Good day, our dear readers! Irina and Igor are in touch again. Life is diverse and for each of us, it prepares something “of its own.” You can never even guess what awaits us in the future, not to mention the future. Often life prepares real “tests” for us: tests of our strengths, capabilities, faith, feelings or something else.
Such difficult situations either make us stronger or completely “break” us. Today we want to discuss the question of how to find a way out of a difficult life situation.
Emotions
Difficult situations happen in the lives of each of us, sometimes even too often. But this is not a reason to fall into despair or break up into thousands of actions at the same time. First you need to deal with your emotions.
You should not blame yourself for what happened or accumulate resentment towards someone else, as this will not bring you any closer to a way out of the current situation. But also accumulate in yourself negative emotions not worth it! Try to remove them in the safest way for yourself or others.
For example, go to Gym and show the punching bag “who’s the boss” or try to express your feelings in a painting, on paper, in the sand or using another creative approach.
The method of “shouting” is no less effective. Just try not to use it on loved ones or friends. It is better if you find the object of your angry scream among the stones in nature. You can even draw a face on the stone to make it easier to speak out.
Hardening
Everyone knows the phrase:
What doesn't kill us makes us stronger!
This is exactly the case here! Difficult situations appear in every person's life from time to time, and this does not mean that they should be feared or avoided. It just means that life “considers” you to be a strong opponent and wants to “test” the depth of your strength!
They say there is a simple truth:
Hard days don't come to those who can't handle them!
Remember this in difficult times. Remember that you should not give up even when it seems that “everything is lost.” Take the next difficulties of life as a strengthening element!
Respite
Sometimes, in order not to mess things up, you need a little break. You should abstract yourself from the problem and try not to think about it for a while. This measure is needed in order to see The best decision In current situation.
Go for a walk with your children or in nature, take time to meditate, or simply devote attention to a hobby that will distract you.
Such actions will help you “get away” from the problem for a while. And returning to it again will provide you with a “new angle” of viewing, which you can use to get out of this situation to your benefit.
Flexible plan
Does any “deviation” from the plan make you panic? Do you regard this as an emergency situation requiring large expenses?
In this case, you just need to improve your skills, structuring tasks and determining priorities. Pay attention to learning time management techniques that will allow you to become more “flexible” in making plans and controlling the time for their implementation.
You can get acquainted with these techniques using video courses:
- “The Master of Time – highly productive time management according to the system of Evgeniy Popov”
- “Time management, or how to increase your efficiency”
Flow
Some difficult situations may not lend themselves to analysis, or you cannot find a way out of such circumstances for a long time. In such cases, it is useful to let everything take its course.
Perhaps this approach will allow you to relax and discover an unexpected solution. Or the very “flow” of time will correct the current situation in your favor.
You don't have to spend this time aimlessly, think about possible consequences or about possible new difficulties. It is useful at this time to assess your strength, capabilities and energy reserves to withstand everything.
Knowing what can happen and what to do in this case will also be useful. For example, study the book by Leslie Garner, Brian Luke Seaward “Crises are life lessons. Life in harmony (set of 2 books)" .
Learn a lesson
All situations in life teach us something.
Difficult situations teach us even more than the entire school curriculum.
It is important to be able to highlight for yourself the most important lesson that life has taught you. It will become invaluable in terms of building and achieving in your life.
But this does not mean that the main idea of difficulties will be: “I’m not ready! I will never be able to do this!” No! It's just: “I'm not ready! I need more knowledge to pull this off!”
Never forget about learning and strive to learn more, for example, you can take a free online video course “Setting and achieving goals. How to achieve results in any business? .
How do you cope with difficult life situations? Do you prefer to find a way out or try to “go with the flow”? Share your knowledge.
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Best regards, Irina and Igor
A variety of, sometimes even unimaginable, situations can happen in a person’s life. And we cannot even imagine what awaits us tomorrow. In everyday troubles and worries, we rarely think about our security. Usually we begin to “cross ourselves” and “spread straw” when thunder is already thundering over our heads and we have to retreat not to prepared positions, but into unknown darkness. More often than not, it seems like you are falling into an abyss. In the song we all know, there are these words: “...love will unexpectedly come, and every evening will immediately become surprisingly good.” And when trouble unexpectedly strikes, what then? Then the sun fades for us, the earth begins to disappear from under our feet, and it seems to us that no one and nothing can help us.
