01.02.2012 15:43
The ability to defend yourself with beautiful excuses.
Have you ever had a time when you were cruelly teased and at that moment you feel very uncomfortable in your soul, you begin to feel embarrassed, blush and want to hide away from everyone? The fact of who exactly is teasing you, boyfriend, girlfriend, friend, enemy, child or mother-in-law always plays a role. And of course I wanted to be able to know a decent answer to all the jokes!!! If this is your lover, then maybe it will be nice to be in the role of a defenseless girl and give him pleasure by being embarrassed by his jokes, but if suddenly this is your rival or neighbor with whom you are at war...??? Then, of course, you need to answer with dignity and be able to stand up for yourself!
For example you were interrupted: Excuse me for speaking when you interrupt.
If they joke inappropriately, say: such a sharp joke! I almost cut myself!
If the interlocutor is not interesting and repeatedly teased you: don’t pay attention, I usually always yawn when I’m not interested!
Well standard: Don't talk, and I won't tell you where to go.
And this, for example, when an evil aunt screams at the market where are the youth going?:
Yes, we are the same age, we just take care of ourselves differently.
For the annoying boyfriend: Leave in English, because I will send you in Russian.
Sitting and waiting for a friend, you can turn off an undesirable person:
- Girl, will you allow me to sit with you for a while?
- A little won’t work, next to me they turn their whole head gray all at once!
A banal excuse with a threat: For some jokes, there are gaps in the teeth.
Like this: Are you asking if I like sex??? Of course I owe him my life!
Regarding appearance: Listen, I look at you and all my complexes disappear!
If they suddenly tell you:
No need to be nervous nerve cells not restored! Then you can answer like this: - I should have kept quiet! teeth too!)))
Astrology)): I can guess what your stone is from your horoscope... judging by your face it’s a brick....
If they ask themselves, but you don’t want to use physical force: I could offend you, but unfortunately it still won’t work out better than nature.
From a malicious smile: Just don’t smile at me, I’ve been afraid of horses since childhood.
You can warn like this: dear young lady, are you just so brave or are you insured??
Excuse for mom or grandma: and what’s bad is that there’s wind in my head, because my thoughts are always fresh.
If they tell you that you are angry and bitchy: It’s better for him to be a tigress for a year than to be a sheep all his life!
If a girl refuses to drink: . - Girl, what are you going to drink?
- I do not drink!
- Come on, YOU WILL DRY!!!)))
Data: Nothing is more annoying than when the person you interrupted continues to talk!
For uncultured boys: You will call me CHICKEN one more time!! I'll blow your balls off for you.
If a stranger asks a lot: Dear, you shouldn’t be too persistently interested in my life. You will find it so interesting that you will be disappointed in yourself.
Data))): It’s easier for men, they immediately see what breasts we have. But a surprise awaits us poor women!
Data:.Of course there is women's logic! Men are just so stupid that for some reason they can’t understand her)))
For the talkative gossips: If a person can’t keep his mouth shut, then he essentially doesn’t need teeth!!!
For the picky husband: Cute! There have never been people like you, there are none now and there is no need at all...
In an unpleasant society: I feel so smart next to you.
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-You're so cool when you drink!
- And you're very cool when I drink!
About jokes: Usually the last laugh is the one who didn’t understand the topic right away!
Rough but it will help:
- Such a girl is beautiful and smokes?
- Such a man is scary and talks?
They say a woman should have 5 men: the first husband to whom you can show everything and not tell anything, the second friend to whom you can tell everything but not show anything, the third lover to whom you can show a little and tell a little, the fourth gynecologist to whom you can show everything and tell everything, and the boss who will say whatever he says. !)))
Actually, what they say is true. But it is also true that if you wish evil, it will return to you! So why not wish everyone well, even in those moments when it is especially difficult to do so!!! Try it, and I’m sure the good will definitely come back to you! Be kinder, more pleasant and then you will never have to look for tricky excuses for people!!! Love people, the world that surrounds you, and radiate more good! Good luck to you!
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Stop communicating with an intrusive, rude or unpleasant person. Just limit coexistence with him to everyone possible ways. If this does not work out for any reason, then try not to pay any attention to the enemy. Ignoring you is a great way to show someone that you are not interested in them trying to become important to you.
