In this section, I will post articles, recommended books and, perhaps, just thoughts on how I see the opportunity to develop myself and develop my personality. After all, this is extremely important for a person of any specialty. And what can we say about such professions as manager and marketer - people who are constantly exposed to stress, periodic depression and creative crises.
In this first article, I will outline seven basic principles that I try to adhere to (90% successfully) for the development of myself as a specialist and a person.
1. Develop in everything
The first principle, paradoxically, is the acquisition of new skills and knowledge. It may sound strange, but there are no areas that I would not be interested in. Something more interesting, something less. It is impossible to know everything about everything, but you really want to ...
Read as much as you can. I use every opportunity to read something or listen to an audio book, report, article. Moreover, this applies to both scientific and artistic works. It may seem that this blurs the idea of the world and unnecessary information will interfere with focusing on the main thing. At first, that's how it was for me. But then, it turned out that all things in the world are interconnected, and by reading a book on psychology, you learn a lot about marketing and advertising.
I really like the expression that our knowledge is like a circle. What is inside is known to us, and what is outside is unknown. The larger the circle, the larger the circumference and the larger unknown and interesting we face. As our philosophy teacher used to say, the question WHY can be asked endlessly.
2. Soul and body must go together
We have developed a stereotype that there are two extreme points - a frail and helpless nerd, and a jock-athlete who does not know the multiplication table. This is fundamentally wrong. No, of course there are some, confirmation of stereotypes. But still, I am sure that every normal person should maintain a balance in this regard.
I came to this, I must say, not immediately. I also used to think that manual labor is harmful to knowledge workers. But it turned out to be the opposite. Several years ago I felt a serious advantage and any, even fairly simple physical efforts were difficult. On the other hand, in the evenings I often had a headache, and waking up in the morning, having slept for 8-10 hours, I got up already tired. This is precisely because of the lack of physical activity.
Also, let's face it. We don't do exercises not because of high moral principles, but 99% because of banal laziness, justifying ourselves with some kind of nonsense: oh, the weather is bad, I won't go to training; oh, I went to bed late yesterday, I will not do exercises today; oh, I'm late ... By justifying ourselves, we undermine our spirit and self-discipline.
So if you're a super nerd, it's time to start jogging in the morning. At the same time, you can listen to an audiobook if you are worried about wasted time.
3. Try new things
If you have been doing one thing for a long time, of course, your skills will be honed and you will become a real virtuoso in your field. But this does not mean at all that this is exactly what you should be doing all the time. Quite the opposite. Try something new, try to discover new facets in yourself. And even if you can't do it, don't be discouraged.
No, I am against the approach: you need to try everything in life (including drugs, fights with riot police, etc.). Yes, and forcing yourself to do against your will is not at all necessary (except for those cases when you know that you need it in life, for example, learning a foreign language, or the same physical exercise). But to discover a new genre, to visit places where you haven’t been yet, to do something that you didn’t do is still worth it.
And here people are so afraid of disappointment that they constantly try to do what they have already tried and achieved at least some success: they go to the same restaurants, communicate with the same people, go to the same resorts ...
4. Don't be afraid of failure
Many write about this, talk even more, but very few people use it in life. The fear of being misunderstood, funny, or just disappointment in their own abilities stops many and prevents them from doing great things.
Failure is just the valuable experience you get to get to the next level. I remember when I first came to tennis training, I saw how "grown-up guys" play there. With what force they hit, with what speed the ball flies, and they manage to react and beat off. Moreover, not just to beat off - but also to where it is necessary (on TV this does not make such an impression). Against their background, my attempts to hit the ball, the coach thrown over me looked not so much pathetic as ridiculous. But you know what? Nobody laughed. Time passed, and now I easily play with them on an equal footing, and even occasionally win.
But then every workout I had the idea to send all this to hell with words - nothing comes of it! It's not mine! I'd better go sit at the computer, I can do it better. But I didn’t do it, I endured it, and I don’t regret it at all.
This is a simple example, and I'm sure everyone can easily find many such episodes in their lives. Therefore, in the future, remember why we are falling ...
5. Think about the future
Another principle, which, alas, many people forget is thinking about the future. I do not mean bright dreams that 5-10 years will pass, and I will sail on my own yacht to my own island. I mean serious plans and ways of their implementation (of course, someone will have a yacht and an island, but there are still very few of them).
The fact is that I quite often came across the fact that people do not think at all about their future, even the short term. For example, they buy an expensive car or apartment on credit. However, their income cannot cover the monthly payments. Now we have the money - and then we’ll come up with something. And when that very "there" comes, they complain that the banks undress them.
But this is the simplest example. In general, you should have a picture of your future, and - quite specific, with dates and numbers. Then you can control your path to your dream. Well, for example, you want to buy the same apartment in 5 years. Do you know your income? What should you have in 5 years? How will it grow? Will you find a new job, or will your current boss appreciate you? For what? Will you get better at work? Perhaps you are missing something? Go to courses? Or is it a "temporary" job before a big "business". When do you plan to start it? Why? How much money?
It is in this vein that it is desirable to direct your thoughts.
