If the guy said, let's remain friends
Don't be upset if this sounds strange and stupid to you, because at first glance, bad things always lead to better things. Probably, this is not your person and no matter how much you resist, but by leaving you, he made room for the most worthy, loving and real person. He realized this before you, that’s why he withdrew. There is no need to return it, do not cling to it. The pain will pass, it is needed so that you don’t make any mistakes next time and be a little more careful. In the meantime, you will calm down, analyze, think and draw your conclusions. Don't blame yourself that he didn't become the man of your life. There is no need to become the Snow Queen with an icy heart, he doesn’t deserve it.
Throw yourself into work, this is a proven method that helps you get out of your head. bad thoughts. Even if he returns, by then your feelings for him will pass or a new hobby will appear.
Take a trip somewhere. This could be a trip to a picnic or to a neighboring city, or a fashionable tour to exotic country, or a trip around the world, which will distract you from unpleasant thoughts about it.
Play sports. This refers to intensive sports, this best way to get all the nonsense out of your head and unwind.
Find a new hobby for yourself, it could be advanced training courses, extreme driving, macrame, and so on. Don’t sit idle for a minute and who knows, maybe this new hobby will prove useful to you in your future life.
Do you know what will suit you simply? This is self-care. Take on triple energy and do manicures, face masks, dance for half an hour in front of the mirror in the most beautiful underwear, turn on relaxing music and take baths with sea salt and with herbs. Don’t listen to a single song that will remind you of him, throw away any rubbish and dried flowers. Nothing like that should remain to remind you of your ex-lover. In this way, your wounds will quickly heal. Just throw yourself into the whirlpool of life. It will take you about a month to recover a little. Drive away the dead-end thoughts that he will understand who he lost and will return to you. This will no longer help, he has formed his own impression of you and he will not deviate from it.
Finally, I can add - look around, the world is so beautiful, and what you are experiencing now are only small temporary difficulties, you will soon overcome them and will remember it with a smile. Rejoice at fate that she divorced you from such a person. Your heart will definitely visit true love and the man who will be with you will be the best man for you.
Enough large number People have heard the phrase “let’s remain friends” at least once in their lives. Such words can be very unsettling and cause a significant blow to self-esteem. Is it worth putting an end to your communication after this or is this just a temporary obstacle, you need to figure it out.
The above may imply several scenarios for the development of your relationship:
- Complete absence of any intimacy.
- The person offers culturally, but is not seen at all.
- Possibility to separate, but on good terms.
Reasons there may be such a solution huge amount. Sometimes such words sound like a bolt from the blue. Maybe you were so in love that they just didn't notice existing problems. Now the main thing is to understand what and when it happened that the relationship ceased to be romantic or stopped altogether.
If these words came from a girl
Unfortunate 3 words can be heard at any time throughout the relationship. It is always worth remembering that the fairer sex unusual figurative thinking, which is sometimes completely inexplicable and incomprehensible. In this case, many can use the expression about female logic. Quite often, representatives of the fairer sex think for a long time before accepting final decision. So as not to offend you and to avoid causing a wave of negativity, the phrase “let’s remain friends” comes to the rescue.
What to do to change everything?
To try to renew sympathy you need to carry out a whole operation. The first thing to do is break all contacts with this person for at least six months, in case you were culturally abandoned. This concerns not only personal meetings, but and telephone and correspondence, try not to even answer incoming calls. Get over yourself to achieve the desired effect in the future. There is no complete guarantee that after this time the relationship will resume, the main thing is that you change and do first steps into a new life.
Take care of yourself Perhaps change your style of clothing, communication and increase your social circle. Improve yourself, attend trainings, start playing sports, any changes will only increase the chances of reciprocity. Next time you meet, partner certainly will notice yours reincarnation. When your relationship has smoothly flowed into a friendly direction, disappear for a few weeks and see if the person will seek a meeting with you.
If interest in you is renewed, now it's time to dictate your own rules. Make the person regret that he once rejected you, for example, make him jealous. Show that there are a lot of people around who are also not against starting a relationship with you and at this moment remind you that you are what these scenes are for. Only don't overdo it so as not to alienate the person forever.
Another option
This method is not suitable for inexperienced people; in order for it to work, you need to have willpower. It consists in systematic appearance and disappearance. When you hear the phrase: “Let's remain friends,” agree. Especially, If on the horizon a new candidate has appeared for the role of the second half. It’s just that if you take the previous method, there may be nowhere to go back to, so you can’t lose contact. Here need to include "friend", and without any possible hints of something more. Friendship should not be sluggish, try to spend as much time as possible together, for example, go to exhibitions, find a common hobby. During this time, a strong attraction should arise.
Now we move on to the second stage. When you notice interest to your person: constant calls, invitations to go for walks, it means everything was done correctly. Now I need to leave, and completely disappear for a while. During this time, you can change, for example, change something in your image. You also need to bring your loved one back into your life unexpectedly. Just come visit or call and ask for a walk as if nothing happened. When contact is not broken, you need to immediately try to take the relationship in a new direction, stop playing at friendship. Touch by accident, take your hand, any action that will bring you even closer will do. At such moments, you will definitely feel whether your partner is ready to rise to the next stage of your relationship.
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And also these “don’t touch me” are an attempt not to seem like an approachable woman and to relieve yourself of responsibility. It is very important for a girl not to seem easily accessible, it is important for her not to give (no matter sex or), but to be taken from her.
Let's remain friends, what should we do? Above, we figured out why this happens, and now let’s talk about what can be done. Ras you found yourself in such a situation. The situation needs to be corrected, and not slowly.