There are different ways to send people “to hell.” You cannot “send” a relative, a boss, or an acquaintance in the same way. If this close person, think about his feelings. It’s clear that you won’t be able to send your loved one for a long time. Then think about how you will restore the relationship. You can hint to a boss who has exceeded his authority that you are not going to tolerate humiliation. If the position is expensive, then you shouldn’t spray curses and swear words, sometimes it’s better to just remain silent. The easiest way is to blow off your friend by gently expressing your disapproval of his interest in you.
Restraint is the key to success
Not all people are fluent in words, so many try to respond with rudeness to intrusiveness. By becoming like your ill-wisher, you become the same as him. By getting into a rough argument, you can lose not only your nerves, but also respect from the people you care about. Thus, we can conclude that sending someone on “distant journeys” should be done with restraint. Show the arrogant person your superiority by the fact that you can keep your face even in a situation that irritates you. When your opponent starts making some arguments, simply leave, informing him that you do not want to communicate anymore. A self-respecting person is unlikely to want to get into trouble and chase after someone who treated him so humiliatingly.
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If “sending” a person directly to your face is impossible for you, then do it by mail. This does not mean that you need to write a frank letter with obscene language, but you can express your dissatisfaction more clearly using the epistolary genre. If you don’t know how to answer correctly, hire someone who writes custom texts. This method is convenient only when you need to get rid of a person you know well.
The ability to give verbal rebuff provides people with independence from the judgments of others. By expressing your reluctance to communicate with someone in literary language, you will ensure not only peace of mind, but also approval from relatives, friends, and simply witnesses to the situation. As a last resort, if a person absolutely does not want to understand your explanations and gets into trouble, contact law enforcement agencies.
The problem of annoying interlocutors is extremely common. This could be an annoying fan, just a familiar person, an unloved colleague or a “sworn” friend. Many people try to engage in a verbal duel, responding to unpleasant words with abuse or even swearing. Perhaps this is exactly the reaction the instigator was seeking.
It would be much wiser and more promising to stop playing with words and try to emerge victorious from such a situation. How to beautifully “send” a person away without using abuse or “obscene” constructions? First of all, calm down and follow our recommendations.
- 1 What do psychologists say?
- 2 How to “send” a person culturally?
- 3 How to be rude beautifully? Psychological Sambo technique
- 4 Psychological Sambo techniques
- 4.1 Endless refinement
- 4.2 External consent
- 4.3 Broken record
- 4.4 English professor
What do psychologists say?
Psychological science is skeptical about a person’s desire to rise by insulting other people, even if they bore him. It is extremely difficult to offend, insult or humiliate a self-sufficient person.
The situation is such that a wise person will not be offended by truthful words, but simply will not pay attention to an obvious lie.
It is not for nothing that the word “send” is put in quotation marks, since we will not use any insults, much less a three-story obscenity (even as an example). Humiliation, resentment and anger are the lot of a failed person, in emotional background where negative feelings predominate, and disharmony reigns in the soul.
Our task is to respond culturally, using psychological techniques.
Every day we come across dozens, or even hundreds of bright individuals, so conflict situations happen quite often. How to politely and reasonably “send” a person? Experts suggest using psychological sambo - a kind of counterattack that uses the strength (psychic energy) of the enemy.
And once again - no person is capable of offending, humiliating or insulting an interlocutor if he treats himself with due respect.
They take offense at the truth (or half-truths), subconsciously trying on unpleasant words or insults. That is, we ourselves belittle our own dignity by reacting emotionally to unpleasant words.
How to “send” a person culturally?
Sometimes, when listening to an unpleasant or simply uninteresting speech from someone sitting opposite you, the only question that worries you is how to “send” a person away in a cultural manner?
I want to resolve such a not very pleasant situation carefully, without humiliation, insults and obscenities. We offer several simple techniques.
- Try changing the unpleasant topic by asking leading questions that relate to a completely different object or person. If the interlocutor tries to return to the stated topic of conversation, ask questions in a sharper tone. However, it is better to refuse aggression.
- Laughter is an amazing “weapon” that can turn a situation in your favor. Use the full range of humor (sarcasm, banter) to reduce an unpleasant topic to a joke. In this way, you can end a boring conversation and slide off the “favorite hobby” of your interlocutor.
- Try to constantly give the same unemotional reaction - “aha”, “really”, etc. You can just remain silent. Not finding an interesting and grateful listener in you, the annoying interlocutor will most likely go looking for a new “victim”.
In addition, before you think about how to send away an annoying person, you need to understand that not all aggressors should be responded to in the same way. So, if rudeness comes from a boss or work colleague, it is better not to provoke a conflict at all, but to try to stop it as soon as possible. Arguing with your boss is generally not a good idea.