Of course, you should leave room for unexpected accidents, otherwise it would be boring. But constantly living in the hope of an accident is somehow frivolous.
6. Know how to enjoy life
Work, ideas, future, hack, great projects - it's all great. But is this what you live for? Often people forget what all this is for. Remember: "do we live to work or work to live?" Don't go overboard. Enjoy life, travel, meet friends, go dancing, or do something else that really pleases you (walking in the rain, painting on the pavement with crayons, feeding wild ducks, cold beer in warm company).
Many people underestimate the importance of positive emotions in life. It has long been proven that people who do not know how to enjoy life (or can but for some reason do not do it) are less valuable workers than a positive person (in all respects).
No, of course I do not mean that you have to "forget to work." It also happens that everyone needs to turn on a workaholic and spend the weekend cleaning up their tails after themselves or a colleague. But if you still have a day off, you should not spend it at the machine (computer). Take up your hobby or whatever. I assure you, if you do not consciously direct your thoughts to work, this does not mean at all that your subconscious mind does not think about it.
It often happens to me that you sit all day, struggling with some task, and nothing. And then he passed out, sitting in the evening in front of the TV or in a cafe with friends and bam - an image of the solution to this problem arises in my head. Himself, and without any effort.
I think this is familiar to many.
In general, enjoy life, do what you like and always try to think positively.
7. Appreciate the people around you
And the last principle that I would like to draw your attention to is value the people around you. I mean EVERYONE: your relatives, friends, colleagues, just acquaintances. After all, one way or another - they support you, give you strength, help solve your problems, and just make you happy.
Alas, we often realize the importance of a person only after some serious or irreversible consequences (quarrel, illness or death). You shouldn't be led to that. Don't throw hurtful words in the heat of the moment. Don't hurt people. Remember that each phrase may be the last that this person hears from you.
And simply, appreciate people. Also, consider the unusual properties of emotions. Both negative and positive emotions tend to self-replicate and expand. When you shouted at a colleague, he feels bad, and your soul is lousy. On the contrary, they helped, encouraged - and it is easier for him, and your mood has improved.
Of course, this is not a complete list of principles. But still, I laid some foundation. I am sure that if you use at least them, your life will improve significantly, and, moreover, rather quickly and in all directions.
Finally, I would like to say a few words about luck. Many people believe that success largely depends on luck and there is no point in trying to do something, you just need to wait for your finest hour. So this is the wrong position. Let me give you a simple analogy. Let's say you are playing dice and you need to get a six. If the number of throws is limited, then the probability is 1/6, i.e. there really is an element of luck. And if not? What's stopping you from rolling the dice 6 times? 12? 100? You can roll until the six is dropped 5 times in a row!
It's the same in life. You can try to do something once. Or you can try again and again - and then you will not leave any chance for luck! She will simply have to love you!
Every day our world moves forward and develops with the speed of the wind. Many people strive to keep up with him and keep up with the times in order to live happily and comfortably. If a person does not strive to develop, he begins to degrade, which leads to unsatisfactory life and the habit of blaming everyone for his unhappy fate. To prevent this from happening, you should not stop there, but move forward and not forget your beginning.
What to do first?
Often people themselves understand that it is necessary to change in life and, first of all, to start with self-development. They are pushed to this by various reasons, falling in love, life problems, the environment and a dull one, from which they want to quickly get out. Your desire to change everything must be sincere and enormous, this is the only way you will succeed. If today you want, and tomorrow not, then the result will be zero, and you will remain at the same level at which you were.
Many live completely aimlessly in our world, and therefore they do not have any bright moments in their lives. For such personalities, all days are similar to each other. A person wakes up, goes to work, comes from it, goes to bed, and in the morning everything starts all over again. And in old age, he begins to understand that he wasted his time. Successful and rich people always achieve what they want with hard work.
Therefore, first of all, it is important to know what you want and learn how to correctly set tasks for yourself. When a person has his own goal, not imposed by anyone, then he will do everything in order to achieve the final result. He is inspired by a dream, so he will not stop at anything, naturally within reasonable limits.
A big mistake many people make is. They know what they want, but they do not take any action, they postpone everything until later until better times. This is absolutely impossible to do, because life does not stand still. You should hurry up and start making your goals a reality.
One of the rules of developing people is. They try to write down everything that happens to them during the day. Many people think that only little girls and young ladies are doing this, but this is just a delusion. With a diary, you can understand, analyze not only your actions, but also character traits. So you realize which area you need to pay more attention to and self-development.
Where to start your changes and development?
After numerous conversations with people who have managed to change their lives, psychologists have identified several important recommendations that will be very useful in starting to develop for other people.
One of the main tips for starting self-development is the daily routine. It is very important to learn how to stick to it on a daily basis. Make a plan for the whole day, from getting up to sleeping. Start small. , about 6 o'clock in the morning, and go to bed no later than eleven in the evening. Once you achieve this, you can safely add new items. A person must find his own biorhythms, because this way he loses vigor, strength and energy.
Hobby. People who have a favorite pastime develop gradually and evenly. The main thing is to choose exactly what you like the most, what brings you pleasure, freedom and good mood. It can be anything from playing chess to surfing.
