginity with my finger and if not, then why didn’t I bleed the first time?
2008-04-01 16:42:30
Anton asks:
Hello. My girlfriend and I are still virgins (but we are already adults). While we are doing petting. She uses tampons and recently I inserted my finger into her vagina. I didn't feel much resistance. She also said it was nice. Is it possible to damage the hymen in this way? Is it possible to insert a finger if the girl is still a virgin?
Answers Karapetyan Eliz Martinovna:
Hello. The hymen can be damaged by aggressive actions in the area. If treated with care, it is problematic to cause harm to it, since it is quite elastic and stretchable. As for the insertion of the finger, firstly, it must be clean so as not to cause any infection and, secondly, it should not contain your sperm in order to avoid the occurrence of an unwanted pregnancy. Virginity does not protect against pregnancy in any way.
2008-10-25 20:37:30
Andrey asks:
Hello. My girlfriend and I had sex, she is a virgin. The caresses took place a week ago, there was no sperm, lubricant was released, it could have gotten into the vagina from my fingers, the hymen was not damaged. Now the girl has a delay of about 2-3 days. What is the chance of pregnancy? The girl is 18 years old. What do you advise? Can I already use a pregnancy test? And what is the chance of getting it right? Thank you.
Answers Karapetyan Eliz Martinovna:
Good day, Andrey! A test won't hurt. If sperm gets into the vagina (and the lubricant contains sperm), pregnancy is possible.
2007-12-07 17:46:17
Olga asks:
Hello! I’m 17 years old. I haven’t had sex with my boyfriend, but after the next... I don’t know what you can call it, simulated games, something started sticking out of my labia a little... I’m just in horror!!! And about virginity... I’m already starting to doubt it!.. I just didn’t expect this from myself!!! I didn’t EXPECT IT!!! So... this “something” came out a little from the inside, but it doesn’t hurt. ..what could it be? The remnant of a torn hymen? Although I didn’t see it at all, or what? Maybe he hurt me with his fingers? I repeat: it doesn’t hurt... I just feel discomfort... And also, when I read that the hymen is located 2-3 cm from the outer labia... I’m just hysterical! This is the 1st time this has happened to me! Maybe it’s nothing?
Probably every young girl has heard similar stories a million times: first sex is painful, it’s bloody, it’s scary. She is tormented by questions: “What if the hymen does not break? What if it doesn't work out? What if the penis doesn’t go in?” Young men, on the contrary, are usually very determined: they are born deflorators, and will definitely tear everyone apart!
Let's find out if there is anything to tear there?
First, let's remember what the hymen is and where it is located. The hymen (or hymen) is located approximately 1-3 cm from the entrance to the vagina. This is a thin film that blocks access to it. There are different types of hymen, but always with one or more small holes to drain menstrual blood.
When the time comes for the first sex, the girl experiences defloration. That is, the rupture of the hymen when the penis first penetrates the vagina. At the same time, the girl may not be in pain at all! And there may be no blood.
Girls and young women new to physiology may wonder: “What’s the matter? Wasn't the hymen torn? What will the young man think? That I'm not a virgin?! Horror!"
Calmly! Are you okay. You just have an elastic hymen. You were probably very horny to boot. Or that the partner’s penis was not very large. It is due to one of these three factors (or their combination) that there may be no blood at all, and the pain will barely be felt.
Undoubtedly, your girlfriend, who frightened you with “rivers of blood” during the first sex, could really experience this herself. And you only got away with surprise: “is this really all, but where is the blood?” After all, the body of each of you is unique! In some girls, during defloration, the hymen actually tears (but does not tear!), in others it simply stretches.
Hymen: What determines the fact of rupture or stretching?
Firstly, from natural physiological characteristics. From accumulation around blood vessels: the more vessels there are, the more abundant the blood may be during defloration. In addition, the very appearance of the hymen matters: the more natural holes there are in it, the easier it will be for the penis to enter. And in this case the hymen will stretch and not tear.