How to be rude beautifully? Psychological Sambo technique
Yes, The best way“send” a person - ignore him. But what to do if the unpleasant interlocutor does not lag behind, but only gets angry? In this case, the so-called psychological self-defense, or sambo, will help, which will not only protect a person from the consequences of an emotional attack (confusion, bewilderment, confusion), but will also allow you to be beautifully rude (in our understanding, to fight back the offender).
If you don't know how to correctly send unpleasant person without swearing, then a psychological counterattack will buy time to gain self-control, “restore” causticity and the ability to make caustic responses.
So, psychological self-defense requires:
- use of clear speech structures;
- communication using the correct intonation - for example, you need to communicate calmly, even coldly, thoughtfully or with a hint of slight sadness;
- thoroughness in conversation, achieved through:
- pausing before responding;
- slowness in answers;
- turning not towards the offender, but in the other direction.
Psychological Sambo techniques
When thinking about how to politely send a guy or just an acquaintance away without using insults, the easiest way is to turn to psychological self-defense. Let's take a closer look at his most popular techniques.
Endless refinement
The use of such a technique involves posing a question - which means that the opponent will have to think, transform the emotional charge into a rational, rational one. In addition, you will gain a little time that the interlocutor will spend thinking about the answer.
– This dress doesn’t suit you at all?
– What exactly do you not like about this dress? Which one would you recommend?
Remember that before responding you need to pause and speak calmly, even a little distantly. It is likely that you won’t even have to be rude.
External agreement
This method of psychological counterattack involves agreeing with the opponent’s statement. You show that you paid attention to his words, agreed with the criticism, but in fact you simply disarmed your interlocutor. After all, he was counting on you to start being rude or lose your temper.
– You look absolutely terrible in these pants!
– Most likely, you are absolutely right.
– You are too self-confident!
- Yes, you're right, I'm self-confident.
– You shouldn’t be late!
- Yes, I'll work on it.
External agreement does not at all imply that you have changed your own position. However, after such an “agreement,” the aggressor usually retreats and even changes his attitude towards you. And you no longer need to figure out how to send an unpleasant person away without swearing or swearing.
Broken record
This technique is based on an interesting technique - you repeat the same verbal structure in response to rudeness or simply an annoying request. It is extremely important to come up with the right phrase so that it can be repeated over and over again without disrupting the flow of the conversation.
– Only you can help me complete this report!
– But no one wants to help me!
- Sorry, I'm extremely busy today.
- And what should I do now? I was counting on you!
- Sorry, I'm extremely busy today.
When using this technique of psychological sambo, you should not be distracted by other topics. In addition, you need to communicate with a person in the same calm, sad tone. Irritation or sarcasm is not acceptable.
English professor
This technique is based on your unwillingness to do the act or actions that the manipulator requires of you, because it (supposedly) contradicts your beliefs.
Thus, you pull the rug out from under the offender, because you react completely differently than he expected from you.
– Why do you wear black clothes all the time?
– You see, this is my peculiarity, my highlight.
-You are so strange...
“I’ve just come to terms with my oddities, and besides, they allow me to stand out from the crowd.”
Always remember that rudeness and insults are almost inevitable. Acquaintances or even strangers often prefer to throw out their negativity on others, so you should be prepared for any development of events.
Don’t forget that you can come out of almost every unpleasant situation with your head held high, and you can repel the aggressor through humor, calmness, or psychological self-defense.
Many in their hearts can shout out something abusive that they would not normally say, others cannot say a word without swearing, which shows not only their disrespect for others, but also bad manners. Before answering the question of how to send a swear word, let’s figure out what a swear word is.
The most rude type of profanity in languages is called obscenity. It is believed that swearing is a phenomenon purely in Russian and related languages, but everyone knows a couple of swear words from foreign films in other languages.
Send without swearing
Using swear words in public, according to the law of many countries, is regarded as hooliganism, for which you will have to pay a fine. Therefore, you shouldn’t lead yourself into waste, and if you really want to speak obscenely, here are a few examples of how to send a person away without swearing.
- We rearrange the syllables of swearing expressions, so that swearing will no longer be perceived as swearing. For example: go ahead, you fucker
- The second option is for very witty people. You can show your imagination and, one might say, literary talent. For example, in childhood, they often used the phrase: “Go to the farm to catch butterflies.”