Reading books and articles. We now take most of the information from the Internet, but we should not forget about the literature. Try to read every day not only interesting books in your favorite genre, but also switch to other topics. When you immerse yourself in reading, you get rid of negative thoughts and clear your mind of unnecessary worries, and when books are also motivating, it will help you and your strength.
Many people want to become well-rounded and well-educated in all walks of life. The concept of such a development originated during the Renaissance (Renaissance), therefore, a comprehensively educated person is called "a man of the Renaissance", and Leonardo da Vinci is cited as the most striking example. It is not easy to become a truly multifaceted person, but it is possible. To do this, you need to actively follow your hobbies and interests, get a variety of experiences and constantly work on your education.
Steps
Part 1
Have a varied experience- If you live in a big city, it will be quite easy for you to try new dishes in any cuisine. You can certainly find restaurants in most cultures: just search for what you need.
- If you live far from a metropolis, consider preparing your own food from different nations. In books or on the internet, you will find recipes that you can easily prepare at home.
- You can even set your table in a matching style by choosing the right crockery and napkins.
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Meet new people. Each person has his own opinion and his own view of things, which is formed on the basis of his personal experience. Meet new people from whom you can learn something new in order to become a more developed person in different areas.
Volunteer or just help others. Simple acts of kindness and helping others will miraculously affect and diversify your life. Volunteering will help you learn a lot and become a more developed person.
Part 2
Learn and learn again-
Educate yourself. An important factor in the development of a versatile personality is self-study, which is based on independent study of materials from different sources. Without new knowledge, you will not be able to develop, therefore, in order to broaden your horizons, first of all, you need education.
- For self-education, you can use many different sources. You can take lessons, read textbooks, watch educational and documentaries, or even just chat on some topic with another person - all this will give you new information and broaden your horizons.
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Attend training courses and other activities. You can continue your education throughout your life, attend seminars and lectures, receive additional professional education or undergo advanced training. The development of intelligence and skills will help you look at things from a different perspective, as well as become an interesting and comprehensively developed person.
Read different sources and media. Reading a variety of publications will help you understand opinions and views that differ from yours. This is the best way to become more developed and broaden your horizons.
Develop your opinion and point of view. Use new information and experience to form your own views on certain issues. A truly multifaceted personality is distinguished by the ability not only to receive knowledge, but also to use it in one's life.
- What is self-development
- Willpower
- Motivation
- Memory
- Time planning
- Discipline
- Psychology
- Self-esteem
- Self confidence
- Relationship
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- "Secret"
- "Pay another"
- Bruce Lee "Path of the Fist Leap"
- Lao Tzu "Tao Te Ching"
- Read another article "How to get rid of obsessive thoughts"
- Read at least one of the listed books, as well as other books on self-development.
- Take a basic course on creating good health, maintaining a resource state and energy for self-realization Biohacking: Implementation program
- After step 3, I recommend complete the training "Flashing"... Bring out your thinking speed, memory and reading speed at super speed in just 65 days, spending no more than 20 minutes a day.
- For those who constantly do not have enough time for all things, study course "Anti-time management"
- Gain knowledge of how to quickly recover from stress and switch from work to family or hobbies. NS go free marathon "Wake up the Reactive Brain"
- Les Hewitt, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen Life Whole. Teaches you to set realistic goals that are easy to achieve. You will be able to correctly prioritize;
- Dan Waldschmidt "Be the best version of yourself." This book can radically change your life. It tells how ordinary people become outstanding;
- MJ Ryan "This year I ..." This book will be useful to everyone, as it helps to change habits, keep promises made to yourself, and change your life for the better;
- Brian Tracy "Get out of your comfort zone." Worldwide recognized as the # 1 book on self-development. You will be able to step out of your comfort zone to achieve maximum goals;
- Kelly McGonigal “Willpower. How to develop and strengthen? " The author believes that willpower is like muscles that need to be pumped and strengthened.
Explore the world around you. Satisfying your curiosity by discovering the world around you is one of the best ways to become a more versatile person. Traveling, new dishes, new interests and hobbies will broaden your horizons and help you look at many things in a new way.
Try new activities. If you are interested in some activity or a friend invited you to join it, take it and try it: you will get new experiences and expand your horizons. Even if in the end you don't like a new activity, you will still become more knowledgeable in this area and generally versatile than if you decided not to try at all.
Join hobby clubs in your city, district, or school. Communication among them will give you the opportunity to meet a wide variety of people and opinions. In these clubs, you can learn different points of view, and this will help you become more developed.
Travel as often as possible. You can learn a lot of new and interesting things about different places, countries and cultures. While traveling, you will have the opportunity to meet new people, stories and opinions, which, of course, will affect your self-development.
Try new dishes. Don't be afraid to try unfamiliar cuisine if you get the chance. New foods, combinations and flavors will help you learn and appreciate someone else's culture and may even have a positive impact on your health.