When a person is unhappy, he becomes vulnerable and troubles “stick” like a magnet. Usually in such cases we say that trouble does not come alone. A confused person begins to be tormented by two primordially Slavic questions: “What to do?” and “Who is to blame?” More precisely, on the contrary: “Who is to blame?” and only then - “What to do?” As always, most of us begin to analyze the situation by looking for someone to blame for our misfortunes, rather than by constructive thoughts and steps.
My first rule that life taught me is that there is no need to look for those to blame, you need to forgive everyone, you can blame anyone, but first of all you need to blame yourself. Strength will be needed to search and fight, for the necessary exit and recovery.
You can blame the whole world for your troubles, then huddle in a corner and wait for everything to resolve itself. Usually they do this, because they do not try to deal with the problems that have arisen, but only try to “forget” them, putting them on the farthest shelf in the subconscious in the hope that a wizard will fly in and a miracle will happen, and the problem will disappear on its own. But nothing good will happen in this case. Therefore, parents must create a relationship based on the child’s trust in them in order to be aware of problems and always come to the rescue in time and indicate a way out of this situation.
You must pull yourself together. Get your act together. Start analyzing the situation. Call everyone you can for help. Never think that your problems are indifferent to your loved ones. After all, they love you and will definitely help you with advice and concrete action. There must be a person nearby who will lend their shoulder to you. Alas, this does not always happen.
The Bible says: “Forgive and it will be given to you” - remember? You need to ask not only your family, friends and acquaintances. First of all, pray for help to the Lord and your highest patrons. If you don't have your own temple, try to find one. If possible, go around all the temples that are nearby and you will want to stay in some of them.
Maybe you will find your place in an icon close to your soul, in the only temple near your home. You will find this place, your soul will tell you, it will definitely respond to it. The main thing you need to do is go and ask. Sincerely ask for forgiveness, help and intercession from your patrons. It is better to read prayers (and if you are an atheist, then affirmations) than to delve into sad thoughts or become discouraged. In other words, try to control your thoughts. If you are unable to think about something productive, read prayers and your consciousness will gradually begin to clear up, and the necessary decisions, ideas, assumptions and hopes will appear in your head.
You need to learn to relax emotionally and physically. Try meditation. You can relax in your favorite ways. You can concentrate your attention
Firstly, on how you breathe;
Secondly, how your body relaxes. First, tense all your muscles, and then relax. Do this gradually, starting with the soles of your feet and ending with the neck and facial muscles;
Thirdly, on some image or sound. Perhaps it will be the image of falling snow, which decorates the earth, or the sound of the surf. Robin Sharma's book "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari" describes the "admiring the rose" technique.
If you wish and with the capabilities of the Internet, you can choose many such techniques - choose which one suits you best. Yoga can help well, no matter where you practice at home or in a specially created club. Choose the exercises you like and perform them to the accompaniment of pleasant music. For relaxation, there are also special recordings with the sounds of nature: the sound of rain, the sound of the sea surf.
Water. Yes, ordinary water, or rather water treatments. Try to take the baths you like, for example, there are relaxing, soothing, pine, sea salt and aromatic oils, etc. Make a holiday for your soul and body, go to the sauna or Russian bath. Swim in the pool, feel like a goldfish, and through the strain on your muscles, your nerves and thoughts will come into order. A douche and a shower will help you relax, calm and strengthen you.
Walks. If you have someone to walk and talk with, that's good. And if there is no such interlocutor, it’s okay, you can take a walk alone. But choose a medium or fast pace of movement, it should depend on how trained you are, and come back with a little muscle fatigue. Choose a route so that you can walk by the river, in the park, or walk along quiet streets.
Good effect on our psychological condition plant care: planting trees, transplanting seedlings, weeding and other chores. If you do not have the opportunity to work in the garden beds, then look through books, magazines, catalogs on gardening and floriculture, and admire the beauty of nature.
There is another great way to distract yourself from difficult and unpleasant situations - watch your favorite movies, read books that give you pleasure.
If you have accumulated a lot of problems and your health has deteriorated, but you have no time to deal with them, start right now. You need to start with the course preventive treatment of your illness, even if there is no exacerbation. After all, it manifests itself in stressful situation when the disease is chronic, and then there is no point in postponing treatment.