- You can send it to where you were born from.
- Or another option - go to x, igrik and the eleventh letter of the alphabet.
- You can send the offender on an erotic tour.
How to send without swearing, without swearing at all - it’s more difficult, but it’s possible.
For example, you can politely say that you do not want to communicate with this person because his worldview has not yet developed to the level of an intelligent and sensible person.
Another option is when you have been betrayed and you want to somehow hurt the offender. Tell him that he completely fulfilled his purpose on the planet - he acted meanly and ugly, the mission was completed, the balance of evil and good was restored.
I can also give you a recommendation to read the works of V. Sinelnikov, who promotes a positive attitude towards the world. We ourselves caused everything that happens to us through our actions or thoughts. And if someone has driven you to the point where you want to shout an offensive curse, stop and think about why this happened. We create the world around ourselves.
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Every person has faced the problem when the interlocutor gets boring.
There may be enough reasons for this, and they all often lie in the people themselves with whom you happen to talk.
What is wrong with the person opposite?
- Monotonous, monotonous speech;
- Inability to listen;
- Constant looping, repetition of the same thing;
- High tactility.
These are the main reasons discomfort accompanying the conversation.
Monotonous, boring interlocutors, “mumbling” the same thing, often sit on their ears, start the same, broken record, which is no longer relevant.
People who interrupt frequently show their disinterest in you and your thoughts, problems, opinions, etc. And you, succumbing to the mirror effect, respond with mutual hostility.
Another unpleasant aspect is manifested in the excessive tactility of the person who entered into a conversation with you. This factor is especially annoying if you have known your interlocutor very recently.
People who violate a space considered intimate, touching your face, hands, or other parts of the body, obviously cause a defensive reaction.
How to skillfully be rude
Sometimes, listening to the monologue of the interlocutor standing opposite you, the only thing you think about is how to quickly, politely break away from speeches that do not interest you, move away from an unpleasant topic, and how to beautifully send away an annoying man or woman? But how to carefully, not abruptly, resolve the current situation?
There are several tricky but correct solutions to this problem. So, let's learn how to send beautifully.
Change the topic, carefully leaving it within your means leading questions. This is easy to do; first, test the waters by starting to ask questions carefully, slowly.
If this does not help, the interlocutor continues to return to what he started, change the questions more sharply, throwing them at the person opposite.
Intonation should not contain aggression.
Another reliable option is humor. Apply your charm to in a comic form reduce the topic to zero.
Don’t be afraid to exaggerate and laugh at yourself; you will politely end an unpleasant conversation or slide away from a fairly boring conversation.
We hit where it hurts wisely
An annoying friend continually touches you and picks on you, making unpleasant jokes and jokes, and besides, there are a lot of acquaintances and mutual friends around you.
To give a worthy rebuff, it is worth understanding the motivation and weak points of the person opposite.
After observing and understanding why a person is trying to make you look like an idiot, 90% of people understand that the lever that makes a person insult you is self-affirmation.
You can stop impudence with one well-calibrated blow. No, not with a fist, but with a word. Point out the joker’s most important complex and the more caustic, the more interesting and better.
The effect will not take long to appear and you will remain a winner, putting a bullet on the self-confidence of the offender.
The best defense is offense
Anyone can learn to be rude beautifully, correctly. A good option neat insults to those who offended you put pressure on the sore spots of your interlocutor.
Analyze his shortcomings and complexes, and then easily and naturally mention them between the lines.
Maintain your composure and jokingly point out your opponent’s sore spot. Try to watch your facial expressions, facial expressions and tone of voice.
Show that you are completely relaxed and friendly, and then proceed to make careful notes using a humorous tone or flattery.
If you don’t know how to send someone a beautiful message, phrases collected on the Internet will help you with this.
We send off a person without a swear word
Every cultured person is capable of losing control and self-control when the interlocutor crosses the line of what is permitted. But not everyone can send a beautiful message to a girlfriend or boyfriend so that it looks cultured and civilized. How to beautifully send a person without swearing, is this possible? You can give a positive answer with complete confidence.
The main thing is not to throw around sharp expressions or caustic words. Remember humor. With a sincere smile on your face, a pleasant joke on your lips, you can get rid of any unpleasant individual.
Basic aspects of a reasonable reaction to offensive words from others
Insults from others are inevitable. In everyone's life there is an acquaintance or just an outsider who decides to hurt or unpleasant in order to throw out their negativity.