What is self-development
Human personality is a fickle quantity. Over the course of life, it undergoes many changes, depending on what tests we endure and what tasks we set ourselves. And even living in the same rhythm and adhering to a stable schedule, we change. Often - not for the better, since the lack of development almost always leads to degradation.
Many people in their 30s and 35s have a personality crisis. At these moments, we understand that just living and working is not enough. That we want something deeper and more global from ourselves, that the minimums do not suit us, and that not everything can be measured with money and other tangible measures.
Someone comes to this earlier, someone later, and someone does not come at all. For some people, the trigger is shock, for others, insight occurs naturally and gradually. As a result, there is a desire to take the path of self-development, stop making demands on the world and start working on oneself, to engage in self-development.
What is self-development? This is a constant and complex process of working on oneself, developing one's positive qualities in various areas - physical, intellectual, creative, emotional, spiritual. Self-development is characterized by voluntariness and self-control, when a person learns new information and applies it in practice without any external coercion.
Why is it important to engage in self-development
Indeed, why all this torment? Learning new information, exhausting sports, constant stress ... After all, you can relax on the couch, watch TV series and enjoy "doing nothing". But idleness is an imaginary happiness, the reverse side of which is fraught with depression and disappointment in life.
Man is made like this: he needs constant growth, the search for something new. Stopping moving (not only in the physical, but also in the mental sense), he begins to degrade. Swimming is an example - in order to stay on the water, we have to make an effort. Having relaxed and lost control, the swimmer immediately goes to the bottom.
Take a look around and compare happy and unhappy acquaintances. What is the difference? Happy open a new business, study at trainings, go in for sports, travel constantly, learn something new. Unhappy people have been working at the same job for decades, have fun only with the help of beer and are constantly looking for those to blame for their failures.
The answer to our question is simple - you need to engage in self-development in order to become happy. Anyone who has set foot on this path understands that both the process itself and the results bring pleasure. And that this resource is inexhaustible, because the upper level of perfection simply does not exist.
Where to start self-development and self-improvement
The very, very first step that precedes any action is thought. Desire, idea - call it what you want. They are individual and are formulated differently for each. From the vague "I don't want to live like this anymore" to "I plan to learn five languages and earn at least one hundred thousand a month."
The first thing to do is want. And you need to want for a long time, persistently and continuously. At first, you will not understand how to get down to business at all, doubt your abilities, wander in the dark due to the lack of guidelines ...
Then the answers will start coming. They are manifested in a book that someone gave as a gift, in an unusual person, in new opportunities (for example, going on a multi-day hike with tents).
At this moment, you need to accept all constructive proposals and all unexpected challenges. But you yourself must constantly look for these answers, strive for them, and not sit idly by. Read articles on the Internet, watch videos on the topic of self-development, look for books, try some of the recommendations in practice. From all this, a methodology will begin to emerge, the first results will appear, and you will see your path.
This can take a lot of time - it all depends on the person himself and his starting position. A month will be enough for someone, while someone will be in search for a year or two. The main thing is not to give up and remember that the search will definitely be crowned with success.
8 reasons why people don't develop
It would seem that everything is simple - you take it and develop. You bought a book and read it. Or go to the gym, grab a barbell, and swing whatever you want. But no! If everything were simple, there would be much more people engaged in self-development.
There are many factors, the absence of which prevents us from improving.
Willpower
Psychologists have long argued about what willpower is, why some have it, while others do not, and what to do about it. We spent a lot of experiments and research and came to the conclusion: willpower is such a personal quality that can be developed like a muscle. And its presence is mainly determined by upbringing and habits inherent in childhood. Lucky for those who had disciplined and strong-willed parents who developed these qualities in their children. If this is not the case in the family, well, the path will be long, but everyone can do it.
In defining willpower as a concept, the important thing is that thanks to this personality trait, we can follow our decisions and do whatever is necessary to achieve our goals without succumbing to laziness, reluctance, or procrastination.
How to develop willpower? There are two main techniques: doing and not doing. Doing - doing unpleasant or boring but rewarding activities, such as exercising in the morning. Not doing is the deliberate refusal of harmful actions. For example, from smoking or overeating.
By the way, church fasting is precisely a practice aimed at training willpower: by refusing to eat certain foods, we learn to control ourselves. If you dig even deeper, it turns out that in all religions there are similar practices of refusal - from food, comfort, property, certain thoughts or actions. This is because the technique of not-doing strengthens willpower much more.
Willpower is a spiritual quality of the highest grade, one of the most important for a person. Having developed it, you can radically change your life. Have you heard the phrase: "I know how to do it right, but for some reason I do the opposite"? This is what people with undeveloped willpower say.
Motivation
Motivation is a powerful force. When a person really wants something, he is ready to move mountains. Did something go wrong? That means they wanted badly. After all, when you really want a cake, are you ready to go three kilometers to the night supermarket for it?
So what, it turns out, you need to teach yourself to want correctly? Exactly! Our cunning brain is aimed at saving energy, as Mother Evolution ordered. And he will come up with excuses to discourage his master from unnecessary work: “Well, why is this necessary? We already feel good! Oh, look, a new message in the messenger! Look, look, kittens in the picture! "
Therefore, you need to use cunning against the attitudes of your own subconscious, lazy and wanting only to have fun.