Shopping is a great way to overcome the stress of difficult life circumstances; it is well suited for both women and men. We advise you to go shopping, find what you dreamed of (a unique set of knitting needles or a spinning rod for fishing) or spontaneously treat yourself to some incredible gift.
When you like something, buy it right now and be happy. And it doesn’t matter whether it’s gold earrings, a diamond ring, a stylish suit, tie, car or... a toy. Please yourself, but if the desire does not arise, then please your loved one, child or anyone around you.
You need to fulfill your intangible dream. If you have long dreamed of jumping with a parachute, walking barefoot in the snow, planting a garden, riding a yacht, standing on your head, giving away boring things, learning to play the piano, getting a turtle or a puppy, going to Venice or the countryside? Take action now.
The main thing is not to focus your attention on the problem, do not give yourself entirely to it, but realize the opportunity to put your thoughts and feelings in order. Analyze everything and take a reasonable step to resolve the situation or realize the need for your existence in other circumstances.
Through prayer, nature walks, meditation, pool activities, flower gardening, and watching your favorite movies, your mind will little by little lead you on the right path. All unpleasant circumstances will turn the other way towards you and then joyful and necessary events will begin for you. Your life will begin to change in better side, there will be a great opportunity and chance for success.
Thanks to the Lord's guidance, with the help of loved ones and your calm and positive mood, a door will open to you that you had not previously suspected.
This door will help you get out not only difficult situation, but will also become the entrance to your new, exciting, beautiful and happy life.
NATA KARLINHow many times do we mentally return to the time when we could have “laid down a straw”, but we didn’t do it. And now, we are faced with an unthinkable task - to find a way out of difficult situation. Our brain is feverishly looking for options for the development of events, trying to have time not only to find the treasured “door”, but also to act so as not to “lose face”.
For some, a hopeless situation is like a labyrinth in which a person wanders in search of a solution to the problem. For others, it seems that the ground has disappeared from under their feet, and they are flying into the abyss. Each person perceives it differently. However, always ask yourself the question: “What should I do?” But never look for those to blame for your problem. What happened to you, first of all, is only your own fault. Do not waste your efforts on unnecessary clarification of relationships, direct them towards making constructive decisions.
Remember how Nikolai Fomenko spoke about hopeless situations? Brilliant saying: “Even if you are eaten, there are always two ways out.” Therefore, remember the rules for getting out of a difficult situation:
You are already inside this problem, it is impossible to avoid it, and you will not be able to return to the starting point.
Ask your acquaintances or friends for help. It may be easier for you to tell your problem to a stranger who will give you good advice.
Many people are used to solving their problems on their own. If you are one of them, close the doors, turn on quiet music, and start looking for a way out. Don’t force yourself to “bow” to strangers. If you don't want anyone else to take part in solving the problem, don't. Do it all yourself.
Breathing exercises.
While looking for a way out of the situation, a person remains in a state. At this moment his blood pressure, heart beats wildly, sweating increases, etc. This is the time when your skills will come in handy breathing exercises(yoga, tai chi). It's good if you already know them, but it's never too late to start learning.
Nature has a relaxing effect on nervous system person. This is especially true for large open bodies of water. Therefore, try to leave all your worries and go for a walk to the lake. Sit, think, look at the surface of the water, the swans and ducks swimming on it. Try to plunge into the water yourself. If it happens in the summer, then a river or lake is suitable, if in winter - a swimming pool. As a last resort, lie in the bathtub with a few drops of vanilla and rosemary. Water helps you concentrate, discard everything unnecessary, and come to the right decision.
Physical training.
In order to feel in good shape every day, it is not necessary to exercise to the point of exhaustion. To concentrate your thoughts on the problem, engage in monotonous, uncomplicated activities. For example, clean out your home, garage, or storage room.
Have you given up embroidery or knitting for a long time because you simply didn’t have enough time for it? Find it now. Be sure to do something pleasant and useful for yourself. Finally, if you have never had this hobby, go to the cinema.
Be healthy.
Of course, there is no direct relationship between the search for a way out and the state of your health. But to make good use of the time you spend looking for a way out of the situation, health prevention is a good idea. Every person thinks that tomorrow or the day after tomorrow he will go to the doctor and improve his health, which has deteriorated over the years. But tomorrow or the day after tomorrow may never come. Therefore, choose the moment when you feel too sorry for yourself, so you need to do something pleasant for your own body.