Let's clarify once again - you can hear words about friendship from a girl when time passes and you don't have sex with her, don't take her. That is, your communication does not go into another, bodily direction. Moreover, the more dates you have without sex, the greater the chances each time that you will not have sex with this girl at all!
These chances of not getting anything are growing in geometric progression. In general, understand, if you don’t have sex with a girl after the third date, then you most likely lost, and even if you still have sex later, then it’s not you, but the girl who will be the main one in the relationship, and this is, to put it mildly, bad.
The longer you've been friends, the less likely you are to leave your friends. Men come to my trainings, and some of them tell me, “You know, I’ve been friends with one girl for five years, how can I fuck her.” Of course, I am shocked by these words. I’ve been friends with my friend Alexander for about five years, but I’m thinking about how I can fuck him!)))). But we will talk about how to get out of a long friendship in other articles, but now...
Trust me, she will fight back very hard and try to put you in your place. Yes, there is a certain risk here - Either she will become your girlfriend, or you will lose her completely. But understand that you have already lost her if the girl offered to be friends.
What you need to do is call her and insist on meeting. Moreover, this is not a movie or a bowling alley, not a walk in the park, but a cafe, with sofas so that you can sit next to you (this is extremely necessary). This cafe should be intimate, not loud music, dim lights...
And there you begin to tell her that you really like her as a woman and that you are not going to be friends with her. But at the same time, your words should not just be empty, they should be supported by actions.
You just take her, turn her towards you and kiss her on the lips. I tell you again - there is nothing to lose! If it breaks off, then you’ll forget about it and that’s it. But friendship is nonsense, you will dream about her, and she will date someone else, and you will see it. Is this really better?
On my YouTube channel and here in the “Video” section you can find videos about how to touch a girl on a date.
And no matter how your hands shake from excitement and fear of losing her, you still start touching her. Grab yourself by the balls, you're a man!
The most best solution- If a girl offers friendship and I said let's stay friends, then my personal opinion is that the situation is completely lost. Of course, try, but I don’t want to get your hopes up too much. Most likely, seventy percent that you have already lost this match, even probably eighty, so you need to think.
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In this article you learned what to do if a girl said let's remain friends. It's up to you to draw conclusions, man.
Sooner or later, many of us had to leave. Love passed, tomatoes withered, bridges were burned, connections were severed. Some did it loudly, demonstratively and irrevocably, while others said with a smile and hidden cunning: “Let’s remain friends!”
And, of course, girls do this. Guys, even if they utter a fatal phrase, usually try to soften an already harsh blow. But they don't mean anything by it and don't really offer friendship. This is an excuse, a kind of intelligent way of saying: “I don’t love you, but that doesn’t make you bad, you’re still good.”
A man can hardly imagine how he can count on a girl from the position of a friend, rely on her and trust her if he is already disappointed in her - from the position of a partner. She no longer meets his high standards. This means that he will not be able to “pull” the status of friendship, especially since he is already biased towards it.
But for girls it's different. The moment of closeness and intimacy only strengthens the confidence in the female mind that she will have a stronger connection with her ex-boyfriend after the relationship. She believes that once she shared a bed, an apartment, a way of thinking and future plans with a man, she mastered complete mutual understanding with him, which, in her opinion, is so important for two friends.
But this is all theory. In practice, the girl is not interested in agreement and like-mindedness with her ex. She is interested in something completely different, which sometimes does not seem obvious to anyone - even to her.
Here's the thing.
“Let's remain friends,” she says in order to have a back door in her arsenal. By keeping her ex on the bench, communicating with him and keeping a close eye on his life, she gains a certain amount of power over his decisions, choices and beliefs. When a crisis comes in her life, the girl uses her knowledge to ex-boyfriend gave her the attention she needed—and not just friendly attention. She flatters, plays up the drama, but presents everything as a desire to receive ordinary support, and not a strong, familiar shoulder.
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Staying with your ex as friends after breaking up risks the fact that the man will remain under the influence of her “charms” for a very long time. He will have to explain his new girlfriends to his “friend”, laugh it off and feel a certain awkwardness during “slippery” conversations - which would not be the case with a real friend. And in moments of weakness (for example, intoxication or depression), this friendship is especially dangerous for both, because someone can accidentally blurt out too much: she is talking about why she needs him in the first place, and he is talking about how difficult it is for him to maintain balance in life. their new relationship.
A girl who breaks up with a guy, feeling unsure of her freedom, will definitely try to keep this man “in reserve.” Not in order to have an affair with him again or count on periodic, meaningless affairs (although this cannot be ruled out either), but in order to hear from familiar lips in moments of doubt, whom she trusts, that she is still wow . It's kind of a weak attempt at self-assertion.
Being in a relationship with a young man, the girl seems to internally prove to herself what she has achieved. She has wonderful man who loves her, what else is needed for life. But as soon as they part, she loses the trophy. And girls love collecting awards - it’s their hobby - and they don’t like it at all when they are taken away. Because they don't know how to lose. It is important for them to be the last to put an end to it: in a conversation, an argument, a relationship. And they want to decide for themselves when they let their exes go.
But this behavior only emphasizes the fear that a woman experiences in front of new life. She feels lost, lonely, unhappy, she probably doesn’t yet have a replacement for her ex, so “let’s remain friends” becomes a kind of transit point: neither love nor friendship, but for now it promotes self-confidence. Unfortunately, this phrase rarely gives birth to something truly useful for both; usually such relationships are only destroyed former partners, not allowing you to move on. And as a result, accept the pain, come to terms with it and use it as a valuable experience in the further development of the individual.
Of course, not all offers of friendship truly have double meaning. Sometimes it's a truly sincere desire to save important person in her life, and sometimes - an unconscious reaction that the girl will understand only after a while. But one way or another, “let’s remain friends” is said more often than it should.