How to motivate yourself to work? First of all, you need to set the right goals, because even the best motivation will not work when you do not understand what you want, or set false goals imposed by society. For example, money or status. Listening to yourself, you may suddenly find that you really want to hitchhike or volunteer in Africa, and not spin like a squirrel in a wheel to satisfy other people's needs.
So, having set the correct goal, we concretize and visualize it. What business? What will you do, target audience, idea, team, slogan, thematic colors? What house? How many floors, is there a garage, basement, sauna, how many rooms?
For example, you want to start your own business, but have never done business. Create an environment in which you can understand how suitable such an activity is for you: for example, register withfree time management game"Your start" . This is a business simulator, where you can start and develop your business in a fun and safe way, having received a lot of useful information about entrepreneurship in the process.
After fleshing out and visualizing, we must remember our goal and its positive emotional components. Constantly imagine yourself doing interesting business projects or choosing curtains for the bedroom in your home. Think good.
Do not doubt your abilities, believe in victory and do not assume other options. People who have achieved high performance in life are often asked: "How did you manage to implement such a complex project?" In response, many of them say: "I made a decision that I must go this path to the end, whatever it may be."
Memory
Memory is very important for a harmonious personality. We need the ability to memorize information and operate with it all the time: in school, work and even entertainment. You can keep up a conversation only when you can tell something interesting. And how to do this if neither the plot of the book you have read, nor the twists and turns of your own journey hold in your head?
For successful work, memory is one of the main tools. The more a person achieves, the more information flows through him. How to cope with it if the "flash drive" does not hold large volumes? Write everything down? Well, no, this is not an option. Try it take the course "Flashing" in which you will improve your thinking speed, memory and reading speed.
Memory, like all other qualities, can be developed through exercise. For example, read,how to get smarter in 15 minutes a dayand put this information into practice.
Time planning
It is impossible to complete complex and multi-stage work without planning all its steps. This also applies to self-development. Anyone who wants to change their life for the better should have a plan for the year, month, week and day.
But you also need to be able to plan. Not everyone succeeds in making realistic and feasible plans the first time. Therefore, we recommend that you study25 time scheduling rulesso that this skill makes the job easier, rather than complicating it.
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Discipline
Discipline is another whale of self-development that you cannot do without. All practices aimed at improvement require constant and routine repetition. Anyone can go for a run once, hold out for a week - every third, and only a few can turn running into an integral part of the schedule.
Discipline is necessary both in order to give up bad habits, and in order to adhere to the daily routine, and for accustoming yourself to proper nutrition.
You also need discipline in order to fight one of the worst enemies of development - laziness. Finding the answers to the questionhow to overcome laziness, we are getting closer to our goals.
Psychology
Our results are highly dependent on thinking and attitudes. If you think "I still won't succeed," then it will. If you consider all rich people to be thieves and villains, then you will never become rich - we do not want to be bad. If you are sure that "all men are goats", then such a companion will meet.
How to think and what to think is up to us. Find out,how to think effectively- and you will save a lot of time and effort that was spent on self-digging, worries and destructive emotions.
Self-esteem
A person accepts only what he considers himself worthy. Everyone sets the level of income, attention of the opposite sex and other life criteria for himself.
Unrealistic self-esteem (overestimated or underestimated) prevents its owner from realizing himself in life. We commit illogical actions and make a choice in favor of failure, subconsciously believing that this should be our destiny. Failure, suffering, dealing with toxic people are all the choices of a person with unhealthy self-esteem.
To fix the situation, you need to understandreasons for low self-esteemand try to eliminate them. Often they are hidden in deep childhood, are associated with the divorce of parents or bullying at school - it is very difficult to let go of such things, but it is necessary.
Self confidence
I will succeed - successful people keep repeating to themselves. They are confident that they can achieve more, and even in the event of failure, they continue to believe that they will succeed, but next time.
The most important human resource is himself. You need to trust yourself, believe in yourself, respect yourself and love.
But how many people hate themselves ... They do not even want to buy beautiful clothes for themselves, because they "did not deserve it." Before you start developing, you need to find the answer to the question:how to love yourself? Self-improvement is impossible without self-love ...
A harmonious personality is strong at the same time in all life planes. To develop yourself evenly, you need to draw up a step-by-step plan, which will include all the main vectors of growth.
This plan is different for everyone. One solves integrals in his head, but has not yet learned to build relationships with the opposite sex, the second throws a two-pound weight with one left, but at the same time has read only one book in his entire life. And the third one may come to the understanding that he really does not know how to do anything and has not developed any of the vectors.
When building a plan, you need to take into account all areas, but at the same time perform supportive work where you have already achieved success (so as not to skew in the opposite direction) and devote more time to those parties that are not yet developed.
Spirituality is a complex and multifaceted issue. We will not talk about religion and philosophy now, these are too complex topics to discuss now. Let's talk about those aspects of spirituality that make the person himself happy.