Of course, men will laugh now. But don’t lie! They also like this feminine word. Buy what you've been wanting for so long. Treat yourself to your loved one, because today too much has been spent on finding a way out of the situation. Have you been staring at those red shoes in the window for a long time? Buy them, finally, stroke your pride. I like alloy wheels, which will look so great in overall design car? Don't deny yourself anything! The joy of the purchase is above all! And in the evening, when the euphoria subsides and only a feeling of deep satisfaction remains, start looking for solutions again.
Every person in this life has a dream of an intangible plan. For some, it’s going to the opera, others want to be on the ocean shore under the moon, others dream of finally going to their parents in the village.
Life is too fleeting, and dreams remain unfulfilled. Therefore, if you have the financial opportunity, drop everything and go to adventure or to mom and dad. At one point, you realize that it was this trip or hike that became the starting point from which the process began, during which you found a way out of a conflict or other unpleasant situation.
Now we do not mean people who have become your friends. Let's talk about pets. Every person thinks about having a pet. Maybe this is the moment? Today he will delight you with his presence, and will not let you down after stress, and tomorrow you will become for him best friend. Now you just need to choose who it will be - a puppy, a kitten, a parrot or silent fish.
Think about the problem, don't discount it. She won't go anywhere without your participation. After all, it is only yours, and no one can decide it for you. However, don't go vicious circle, don’t drive yourself into a corner, much less into stress. Try to align your thoughts
Ecology of life: Each of us has heard this phrase many, many times - “a hopeless situation.” Usually in such cases we are talking about something very unpleasant, which seems impossible to avoid.
Each of us has heard this phrase many, many times - “a hopeless situation.” Usually in such cases we are talking about something very unpleasant, which seems impossible to avoid.In itself, a “hopeless situation” is extremely convenient: here is a “hopeless situation” - that’s all, and nothing can be done. She’s like this, she’s “hopeless,” and I, good, white and fluffy, have nothing to do with it.
There are no questions, sometimes this really happens, but even in this case it does not at all follow that you are exempt from eliminating the consequences of the unfortunate “ hopeless situation", and maybe even the prerequisites for it. In the endit turns out that your “hopeless situation”: firstly, is not so hopeless, and secondly, it largely depends on you. Ilya Pozhidaevespecially for proposes to consider this issue using more or less typical examples...
Let’s imagine a situation: new management came to the company where you work and announced a massive “downsizing” of a number of employees, and you were among the unfortunate “downsized” people. Write “in your own way” and get out of the company.
The first reaction is, of course, shock and a feeling of hopelessness. But then you can pull yourself together and understand what is really happening. If the new boss is at least minimally adequate, then you can talk to him about what you can agree on. You'll see that everything will work out. You will stay, and without squabbles and scandals.
If a newly minted manager tells you straight to your face that someone’s son (for example, his) is being planned to take your place, but you still need this office, intimidate your new boss the prosecutor's office, the labor inspectorate and something else like that. Moreover, if you are a punctual and efficient employee without any complaints.The boss will be terribly scared and will leave you behind, guarantee – 146%. And the situation, which at first glance seems fatally insoluble, is in fact very solvable, and in a way that is beneficial for you.
Let's consider the hypothetical second “no-win” example - betrayal. It doesn’t matter whose: wife, lover, friend, relative, business partner, someone else. And it doesn’t matter what exactly this betrayal was expressed in. There is simply a given: you are faced with the meanness and injustice of a person who is not a stranger to you.
The situation seems hopeless, incorrigible, etc. and so on. But… First of all, this is a good lesson: You need to be at least a little more discerning in people. Secondly, this may be a chance to finally get rid of people who are not quite suitable or even completely unsuitable for you. Or maybe this thirdly, you did something wrong- then just understand that - and try not to act like that in your relationships with people in the future.
The third hypothetical “hopeless” example is that you were robbed or robbed. As you yourself understand, the likelihood that the valiant law enforcement agencies themselves will find the criminal is, to put it mildly, small. Stupor gives way to panic, panic smoothly turns into hysteria. A million was stolen. It would seem like a complete dead end. But no!
Firstly, it depends on you whether you will stir up the relevant competent law enforcement agency or not (believe me, they are afraid of complaints to the prosecutor’s office!). Secondly, when the thief is found (and with the competent work of the authorities, ensured, among other things, by you, the scoundrel will certainly be found), you can demand from the thief the money stolen from you. More activity - and it turns out that the situation again has a more or less favorable outcome.