Secondly, the degree of arousal. The following logic applies here: the more excited the body is, the more relaxed it is. Therefore, before the actual defloration, the girl needs to be thoroughly “warmed up”.
Kisses, caresses, assurances of love. Experienced men usually know how to bring a young woman to the desired condition. It is better to abstain from alcohol: after all, you deserve to become a woman with a sober head.
Thirdly, and this is perhaps the most important thing. A girl should trust her first man 100 percent. And want him 150 percent! After all, even if her hymen is inelastic or not very convenient for defloration, its rupture will occur with minimal losses. Because she will trust and confide in her loved one, and the fear will recede.
So what is the bottom line: tearing cannot be stretched? The final rupture of the hymen occurs in women only during childbirth. Therefore, until a woman gives birth, the hymen cannot be torn. Just stretch it. Or tear it slightly if it is not very elastic to begin with. That's all. So, dear girls, don't worry! Trust your man and everything will be fine.
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Using condoms for contraception is a fairly popular and reliable method, but even here there are possible unpleasant moments. For example, a case where a condom broke during sex. And what do you order to do if such a nuisance occurs?
Can a condom break?
How can it be, in any case, questions about what to do if the condom breaks, and even a piece of it remains inside, are quite frequent. Usually small parts come out on their own, but if this does not happen, you will have to see a doctor.
In what cases can such confusion occur? Most often this happens when using low-quality products and violating the rules of use and expiration date. Condoms from Asian manufacturers, with the exception of Japanese ones, are famous for their low quality. The condom can also break if you use an oil-based lubricant. Well, you shouldn’t use two condoms at the same time, then the risk of rupture is higher.
Is it possible to get pregnant if the condom breaks?
As soon as a couple discovers that the condom has broken, both try to understand what this threatens them with and the first thing that comes to mind is an unplanned pregnancy. Is there a high chance of pregnancy if a condom breaks during sex? To answer this question, you need to consider the following points:
- the time when the condom broke - before or after ejaculation. If the gap occurs before ejaculation, then the risk of becoming pregnant is very low. Of course, a certain amount of seminal fluid has already been released and it may be enough for pregnancy, but still this probability is low;
- was there a condom with spermicidal lubricant - it does not give a 100% guarantee, but the risk of getting pregnant is again reduced;
- the day you had sex. It is known that there are “safe” days when the risk of becoming pregnant is very low, these are 5 days before and 5 days after menstruation.
It is easy to understand that if a condom breaks, you can get pregnant and have other unpleasant consequences. Namely, various sexually transmitted diseases.
What to do if the condom breaks?
If a condom breaks, what should you do - take pills, run to the doctor, or will hygiene procedures be enough?
To prevent unwanted pregnancy, you need to remove sperm from the vagina as quickly as possible. To do this, you need to take a shower and syringe with a solution of lemon juice (citric acid solution), salicylic or boric acid - sperm die faster in an acidic environment. To prepare the solution, you need to take 1 teaspoon of any of the listed acids per 1 liter of water. Before use, you need to try the solution; it should only be slightly acidic, otherwise you may get a burn to the mucous membrane. If, when you start douching, you feel a burning sensation, it means that the concentration of the solution is high and it must be diluted with water. The procedure should be carried out for 3-5 minutes and repeated after some time. This may only be sufficient if the condom breaks before ejaculation.
If you are sure that the condom ruptured after ejaculation, then you should take “emergency” contraception measures. 
We are talking about various hormonal drugs, such as postinor, gynepristone (agest), escapelle and mifegin. But it is worth remembering that, firstly, they are effective within 72-96 hours from the moment of sexual intercourse, and secondly, they should only be taken under the supervision of a doctor. Since these drugs are unsafe and can cause serious harm to your health.
If you are also unsure of your partner, then you will still have to visit a doctor. Because if a condom breaks, you can catch HIV and less serious STDs. And to reduce the risk of receiving such a “surprise” after the act, you need to wash the external genitalia and syringe with an antiseptic, for example, a solution of potassium permanganate, or a solution of betadine. This should be done no later than 2 hours after sexual intercourse.