Gratitude. Having learned to be grateful for every little thing, we always feel joy, even in difficult times. A grateful person will be able to find a ray of hope in the fluttering of spring leaves and the kitten's games. He easily forgives the shortcomings of loved ones, remembering that they were there when help was needed. Gratitude is wealth.
Love. To love unselfishly, without possessive habits, of course, without demands, is a high art. It gives you joy, just like playing your favorite instrument or contemplating the ocean. True love knows neither fear nor pain.
A spiritual person always feels responsible for his actions, lives consciously, strives to be better. He does not lose faith and does not allow himself to fall into despair, strives to learn about the world and be free from passions, addictions and negative thoughts.
What is meant by the words "personal growth"? This is the improvement of indicators responsible for intellectual activity and the wealth of the inner world, an improvement in the quality of life at the mental level. Achievement of goals, positive thinking, development of memory and intelligence - all this is included in the concept of personal growth.
To make it completely clear, I will say that the results of personal growth will forever remain with us, even if we turn out to be a complete bankrupt without a roof over our heads. A mature person will have enough knowledge and skills, fortitude and motivation, determination and self-confidence to withstand the most difficult situation. A person with low personal indicators is dependent on material property, therefore, he lives in fear of losing what he has.
People who have gone through illness or have lost the ability to work, like no one else acutely understand the importance of health. You can work, study, develop, love and learn about the world only if you have the strength to do so.
Young people often neglect their health. It seems to them that they will always be strong, no matter how they eat, drink alcohol or smoke. In adulthood, feeling the consequences of their frivolity, they grab their heads and bite their elbows. Someone thinks over in time, and he succeeds in restoring health, but it is often too late.
We have enough information and understand wellhow to be healthy... We know perfectly well that you cannot indulge bad habits, overeat, work until exhaustion, and be nervous a lot. But do we use this knowledge so often in practice?
The problem of modern busy people is especially common - they do not know how to rest properly. But rest is the key to productive work. Breathing exercises, meditations, relaxation in nature, voluntary loneliness, quality sleep are moments that need to be given enough attention.
It is imperative to introduce physical activity into your life, at least walking in the park. We are not talking about professional sports - it is more a traumatic activity than a useful one. But light physical activity brings the body into a state of vigor and gives energy. Let it be dancing, badminton, cycling - whatever is fun. The main thing is that they must be regular.
Relationship
Each has its own type of relationship. They are different, but they equally require constant work: building a framework, expressing love, caring, spending time together. Unhappy is the one who makes a lot of money, but does not see how his children grow up.
Relationship with another person is very important - yourself. Actually, it is with them that the building of all other connections begins. One who respects and loves himself knows how to respect and love others. Anyone who cannot find a common language with himself will never make friends with the rest.
All people need to fulfill their potential at work, to benefit others, and to do something they are proud of. This is such a deep need that ignoring it makes a person unhappy, even if outwardly everything is going well for him.
Therefore, it is important to choose a business for career development that is fun and enjoyable to do. When you wake up with the thought: "Hurray, today there is so much interesting work!", The issue of money and promotion will be solved by itself. Or go for a free marathon
Of course, not everything in this world can be bought for money, and in general, their role is too exaggerated. But without them in any way. Having financial freedom, we feel calm and confident, we can afford to travel, spend money on cultural and mental development, eat right, provide for our family, and help our parents.
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Most of us are self-employed. In such a job, you can get a good income, and especially if you are a good employee and constantly move up the career ladder. But this is far from always the case, and many specialists, having reached the career ceiling in any organization, come to the conclusion that it is time to go free floating. You just need to understand how to start correctly.
To do this, you can gofree training to help start your business... By working for ourselves, we can achieve much more in the financial sector.
How do you spend the New Year? I'll try to guess: put the tree down, set the table, buy champagne and, to the chimes, clink your glasses, making wishes. There are daredevils who break the system to smithereens - they do not cook Olivier and herring under a fur coat.
Why not order an escape room for the whole family? Or go to the forest, light a fire and dress up a real tree? Or create some more madness?
And I would like to, but we do not know how, right? So it turns out that our imagination is enough to give up on Olivier at the New Year's table.
Many interesting adventures and unprecedented undertakings do not require serious expenses, physical preparation and a lot of time. We just don't have enough ideas. In order to turn into a person rich in inventions, you need to know how develop creative thinking.
Making your life colorful is not as difficult as it seems. This is not a whim and not a luxury - our soul and brain need emotions, impressions, joy, delight. All this makes our personality richer, nourishes like a sweet elixir.
In the process of self-development, not only attitude is important, but also the quality of information. We mainly draw it from books and films, which we will talk about below.
10 best films for self-development
Films useful for development can be roughly divided into three categories: fiction films, where deep philosophy and motivation are hidden, documentaries, where you can learn more about the world around us, human psychology and the path of civilization; and biographical - about people from whom you can take an example.
You can bring a wholelist of biographical filmsabout outstanding people, but I can only remember one thing: this is an Air Force documentary about the greatest scientist who discovered many of the laws of physics. He figured out the nature of light and gave us the law of universal gravitation. But what kind of person was Newton that allowed him to become the most enlightened mind of the era, and what secrets did he hide?