In principle, you can continue ad infinitum. The general meaning is this: if you understand the ins and outs of the “unsolvable” situation that has arisen, especially the reasons for its occurrence, and at the same time competently and actively act in a constructive manner, then in reality there is little that is impossible.
Indeed, there is only one totally and obviously hopeless situation - death, including violent ones (although in some cases it also depends on you whether to wander around dark alleys or not). Well, sometimes there are other, extremely few, processes that develop according to some kind of internal logic and, accordingly, are completely independent of us. To declare that in general everything is in our hands is probably still somewhat arrogant.
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But in general, there is a solution acceptable to you in 99% of cases, no matter how catastrophic the problem may seem to you. But even if the development of events stubbornly sticks to that same ill-fated 1%, you can still extract some positiveness from it if you wish. At least in the form of life experience.And, for God’s sake, do not rush to declare the situation “hopeless”: there are actually very, very few “hopeless situations”!
An example of how to get out of a hopeless situation! A way out of a hopeless situation, where is it? Is there a way out of a hopeless situation? Many people, including you, once found themselves in what you thought was a hopeless situation, but then found a solution and everything was resolved. The most important thing is not to give in to panic, it is inside us and does not allow us to concentrate and relax in order to soberly assess the situation. The reason for writing this article was a call this morning from a woman who is a subscriber and reader of the legal blog - “RAA Law”. She told me about her difficult situation and we agreed that she would send me copies of some documents.
The reason for the call was my phrase, which I used on the page with information about the blog. This phrase shook the person into action and gave hope for a way out of her hopeless situation.
What is law?
A law is a situation described from the point of view of the law itself. If you change this situation in one direction or another, then the law will turn in one direction or another. Remember: - in a hopeless situation, there is a way out to another situation, and whether it will be favorable for you depends on how you prepare for it.
I thought for a long time about writing an article, like a cheat sheet or instructions for getting out of hopeless situations. But then I decided that I would just tell you my story (there are many stories, but I will tell only one).
Several years ago, my wife and I collected the necessary documents and submitted them to participate in the young family program. Then this program was just beginning or had already been launched a year ago, but that’s not the point. Literally a year or a year and a half later, I was passing by this office where we submitted documents. I decided to stop by and ask what my line was, because everyone was promised a certificate for a certain amount of money, depending on the number of people. In my case it was about four hundred thousand. Imagine this amount of money for free from the state. Of course, of course there is no freebie and there never has been. In every program, and even more so in the state very harsh conditions and deadlines. In my case, everything was like that. I won’t mince words, but get to the point. I did not meet the specified deadlines and did not submit documents for the apartment that I was supposed to purchase. As a result, those who did not use the certificate for a young family within the established time frame lost it. Naturally, I’m panicking, as I think. What should I do now, but I don’t want to lose money at all.
So much for the hopeless situation I found myself in. If you want to know how I found a way out of their hopeless situation, then read on...
At first I racked my brains to solve this problem, then my head started to hurt. Since I have been involved in real estate for more than 6 years, and in this area there is one positive point: it is better to come to an agreement than to suffer. Taking advantage of this rule, so to speak, I went to this office again. I explained my situation that I simply missed the deadline and now I’m afraid of losing the certificate for a young family (and you want to know how you can cash the certificate). Together with one woman, we found a solution, or rather, she suggested it to me.
What way out of a hopeless situation did they tell me?
Arriving home, I took the certificate for a young family and put it under running water, wetting it a little, but the paper is thick and does not immediately get wet. Then I rubbed this place with my finger so that the text and quality disappeared in one place (the place can be any).
Then he wrote a statement that when he came home he discovered a leak from the ceiling. As a result, water fell on the table where the certificate for the young family was lying. Then I took the written application and certificate to the office. There they accepted everything from me and after some time they issued a new certificate with an extended period for another period. It’s like I just received a certificate for a young family.
After that, I used the certificate for the young family program.
So ladies and gentlemen, it seemed like a hopeless situation, but it turns out there is a way out and I got it where the entrance is approximately located.
What hopeless situations did you find yourself in, and how did you find a way out of the hopeless situation? I, like many others who come to this page, where there is a way out of a hopeless situation, will be very interested in reading.