A film starring the consummate Jim Carrey. This story is about a loser named Karl Allen, who passes by life. Karl always answers "no" to all proposals and is content with the existence of a hermit, because he is afraid even to leave the apartment. But an event happens that forces Karl to say "yes" to any, even the most insane proposal. And this is where his new life begins.
A comedy tape about life priorities and how important it is to be attentive to your words. The main character in the role of Eddie Murphy brings a special charm - that's really who can chat endlessly and with great speed. The successful literary agent Jack McCall, who knows how to persuade even the dead, overshadows family and love, gives all the time to a career and money. But after learning that there are only a thousand words left in his life, and having said the last, he will die, Jack begins to think about what is more important to him.
We can see the beauty of wild nature in all its scale, and the traces of the development of the planet by man - so small from a bird's eye view, but so globally changed the appearance of our House forever. Who are we, and what is the role of each of us in the destruction or creation of the Earth? Are we ready to take responsibility for preserving our monastery?
"Secret"
"Secret" - a documentary interview film about how a person attracts events with the help of thought, about the power of desire and the materiality of information. The film consists of a series of interviews with different people, setting out the philosophical basis of the "law of attraction" using examples from their own lives.
"Pay another"
"Pay another" - a touching film about the boy Trevor, who came up with an interesting system of mutual assistance. He did good deeds absolutely disinterestedly, but at the same time he asked to “pay another,” that is, to do good to a stranger. So the chain of good deeds grew and went not only outside the city, but also outside the state. One child changed the lives of many, and it makes you think: after all, we can also change the world, you just need to want.
A mystical and deeply psychological film based on the book of the same name by Stephen King. It tells about the last place of prisoners, where they are prepared for execution. Death is in the air, everyone becomes real in front of her face: someone demonstrates nobility, someone - baseness of spirit. Stay true to yourself and help even your executioners - only a strong person is capable of this. It is he who changes the worldview of everyone who meets with him.
10 best books for self-development
It is known that the most successful people read a lot, and mainly specialized literature - on psychology, self-development, and their profession. Fiction books should be read too - they enrich our vocabulary and develop our imaginations.
You need to read a lot and regularly - it is advisable to draw up a schedule for yourself and designate reading norms for each day so that the work moves in the same rhythm. Your schedule should includelist of books on meditation, psychology, business and finance, history of the country and the world, biographies, philosophical literature and motivating books.
And in order for you to be able to cover large amounts of information without much stress, we recommend taking a free course"Reactive brain" ... Its developers took speed reading techniques as a basis and enriched them with exercises to speed up thinking and structure information.
The author of the book independently walked the path to success from scratch. Even before completing his studies at school and starting his work with the profession of a laborer, he became the vice president of the company. By researching his own experiences and the stories of others, Brian Tracy became a renowned psychologist and has written numerous books on success and how to achieve it.
Mark Manson " The subtle art of indifference: A Paradoxical Way to Live Happily "
Have you ever wondered how much resource we spend on being nervous, worrying, suffering from setbacks and worrying, painting pictures of the future. Our nerves and emotions also require energy, and when we stop worrying about the inevitable, we free up a lot of time and energy for work. Mark Manson's books teach us how to achieve a goal without braking ourselves with unnecessary emotions, and move on even after the most epic failures.
Carlos Castaneda"Journey to Ixtlan"
Long ago, in the 1960s, in the vastness of Mexico, anthropologist Carlos met don Juan, a Yaki Indian, who turned out to be a magician. He passed on to his new student all the knowledge, and Castaneda wrote them down in the form of field notes, published later in ten volumes. We do not urge you to read all ten, but here is the third volume, "Journey to Ixtlan"- we recommend. It contains an extract of don Juan's philosophy - the path of a warrior, relationship with the world and oneself. The concept of a sense of self-importance is important, which slows down a person in achieving goals. Tip: take the book itself as a fairy tale with morality, since the main thing in it is philosophy, not the plot.
Regina Brett "God Never Blinks: 50 Lessons That Will Change Your Life"
Autobiographical book American journalist who managed to change her life and make her dreams come true in a situation from which, it would seem, there is no way out. A girl from a family of 11 children, Regina went through difficult trials in life and managed to cope with them. These tips are about how to learn to live with your past and let go of grievances as you move forward.
Robert Kiyosaki: "Rich Dad Poor Dad"
It is always interesting to read the books of people who have lived a bright life. Robert Kiyosaki has been a Marine, a pilot, a sales agent, a businessman, and a teacher. Today he is a successful investor and writer whose books have become bestsellers. He teaches not how to make money, but how to change your thinking, because it is this that is the main key to wealth. We highly recommend reading his book. "Rich dad, poor dad" to change your life for the better.
Bruce Lee "The Way of the Leading Fist"
Who hasn't heard of the legendary Bruce Lee? We know that he was a martial artist and famous actor, but we forget that he was also a philosopher and reformer in the field of martial arts. His notes were published in 1975, after the death of the author. It seems that they are devoted to martial arts, but in reality they are full of deep reflections on the development of the warrior's personality.
Kelly McGonigal " Strength of will. How to develop and strengthen»
We have already talked about willpower and its importance for development, and now let's pick up a book about the method of educating this property in ourselves. Psychologist and teacher Kelly McGonigal I carefully studied this issue and came to the conclusion that in attempts to develop willpower, we are often guided by false ideas and are held captive by stereotypes. This book tells about the research of experiments, about the people who applied Kelly's advice in practice, and the results they were able to achieve.
Lao Tzu "Tao Te Ching"
This book is not in vain at the very end - it is better for immature minds not to mess with it. Lao Tzu is an ancient Chinese philosopher who is credited with the authorship of a treatise on two principles of life: Tao and Te. It's better to read it little by little., several proposals a day. You can study Lao Tzu all your life, but you never fully understand it. Therefore, do not be alarmed if at first his sayings will seem like sheer rubbish. Even one meaningful idea from the treatise will bring many practical benefits to the reader - for example, about non-action as an important component of activity.
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Everyone has ups and downs in life, and often we blame others for our failures, fate, but we can not see our shortcomings point-blank. In order to change something in the world around you, you need to start, first of all, with yourself.
One day you will ask yourself the question - "where to start working on yourself?" Self-improvement is a delicate matter, you need to approach it very competently so that at one moment there is no desire to give up everything.
The wheel of life - as a strong motivation on the path of self-improvement
If you do not know where to start self-development How to choose the right path for yourself, first you need to understand where you are at. The Wheel of Life is a system that helps you analyze your level of success.
To do this, you need to draw a circle, divide it into 8 sectors:
- career and business. Do you enjoy your work?
- finance. Are you satisfied with your salary? Do you have enough funds for material independence?
- friends and entourage. Does the environment help you develop? What do you get from communicating with friends?
- family and love. Is there harmony in your relationships with loved ones?
- health and sports. How good is your health? Would you like to make your body attractive and lose weight?
- entertainment and recreation. Are you organizing your vacation correctly in order to not only recharge your batteries, but also get something useful for yourself?
- education and personal growth. What knowledge have you acquired in order to develop and improve yourself?
- the brightness of life. Are you satisfied with your life? Are there enough bright, memorable moments in it?
Each sector is your life value, which is necessary in order to feel the happiest. Thus, you will put things in order in your goals and you will better understand what you need to strive for. Also, do not forget to write what exactly in each sector you lack for complete happiness.
Each sector must be rated on a 10-point scale. You must be as honest with yourself as possible. No need to look for excuses for your saggy tummy or small salary. Just finally admit to yourself that everything is bad in these areas and you need to do something about it.
After that, connect the points on the scale with a line. If the shape in the center resembles a circle, then you can only be congratulated. You are in complete harmony with yourself and with the world around you.
If you get a curved figure, you can see which sector you need to work on in order to achieve harmony and happiness. In addition, by tidying up one sector, you can positively influence other parts as well.
After analyzing each sector, you must set global goals for yourself, which need to be broken down into several small ones and already confidently strive towards them. In addition, the goal should be achievable, so be realistic and do not try to become slim, like Angelina Jolie, and find yourself a prince in the person of Brad Pitt.
Keep a diary and write down what you have achieved, every little victory. For example, you have given up on unhealthy but tasty food. Praise yourself for this.
A positive outlook is half the battle
Personal development cannot be achieved without a positive outlook on the future. If you think all the time that you will not achieve anything, that there are no results, thoughts will swarm about giving up everything, you will never achieve anything.
You should meet every day with a smile, rejoice at even the smallest victories, see positive in everything, notice changes in yourself.
Of course, thoughts alone are not enough for human self-development. Actions are important. At first, 30 minutes a day is enough - to read a book, to learn something. You can even just not sit on social networks or watch TV in the evening, and this will already be a victory and the first steps on the way. self-improvement.
Literature for self-improvement
Self-development books are another step towards improving your personality. There are many primary sources, like the Bible or books on the teachings of the Tao, but they will be incomprehensible to many.
There is a mass tonight books for self-development. We present you a list of some of them:
All books have one main meaning - self-development never ends. You can work all your life on the formation of your personality, make your life bright and unforgettable. Each of us strives to be better, but this quality must be used competently.
A few rules for self-development
Every person lives in their comfort zone, and often we are afraid of something new and unknown, which is why it is so difficult, and sometimes scary, to change our lives. The process of self-development must be turned into a habit so that you never go astray.
Where to start self-development? Plan Simple steps will help you gradually develop this habit:
- life depends directly on our desires and actions. Nothing is impossible in it. Never tell yourself that something is impossible to do, just think about what it takes to make it achievable;
- break the path to the main goal into several small ones that are easy to achieve. Once this becomes a habit, you can set more goals for yourself;
- In the evening, think about everything that happened to you during the day. Write down your successes and failures. If you did something wrong or that you didn’t succeed, think about what would change if you did it differently.
Do not forget that self-improvement is a difficult path, but very interesting. If you once decide to change your life, stick to this idea always, and believe that the result will meet all expectations. Always look at life, successes and failures with a positive, and then you will definitely succeed.
